Dad 'choosing' to pronounce DD's name differently

[runningaftermydreams]

This is the first post I've written. Apologises for bad spelling... I am writing in anger.

So my DD is 3 months old and I given her an usual name, which I have accepted people will/do pronounce it wrong because they don't know how to say it, its easy Once you know though. My Ddad seems to struggle with it, except today I was visiting with my DC and my Ddad said her name wrong (Again!) so my Dsis corrected him (again) to which my DDad response was "Well it shouldn't be pronounced like that it should be pronounced the way I said it, I am saying it this way"

It then got heated because I told him you can't do that it will confuse her as it doesn't sound anything like her name. He said shes too little to notice. I said he needs to call her by her name that we have given her end of!!
Im fuming because he blatantly told me hes choosing to pronounce it differently, I know this won't be the end of it. I am hurt by this. I know he doesn't like it because it's not a "solid english" name (hmmm my mom is german so hes being a dick), but I wish he would respect our choice.

I am worried about what DP will say when Ddad says her name over Christmas at family gatherings. Think its going to kick off, as this won't be the first time recently where DP has disagreed with him.

AIBU to be angry about this? Wwyd?

I would only pronounce it ah-nah-eesse/isse ie the French way. Isnt it a French name in any event? Any particular reason you want to pronounce it differently? I couldn't get used to that personally but if it was a choice my kid had made I'd respect it I guess...certainly not make up a pronunciation that doesnt exist at all :)

wee

That's basically how I'd pronounce it as well. And I'm also Swiss.;) She's from the Romandie, I assume?

Basically like the French on here:
forvo.com/word/anaïs/

I would be cross too OP, just keep telling him off everytime he gets it wrong!! From your description I take it you are pronouncing it like the perfume? Show him a youtube clip of an old Anais Anais advert to give him an extra nudge!

I think OP is trying to describe that she says An-eye-ees. which is what it is, the trema accent means you pronounce both vowel sounds seperately, so an-ay doesn't work.
either way, your dad is being ridiculous. That said my dad pronounces my nieces name differently to most of the rest of the family. her name is Megan, he prounces in the 'correct' welsh way of may-gan (closest i can write it, not quite correctly transcribed) and the rest of us more like Meh-gun. its never been an issue.

Aoife

Discuss.

My ILs refuse to use our proper surname and use theirs instead. They even had a little Christmas story book printed up for one of the kids which used the wrong name. It's utterly bizarre.

Yes it has 3 syllables and is not hard to say. Ann - eye - ees

The umlaut changes the i to an ee sound.
Just like the umlaut on Zoë changes it from Zo to Zo-ee and Chloë from Chlo to Chlo-ee

Does it rhyme with anything?

I'm saying Anne-eye-iss.

Iss like bliss rather that is like bizz.

Your dad isn't the only one who will pronounce your DD's name differently to you. The pronunciation you've chosen will be something she will constantly have to explain...

But it is no an-eye-ees, great

The beginning shouldn't sound like 'an eye'....

Anais is pronounced either ann-ay, or ann-eye-ees, as others have said.

I would struggle to pronounce it your way as well, as it goes against what I know.

I'm not sure the OP is pronouncing it incorrectly or whether she's just having trouble communicating the pronunciation in writing.

Either way YANBU.

Aoife is Ee-fah.

OP are you saying 'ees' like piece, or 'ess' like mess? that should clear it up.

Not that he's right to go against your wishes of course!

Aye Fa ?

To the OP - if you give your child a stupid name you should face the consequences

The beginning shouldn't sound like 'an eye

Right then, I'm lost. :o

1horatio

thank you for the link yes the first one on the list is how we say it
I should have done that... I think I might send the link to my dad. Although it is only recently when he has been saying it differently he did say it right before

Not aye-fa.

Eeeee-Fah.

Is it like Anais in the Amazing World of Gumball?

Your dad sounds like he's calling her a pineapple.

horatio.....that would depend on how you say eye i think . no, i spose its more like ah-nuh-ees. but that movement between the schwa (uh) and the 'ee' creates a glide that is like eye when said quickly.

personally, i think all people should learn the phonetic alphabet and we'd be good.

pro

a friend of mine is always having his name miss pronounced. His name is Padraig which is pronounced Poreck

Your way is wrong, op... You can't just put your own take on an established name and expect everyone else to play along. She'll have trouble for the rest of her life with people pronouncing it correctly, ironically enough

Chloe and Zoe both end in EE sound to me without the umlauts. Zoe is Greek is zo-EE. It wouldn't be Zo or Chlo