Dad 'choosing' to pronounce DD's name differently

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This is the first post I've written. Apologises for bad spelling... I am writing in anger.

So my DD is 3 months old and I given her an usual name, which I have accepted people will/do pronounce it wrong because they don't know how to say it, its easy Once you know though. My Ddad seems to struggle with it, except today I was visiting with my DC and my Ddad said her name wrong (Again!) so my Dsis corrected him (again) to which my DDad response was "Well it shouldn't be pronounced like that it should be pronounced the way I said it, I am saying it this way"

It then got heated because I told him you can't do that it will confuse her as it doesn't sound anything like her name. He said shes too little to notice. I said he needs to call her by her name that we have given her end of!!
Im fuming because he blatantly told me hes choosing to pronounce it differently, I know this won't be the end of it. I am hurt by this. I know he doesn't like it because it's not a "solid english" name (hmmm my mom is german so hes being a dick), but I wish he would respect our choice.

I am worried about what DP will say when Ddad says her name over Christmas at family gatherings. Think its going to kick off, as this won't be the first time recently where DP has disagreed with him.

AIBU to be angry about this? Wwyd?

I'm lost now! Is that name pronounced the French (I want to say 'proper') way after all??

What the amazing world of gumball?? A film??

Great :)

In this case your pronunciation is imo lovely and I highly doubt his is as beautiful.

Unless he's saying it like the people below the first one are, I personally am a bit partial to the French pronunciation, tbh. But the Catalan one is really lovely as well.

It's not Anay. (YouTube old Anaïs Anaïs advert, it was never Anay Anay)
It is Ann-eye-ees. Very french and very beautiful and totally going to be my DD middle name if I ever have one

OP I think perhaps you aren't pronouncing it the traditional French way either but as PP have said he should respect your way.
A friend of mine has named her DD Thalia, but spelt it Thaliia and I always want to call her Taleeeeya (IYSWIM) but I don't because that's not what her mum wants and I respect that through gritted Taleeeeya teeth

Isn't Aoife 'Eef-a'?

Oh - Just listened to the link.

I can't get it right in my NI accent, though.

It comes out as Anna-Eece.

It can't possibly be pronounced a-nay, it makes a nonsense of the umlaut/diaeresis. You wouldn't pronounce naïve nayv, would you? OP's pronunciation is correct.

OP, I think you just need to keep ignoring your father. If no-one reacts but carries on pronouncing her name properly, sooner or later it will sink into his consciousness that that is what her name is and he will find himself pronouncing it that way automatically. Especially when she grows up and he discovers that she has no idea who he is talking to when he mispronounces her name.

Yes it is the french way.... i have got the phonetics spelling wrong further up

thank you for the link yes the first one on the list is how we say it

A lot of people will be unable to easily replicate the bloke on that link's pronunciation of the name because they're not Spanish.

I'm with you, OP. My FIL decided he should have named my DS, so persisted in calling him by a TOTALLY DIFFERENT NAME for ages. I just ignored it completely, DS never responded to it, and he eventually started using DS's actual name.

I suggest you do the same. Don't react like he's pronouncing your DD's name wrong - react like he's talking about someone else altogether. So if he says, eg, "what shall I buy [his prononciation] for xmas?" you just say "who?" Because you don't have a daughter called that.

An-nay-is.

As in Nin.

Deepankristineven

Yes I would pronounce naïve like thst

I've never heard anais pronounced 'Anay'
Always either a-niece or an-eye-eese

fuckability

Always hated that. But I'm even worse at spelling that. I pronounce it like the French people of that clip (who would have thought, seeing as I'm from a partially French country with French speaking relatives 😂) and would spell that as uhnuees. Sooo, yeah, really bad at that, which is why I always send links ;)

I could spell it using the NATO phonetic alphabet? Alpha November Alpha India Sierra.

But that isn't helpful. So, the link it is ;)

Basically like the French on here:
forvo.com/word/anaïs/

sounds like an na neis to me!

the OP isn't saying it wrong at all. its not difficult either once you are used to it. we, as a nation are piss poor at even trying to say words that sound unusual to us. The number of people i meet who claim the 'can't' do a welsh 'll' is ridiculous. All humans have basically the same anatomy in the mouth, so you can you just need to practise.

Sorry OP, I missed your update. It really is a beautiful name.

If it's any consolation, my nan couldn't/wouldn't say my name properly (Chloë- many years ago when it was still "new") So decided she would call me Cleo. I still loved her

veryBitchy

There are some French pronunciation examples on there as well. I'm guessing that everybody, especially the OP's father, could at least try to pronounce it correctly if the OP sends them the link?

Greatfuck how do you say the Welsh ll? I've recently moved to Wales and I'm so confused

horatio I'm an SLT, and it is the fucking bane of my life. If I have to use it, so does everyone else . i'm with you, links are better!

Sorry, only read the first page but I used to think it was pronounced an-at till I saw an advert for the perfume on telly years ago and they pronounced
it an-ah-eess

Not saying you're wrong for a minute, OP. I think it's lovely and YANBU.
(The perfume was my first grown-up perfume, got it for my 18th from ex-MIL. I bought a bottle recently as I love it. 48 now )

An-ay!!!!

I mean, ok, I mean have an advantage because I actually speak French. It the Spanish pronunciation is fairly simple as well?

And my very English DH has applied himself and is now able to pronounce the Italian names of my family nearly flawlessly (unless there's an r. Which is fine. The r in world trips me up as well, which is why I just don't pronounce the r in word, world etc anymore, but it's not like DH does that either, so that seems to be acceptable in the U.K.)

choco basically you put your tongue hard up against the little bump behind your front teeth and gently blow.