Dad 'choosing' to pronounce DD's name differently

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This is the first post I've written. Apologises for bad spelling... I am writing in anger.

So my DD is 3 months old and I given her an usual name, which I have accepted people will/do pronounce it wrong because they don't know how to say it, its easy Once you know though. My Ddad seems to struggle with it, except today I was visiting with my DC and my Ddad said her name wrong (Again!) so my Dsis corrected him (again) to which my DDad response was "Well it shouldn't be pronounced like that it should be pronounced the way I said it, I am saying it this way"

It then got heated because I told him you can't do that it will confuse her as it doesn't sound anything like her name. He said shes too little to notice. I said he needs to call her by her name that we have given her end of!!
Im fuming because he blatantly told me hes choosing to pronounce it differently, I know this won't be the end of it. I am hurt by this. I know he doesn't like it because it's not a "solid english" name (hmmm my mom is german so hes being a dick), but I wish he would respect our choice.

I am worried about what DP will say when Ddad says her name over Christmas at family gatherings. Think its going to kick off, as this won't be the first time recently where DP has disagreed with him.

AIBU to be angry about this? Wwyd?

I would pronounce that "An-eye- iss",but if you had told me you pronounced it "ah-nah-ess" then that is what I would have called her.

There are many words which are spelled the same way but are pronounced differently (e.g. "bow" (as in a tie) and "bow" as in the way you might greet the Queen). Would therefore, not have any difficulty in accepting that your pronunciation was the correct one (i.e., the one you wanted to call her).

Just get him to call her Anna if he genuinely can't get his tongue around it.

Pretty name btw.

*but the

Not it ;)

Sorry, it was like someone said a few posts back,
An-eye-eess (a soft s sound)

Wow I can't believe all the responses on this... thank you for everyones input, I did see someone write about a book with a different surname in...
my dad ALSO has a massive issue with the fact I choose to give the DC DP surname (we aren't married yet)
Think it was because my Dad only had girls and thought "brilliant my grandson will carry our surname on" ....uurrrrmmm no

The umlaut does change the pronunciation, so the vowels are pronounced separately, rather than as an 'ay' IYSWIM.

It's An-eye-ees.

This. It's definitely not Ah-nay.

Sorry how is your dad prOnouncing it?

Phew glad to know you're pronouncing it 'correctly' after all :) and yes tell your dad he is being disrespectful!! What would he think if someone pronounces 'James' like 'Jams' or sth like that?!

SarcasmMode

Funnily i have told him that too and he wont do that either

Ah-nah-ees is the French pronunciation I believe? Very pretty, and as your choice should be respected.
My stepfather deliberately mispronounced my name from the day he entered my life til a month ago, when he very pompously announced (having gathered family and friends in the hotel for his big pronouncement ), that he would henceforth call me by my given name, "having not done so til now on principle" (what flaming principle? Being an obnoxious bully principle?)...and he's immediately gone back. ...This is 40 years worth so challenge and insist now or settle back to teach dc hes a disrespectful control freak who should be quietly pitied.

Hey op my dc1 is Anais (a nay iss) for us, no one can bloody say it so we call her Ana. Nothing to say here except great name choice high five :-)

I've always said

An-eye-eese with eese to rhyme with geese

If it's a French name, why does it have an umlaut? Umlauts are German.

Personally I wouldnt make your child's life too complicated by going off-piste with prononciation because they will have a life time of people screwing up their name. But that's just my opinion...

As for your Dad .. a friend of mine was at work and another chap never got his name wrong - say he was called Matt - the other guy kept calling him Mike. He got pissed off so just used a random name for the other guy e.g. Nick instead of nigel. Could you retaliate by using the name of someone your Dad can't stand off telly like Bruce for Bruce Forsyth instead of Dad? Until he gets the idea? I shouldn't think it will confuse your child - they will just think their grandad is a bit bonkers..

Oh the umlaut separates two vowels, so not Anay, and stops Zoë and chloë being Zo and Clo iyswim

Isn't it just pronounced Ann ace?

If this helps..

m00ma

I will definitely stand my ground on it, just don't want it become a massive thing over Christmas

Nöel has one, that's definitely french

Then he's just being an ass.

Maybe call him Papa or another languages version of Dad.

Or if he's called Brian pronounce his name BRY-ON.

Also it's not umlaut in those cases it's a daerises. Gah!

Umlauts do exist in French lol :)

Isla

There's another name with two pronunciations.

I would say Eye-la, like Isla Blair, Isla St Clare.

But we had two girls at school one known as Isla (as I pronounce it ) , the other known as Eyes-la. Very confusing!

Noël... daerisis always on second vowel you want to separate. Am umlaut geek due to the name Anaïs!