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To be worried about lack of pregnancy symptoms?

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PollyCazaletWannabe · 22/12/2016 05:16

I'm 6 + 6 with my first baby at the age of 37. DH and I are so happy but I can't help worrying :( All the books and websites I have read state that I should be experiencing morning sickness by now, but I'm not at all! The only symptoms I have are tiredness and frequent trips to the loo. My breasts don't even seem to be growing that much :( can anyone advise me about whether this is something to be anxious about? I haven't had any scans yet and was planning to do so in the first week of January (I live abroad so the booking in system is a bit different). Help! I'm awake and anxious that there's something wrong with my baby :(

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Coldhandscoldheart · 22/12/2016 05:21

You may be lucky and have no morning sickness!
Tiredness is very definitely a symptom of early pregnancy, I was totally floored for the first three months of my first - be prepared to let your housework slide/have your husband pick up the slack. I literally made it to work and back and not much else for about ten weeks.
Last time my breasts ballooned (on top of already being enormous - that was fun) but this time don't seem to have as much.
Try not to worry, look forward to your scan.
All the best.

CheeseFiend36 · 22/12/2016 05:25

Hello. I had no sickness whatsoever during the whole pregnancy , no nausea or feeling "off" about anything. My boobs also didn't grow until about 8 months (and even then, it wasn't a huge amount, they only really swelled when I actually gave birth)
Try not to worry, if your midwife is having a feel regularly and your baby is growing ok/giving a good heartbeat then the chances are that your baby is fine

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PollyCazaletWannabe · 22/12/2016 05:27

Thank you coldhands. Hopefully it does just mean I'm lucky but I have read that lack of morning sickness can indicate an increased risk of miscarriage :(

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PollyCazaletWannabe · 22/12/2016 05:28

Thank you cheesefiend. I guess not having had a scan yet isn't helping my anxiety levels!

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Tootsiepops · 22/12/2016 05:29

One of the things that nobody cares to mention about pregnancy is that not everyone gets all (or any) of the symptoms, and, that the symptoms you do get can fluctuate or come and go all together.

I spent my first trimester shitting myself and my google history was like:

Loss of symptoms at 4 weeks
Loss of symptoms at 6 weeks
Loss of symptoms at 9 weeks

It was exhausting.

TheDisillusionedAnarchist · 22/12/2016 05:29

I had mild nausea with my first baby but not until about 8 weeks. With my second I had no symptoms at all, not the slightest nausea, no needing to pee. Was possibly slightly constipated.

I don't seem to do early pregnancy symptoms at all. I hear it's common esp for women with PCOS. My slightly nauseous pregnancy resulted in a daughter with a chromosomal anomaly. Others report hard pregnancies with this anomaly. I guess hard for me is a bit of nausea. Symptomless number 2 resulted in a perfectly healthy boy now nearly 3 weeks old.

I get payback for easy early pregnancies with hard late ones, gestational diabetes and pelvic girdle pain.

YANBU to be worried, I spent all the first weeks of my recent pregnancy worrying and googling symptomless pregnancies but you probably don't need to be. Symptoms make little difference. Plenty of stories of people with tons of symptoms and violent sickness finding they'd sadky had a missed miscarriage and plenty of stories of healthy babies from symptomless pregnancies. You may be able to look back and be glad you weren't sick.

SandysMam · 22/12/2016 05:30

This is such an anxious time and nothing the internet can say or do will change the outcome ultimately.
I strongly recommend you stop googling and searching for answers, it will drive you crazy and for every ten reassurances you find, you will only focus on the one that says this may mean it's over.
Instead, try to forget you are pregnant if you can and distract yourself with Christmas and the new year. In a week or so you will be able to have a scan and know how things are looking. Good luck OP, really hope things work out for you xx

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PollyCazaletWannabe · 22/12/2016 05:33

I appreciate all the replies and reassurance - thank you so much :) please keep them coming! I'm going to try and sleep now but I'll be back later x

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SquatBetty · 22/12/2016 06:12

I had no morning sickness or nausea with my first pregnancy and only very, very mild symptoms with my current second pregnancy. OP - I think we are the lucky ones as full-on morning sickness sounds absolutely grim.

Please try not to worry and I have to say I've never heard of increased risk of miscarriage being linked to a lack of morning sickness. Sounds like utter bollocks to me!

Bonywasawarriorwayayix · 22/12/2016 06:57

I didn't even realise I was pregnant with DS until I missed a second period. In retrospect, the extreme tiredness was a clue but that was it.

GiGiraffe · 22/12/2016 06:59

I felt fine with both my pregnancies, no sickness or tiredness - I wouldn't have know I was pregnant only hat we were trying and I missed a period! Try not to worry, enjoy your pregnancy and congratulations

Kirstyinnorway · 22/12/2016 07:03

Hey OP, ditto for me, I have no symptoms (1st pregnancy) and it's bothering me. No advice other than: some studies have shown that having nausea lowers the risk of miscarriage (by up to 70%, it's crazy!). However - this does NOT mean that the absence of sickness will RAISE the risk of miscarriage.

neonrainbow · 22/12/2016 07:06

The tiredness is a symptom! Im pg with twins and haven't been sick at all but i have been exhausted all the way through. I too was worried about the lack of morning sickness indicating a higher risk of miscarriage but i googled the hell out of it and couldn't find any research to actually prove any increased risk. God luck op just try and enjoy it!

minifingerz · 22/12/2016 07:09

Three pregnancies, no sickness AT ALL, no stretch marks, no constipation, reflux, piles, varicose veins, nowt. Tiredness only once my gd took hold in the third trimester.

Try not to worry!

ConvincingLiar · 22/12/2016 07:09

I didn't know about the link between pcos and few(er) pregnancy symptoms. Nice to know it might occasionally have an upside.

In my first pregnancy I felt a bit sick for 10 minutes one day until I had something to eat. In my second (up to 20w now) I haven't felt sick at all. I've felt a bit tired in both but not unmanageably so and my boobs have grown. Maybe a bit more heartburn than normal. That's about it.

Don't panic!

Temporaryname137 · 22/12/2016 07:10

Oh god, I was exactly the same (I was also 37!). The only symptom I had was no period. I was desperate to feel even a tiny bit nauseous, and went around groping my own boobs like a pervert hoping to feel a bit sore... Nothing! (DD is now a very active 15 month old)

After a lot of googling and reading threads on here, it became apparent that symptoms are a terrible predictor of whether things are going to be ok or not. Some people have no symptoms and are fine; some people have loads of symptoms and are fine; some people have no symptoms and v sadly are not fine; some people have loads of symptoms and v sadly are not fine... It's just about how your body reacts to the hormones.

I realised that I was v lucky when I saw the state pregnant friends were in. One friend said it felt exactly like being seriously hungover for 4 months without even having had a good night out!

Congratulations, try not to worry, and stay off google!!! I worried and read so much that several doctors and midwives throughout the process assumed I was medically trained. Nothing of the sort; just far too much googling and worrying. Don't be me - I drove myself and my DP mad!

gggrrrargh · 22/12/2016 07:12

I was only sick twice, from overeating about the 35 week stage. I barely had any signs apart from some bouts of hysterical crying. One of my first pregnancy tests had come back negative so I was very relieved at the scan it wasn't all in my head. Easier said than done, but please try not to worry too much.

ObviousChild · 22/12/2016 07:12

I'm 21 weeks pregnant with my second and have had absolutely no sickness so far. Didn't have any with my first either, at the worst I felt like I had a bit of a hangover.

My boobs didn't get sore until about 10 or 12 weeks, and even then it wasn't all the time - and was more like tingly nipples than tenderness. And I don't have either now. But just had the 20 weeks scan and there is a perfect little baby in there.

So try not to worry, everyone is different and some of us are just lucky! I like to think of it as being really good at being pregnant :-)

Babyhiccups · 22/12/2016 07:35

35 weeks here and until I had a visible bump, I felt like a complete fraud. No tiredness, no sickness, boobs maybe felt a little sore but that was it. Still in the same bra now, they haven't grown at all!

DH used to say it's easier to look for the absence of things (I haven't got this, this or this) than what was actually there - but to just tell myself I was pregnant until I knew otherwise.

So step away from Google. No, seriously, STEP AWAY! It will do nothing for your sanity or anxiety. You are pregnant now, enjoy it. And congratulations!

catwoman0815 · 22/12/2016 07:42

I had viotent morning sickness with both lasting well over 20 week. it only kicked in about 8 weeks both times. so your time may well come. apart from that, most friends of mine did not have mornings sickeness at all.

at 6+6 I only was tired really

titsbumfannythelot · 22/12/2016 07:49

You're not being unreasonable, it's a worrying time and if you find out early 12 week scan can take ages to come round.

With my first I wouldn't have known I was pregnant until she started to move. I know a few people who have had similar pregnancies.

Juanbablo · 22/12/2016 07:54

The only symptom I had with my first was tiredness but I was also working long hours so it took me quite a while to realise I was pregnant. You are probably one of the lucky ones but I can understand why you would worry.

Squiff85 · 22/12/2016 07:55

I've had 2 healthy pregnancies and wasn't sick once. Please don't panic!

JosephineMaynard · 22/12/2016 07:55

I had absolutely no sickness in my first two pregnancies. The results of those pregnancies are now 5 and 3 and squabbling over toy trains instead of eating their breakfast.

My first pregnancy - no symptoms other than missed periods and being more tired than usual until DS1 grew big enough for me to feel him kicking. And the placenta was at the front, which muffled the sensation of the movements.

Same story with DS2, except with him, I also noticed a greatly improved sense of smell from very early in the pregnancy.

Neither time felt quite real until after the first scan had confirmed that there was indeed a baby in there.

Obsessedalready · 22/12/2016 07:58

I am also 6+6 with no symptoms at all (apart from missed period and +ve test) first pregnancy for me too.

The Dr told me lots of women don't get any symptoms and don't know they are pregnant for the first three months. It's a good time of year to have your first trimester as it's quite distracting! My strategy has been to try and distract myself for next few weeks! I know it's hard but there is nothing you can do, the baby will be fine or they won't and you will get through it whatever the outcome! The odds are overwhelmingly in our favour though! Try not to stress

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