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Original poster

To wonder if all men are just mardy arse spoilt bastards??

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ricecrispies16 · 27/12/2016 23:49

Or is it just mine?

He's grown up around women - his mum, softer than soft - wiped his arse for him up until 2 years ago when I met him - 3 sisters, all of which worship the ground he walks in and he can do no wrong because he's the baby of the family... well somehow now he's my baby to deal with and I can't be arsed with it. I can't work out if I'm just being ignorant or he really is just a spoilt twat?!

My 9yo nephew is here with me for a few days starting today - going through an awful lot at home, social services involvement etc dp comes home all is well until he gets up to do something, comes back a few mins later and nephew has come back to the lounge and sat in the seat dp was in. I hear dp asking him to move, I ask what's up, dp says it's nothing. I go back out and when I come back nephew has moved and dp is sat there. I asked if he'd made nephew move, he says again "I was sitting there" so I explain that he wasn't sat there so nephew chose to sit there, he shouldn't have made him move. Dp then gives a loooooong sigh and starts to move saying here you sit there if it's really that important. Then falls out with me.

I just feel like it's as though he thinks children are below him. This isn't the first of incidents like this.

Was it me being unreasonable?

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LagunaBubbles · 28/12/2016 00:13

Ask yourself, what sort of vile shit speaks to a child like this

Like what? Asking him to move? I would have to. Now he may be a mardy arsehole, shit etc but not because he asked a child to move! Hmm

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 28/12/2016 00:13

Is your OH Chandler Bing?

Massive LOL at "vile shit". You'd hate me. Today DD (3.5) was sitting on My Seat (on purpose as she likes to 'tease me' as she calls it) and I did a OTT cross face and said "move your stinky bottom off my chair now". She laughed her head off, but I'll be sure to save up for therapy now Grin

WorraLiberty · 28/12/2016 00:15

Then perhaps you should chill out OP

If I got up from my chair for a few minutes, I'd ask whoever 'jumped in my grave' (because yes, that is an expression) to move too.

I can't believe you stuck your beak in from being in a different room.

And at the same time, have the audacity to moan about other women treating your DP like a child.

Original poster
ricecrispies16 · 28/12/2016 00:15

And, fair enough, no big deal asking for seat back but what's with the big display of a long sigh and "fine have it if it's THAT important" I don't think there was a need for that comment, can only assume that it would make my nephew uncomfortable. I presume it did as when I took him up to bed he asked what's wrong with dp

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CherryChasingDotMuncher · 28/12/2016 00:16

when asked to move what did your nephew say?

PovertyPain · 28/12/2016 00:16

Holy fuck, I'm really seeing why some children grow up entitled! 😮

Op, you're complaining about the way your husband was pandered to and you're going exactly the same to your nephew.

Postchildrenpregranny · 28/12/2016 00:16

Do you not watch The Big Bang Theory ?

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 28/12/2016 00:17

Then perhaps you should chill out OP

I agree.

You say there was 'no need for that comment' tbh there was no need for you to get involved at all.

Original poster
ricecrispies16 · 28/12/2016 00:18

Hoooooolllld on..... I didn't stick my beak in, I overheard.

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WorraLiberty · 28/12/2016 00:18

And, fair enough, no big deal asking for seat back but what's with the big display of a long sigh and "fine have it if it's THAT important" I don't think there was a need for that comment, can only assume that it would make my nephew uncomfortable. I presume it did as when I took him up to bed he asked what's wrong with dp

Oh yeah because you didn't make the child feel uncomfortable at all, by appearing from another room and pulling your DP up in front of him....

If you hadn't have done that, he probably would have just moved and not given it a second thought.

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 28/12/2016 00:19

OP you kind of did stick your beak in by going in there to check what your OH had said. I'd be pissed off if DH was 'checking up' on me TBH!

PovertyPain · 28/12/2016 00:20

I agree Worra.

Jellybean83 · 28/12/2016 00:20

Surely that comment only came about due to you getting involved? I doubt your nephew even cared that he was asked to move.

Mynestisfullofempty · 28/12/2016 00:20

I agree with Worra's posts.

WorraLiberty · 28/12/2016 00:21

Yes you did stick your beak in.

I've overheard lots of conversations in my life that I didn't feel the need to come sweeping in and start questioning people.

I go back out and when I come back nephew has moved and dp is sat there. I asked if he'd made nephew move, he says again "I was sitting there" so I explain that he wasn't sat there so nephew chose to sit there, he shouldn't have made him move.

That ^^ was nothing to do with you, so yes you did stick your beak in as the complete non event, was over at that point.

HemanOrSheRa · 28/12/2016 00:21

I guess we see this situation differently Worra. I think OP may have worked very hard to get a visit with her nephew and doesn't want her shithead DP spoiling for her.

RebelRogue · 28/12/2016 00:22

Op a lot of i assume,presume,don't like and accidentally overhearing. Honestly,do you even like your oh?

Original poster
ricecrispies16 · 28/12/2016 00:22

My logic is he's going through enough just let him have the sodding seat

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Daisyfrumps · 28/12/2016 00:23

Why should my nephew move?

I agree. He shouldn't and children shouldn't be treated like 2nd class citizens.

If your boyfriend stared at an adult female who unwittingly sat down in 'his seat' and said "I was sitting there" everyone would agree he was indeed a mardy arse spoilt bastard.

Presumably nephew is staying for refuge if social services are involved and might be feeling sad / confused / vulnerable. All the more reason not to be ordered around.

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 28/12/2016 00:23

big display of a long sigh and "fine have it if it's THAT important"

I'm confused now Sorry OP did your DH actually make him move or did he let it go but huff about iT?

Original poster
ricecrispies16 · 28/12/2016 00:23

I do like him, of course I do. Just think he's spoilt at times

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WorraLiberty · 28/12/2016 00:24

Yes Heman what an utterly vile shit head he is.

And what utterly vile shit heads lots of us on this thread are, for daring to ask for our seats back, that we've only left for a few minutes.

If I roll my eyes any harder, they're going to need their own passport.

Original poster
ricecrispies16 · 28/12/2016 00:25

He'd made him move when I'd left the room, then came the big sigh and comment when I said he shouldn't have done it

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RebelRogue · 28/12/2016 00:25

If I roll my eyes any harder, they're going to need their own passport GrinGrinGrin

Worra you crack me up.

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 28/12/2016 00:25

I don't think telling anyone to move from their seat to another seat is treating them like a second class citizen.

Telling them to sit on the floor even though there are free seats however would be.

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