To not want to go skiing

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Dp and his family love skiing, and dp has gone most years since he was about 12 with them.

I've never been skiing, I'm not a very active person and it's not something that really appeals to me. Me and dp have agreed that if I was to try it we would go with mutual friends, some of whom had never been skiing before either and some who are more experienced like dp. I do feel nervous about going but I feel if I had someone to learn with I'd feel better about the situation.

Dp's family keep trying to convince me to go with them. I've polietrly declined each time and for the last couple of years I've been studying for my masters and so can use that as a reason for not attending as I can't get the time away. I think this has annoyed them, and dp did admit to me that his df thinks I should just suck it up and go for 'family'. Every time we see them they badger me about going even though I have said I don't want to. Dp has no issues with me not going so I don't understand why his parents do.

Aibu? Should I just go for the sake of family relations?

I'm too scared to go skiing - I know too many people that have come back broken limbs!

If you had put "AIBU to not want to on hols with the ILs as a couple of them insist on getting totally trashed and humiliating everyone in turn. They are really hard work and wont take no for an answer" and no one would have told you to give it a go because you might like it.......

Completely brilliant !

Skiing isn't for me either. I've learned to ski, but I'm just not interested. End of story.

All the people posting "just make sure you go to X resort!" need to RTFT.

I can't think of anything worse

1. It's dangerous - so many people break their arms and legs on skking holidays

2. It's sport and lots of people don't like sports. Worse than that, you do it all day for the whole time you're there

3. It's expensive. Why do something really expensive if you're not sure you're going to like it.

4)It's cold. This is why I wouldn't go even if I didn't have to join in the skiing. Why go on holiday to somewhere cold when you could stay at home for free or go somewhere with nice weather?

A friend of mine got whisked away on a surprise trip. Her boyfriend had borrowed his mum's saloppettes and hadn't told her they were going skiing. She had a miserable time. The others were experienced skiiers and they skied all day, not even having a break for lunch!

I've had this username for months...I've never been skiing so I wouldn't know that was a bleeding phrase!!!!

Incidentally ski resorts that are good for advanced skiiers are rarely those which suit beginners.

Well that is totally untrue!

As are all the claims it's a dangerous sport where lots of people come back with broken limbs.
It's really quite unusual to see people break limbs and a beginner is never going to be going fast enough to do themselves any actual damage

"It's really quite unusual to see people break limbs"

I've seen lots. Skiing is a risky sport.

I tried it once and hated it (I should have known given I have really bad vertigo). The difference between a skiing holiday and any other holiday is that if you go on a skiing holiday there is absolutely nothing to do except ski (you can't even really go for a walk).

Don't go - save your money for something you will enjoy.

OP YANBU

I had friends who were keen skiers, I'd never been so went to try it. Let's just say I'm not a natural skier/coordinated generally. I found it really hard work, but focused on the apres ski and made it through the week.

I wouldn't go again unless my DP/DC really wanted to go (& it's so expensive!) and even then I would spend the day in the pool/spa rather than skiing - it's just not for me.

You are doing absolutely the right thing OP - going to try it in a situation you feel comfortable. I'd feel the same as you about going away with DP's extended family - I'd be exhausted being sociable, let alone the tiredness from skiing.

What do you normally do when he goes away with them? Stay home? Do something nice while he's away to help you forget about them all.

Can I just say that people who don't like chocolate are alien beings to me. There's crap English hot chocolate and then there's incredible quality, huge bowls full of Swiss hot chocolate, drunk in front of a roaring log fire with piles of snow outside and bright blue skies. It's to die for. Now I want to go on a skiing holiday. Thanks op 😥

80s there is loads else to do. You just have to pick your resort. I've written up thread about sleigh rides and swimming and visiting cute churches and nice shops. As a disabled woman who has been on skiing holidays with skiing people I have had some great times. The sleigh ride i went on through the mountains in Austria was one of the most magical experiences of my entire life. You do need to pick your resort though.

" I've written up thread about sleigh rides and swimming and visiting cute churches and nice shops. "

But why would you want to do that somewhere cold?

Gwenhwyfar

That really surprises me, because during the season I did, plus on the 20+ weeks I've done before and since, I've only seen a handful of broken bones. And one of them was due to someone slipping on an icy path while walking

Twisted knees and ACL injuries are more common towards the end of the season when the snow gets slushy but you would have to be skiing far beyond the limits of your capabilities to lose control enough to break bones
Have you got very reckless friends?

I like going to cold places on holiday. The coldest place I've been was the Swedish Arctic circle in December. -25 at night. Thick unpolluted snow that when the moonlight shone on it was like another form of daylight. The hotel issued us with snuggly chest-height padded salopettes, parkas, double layer gloves and boots with two inch soles - if you come from a temperate climate you have no idea of that sort of cold.

They had roaring fires and vodka and lovely reindeer stew on tap. I probably could have had hot chocolate if I wanted.

During the short hours of daylight I went dog sledding on a vast frozen lake and trekking in the gloomy pine forests where the skies were bright but the waters were black and cold and if you fell in you'd probably have about 15 minutes to live.

One night I was taken to a restaurant deep in the forest where if you'd have wandered off the track you'd have frozen to death in a couple of hours. There was an outside loo and when I wondered where the flush was I realised that you couldn't flush because the water would be frozen. Your waste dropped into a pit and didn't smell because it was so cold.

No skiing.

It's one of the most beautiful and strange places I've been but I was very privileged because it was a work trip that I didn't pay a bean for. Because that kind of experience is very expensive and not the reality of most ski holidays.

I tried it once and hated it (I should have known given I have really bad vertigo). The difference between a skiing holiday and any other holiday is that if you go on a skiing holiday there is absolutely nothing to do except ski (you can't even really go for a walk).

Not true at all if you choose the right place.

I've never skied in my life but I love holidays in the Alps (long story illness involved).

You can go swimming or skating, and what I like to do is curl up in front of a log fire next to a stunning view and read a book. Totter off to a cafe with a nice view for some gluhwien or a croque Monsieur.

Everyone else comes in knackered, wet and cold and I'm feeling rested and toastie.

Why turn down a holiday with your family with such beautiful views just because you don't want to ski?

80s there is loads else to do. You just have to pick your resort. I've written up thread about sleigh rides and swimming and visiting cute churches and nice shops. As a disabled woman who has been on skiing holidays with skiing people I have had some great times. The sleigh ride i went on through the mountains in Austria was one of the most magical experiences of my entire life. You do need to pick your resort though.

This.

I like to do is curl up in front of a log fire next to a stunning view and read a book. Totter off to a cafe with a nice view for some gluhwien or a croque Monsieur.

But this is fantasy. Even if you were staying at the most expensive hotel in the most expensive resort, you'd have to nab a fireside window seat with a view of a mountain which would probably be even more difficult than putting your towel on a sun lounger by the pool.

And who wants to spend hours reading and drinking cocoa and eating cheese and ham on toast until everyone else gets home any more than lying baking in the sun by the pool? It would be enough to make me want to get pissed. Oh wait...

FFS is no one reading the thread?! THE OP IS NOT GOING TO PICK THE RESORT!!!! SHE WILL BE GOING TO WHEREVER THEY CHOOSE AND AS THEY ARE NOT ARSED ABOUT ANYTHING THAT DOESNT INVOLVE NAILING PLANKS TO THEIR FEET AND SLIDING DOWN A MOUNTAIN, THEY ARE NOT GOING MAKE SURE THAT THERE IS A PLENTIFUL SUPPLY OF LOG FIRES AND HOT FUCKING CHOCOLATE!

Bogeyface

I feel the "nailing planks to feet" it was a particularly inspired piece of rant.

Am stealing it. For any future assault on my refusal to ever go near a mountain ever again.

I've been skiing in the past (school and with friends/partners etc).

However I broke an ankle one year on a blue run in Courchevel and I was bloody bored for the remainder of the holiday despite all the gluhwein and mountain gazing.

For some strange reason after that accident I wasn't overly keen on returning to skiing (been once since) and prefer to spend my time and money elsewhere.

Your ILs sound like idiots OP with the games, I wouldn't go, certainly not without a choice of a decent resort.

Yanbu. When we moved to Salt Lake City I told dh in no uncertain terms I wasn't going to ski. I hate the cold and it is mega expensive. I am clumsy and I don't want to break anything. Tell them you are height phobic and you absolutely cannot if you must!

Oh yes, it is cold, involves a fair bit of traipsing up and down and yes I was the bore who loved skiing all day and home for drink and a sleep at night. this is coming from someone who wasn't overly sporty at school either

I did get more scared after the Michael Schaumacher (sp?) accident and of course when I broke my ankle. I was aware it could've been worse and I sprained my wrist at same time (the ankle break was worse).

I totally get now why some people hate skiing and would prefer to do anything but ski!

Tower it doesn't have to be expensive, I know people who do it on the cheap and one friend I know is off to Andorra soon. The height aspect I didn't find bothered me so much either... But I did learn at 14 when I loved heights and scary fairground rides etc... A bit different when an adult when you realise it's a bloody long way down a mountainside with rocks etc.

Online thank you!

Consider it my Xmas gift to you :o

bogey I'm actually quite amused about how circular the responses have been. Multiple times I've wanted to yell RTFT but worried I'd get called aggressive.

It's alright though, resigned myself to the fact dp is never going to propose and will probably leave me for someone's more sociable. Clearly iabvvvvvu.