to expect social services after 6 year old burnt foot on cooker? Feel horrendous

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Title says it all really
Am petrified social services will now be involved after google searching what happens next
My 6 year old climbed onto the kitchen side last night and stood on one of the electric hobs.
It had been turned off for approx 10 mins as was making her milk for bed and she went out there saying she was getting a cup off the side, instead she climbed up to get a different cup from the cupboard.
After an hour running under water it was only red so we followed the advice on the NHS website and applied Vaseline once completely cooled and wrapped in cling film and gave calpol but shortly after I noticed the blister covered 1/3 of her foot.
I feel sick even writing it as I just never thought she would do this, she isn't even a climber and we only took our baby gates off the kitchen a few months ago as she could undo them.
Called NHS direct once I noticed the size of the blister when she had fallen asleep and I was able to remove the cling film and we were told to go to A&E who cut the blister off, wrapped it and sent us to the burns hospital 20 miles away.
Only recently back from there and will be there every 3 days for as many weeks to get the dressing changed and so on.
Feel so guilty and also completely panicked social services will now be involved as I could have prevented this happening.
There were lots of safeguarding questions at both hospitals and both asking if we had social services involved prior to this ( we haven't ) but none said they were going to contact them but just don't know what to think.
My poor little girl.

I had a call from the health visitor after ds2 was seen in a&e twice during his first 6 weeks of life. Which was ironic as she's the one who (inadvertently) put him there the second time by being overenthusiasic with the silver nitrate. That was a somewhat awkward conversation.

Most likely be contacted in the new year by school nursing or someone on the health rather than social side of things. Whoever contacts you will be a human being whose had accidents themselves / kids had accidents. Answer the questions honestly and it'll be fine.

Show me a parent whose children never had an accident and I'll show you a liar.

now dont worry. A visit from SS, even if does happen, which it probably won't, is not the end of the world.
My 3 year old burnt his hand on the cooker, and we did not hear a whisper from SS. As long as the child tells the story and you were seen to do the right thing.

You can't undo it but Of course you wouldn't have a stairgate with a six year old. You must feel terrible. But it was an accident. Accidents happen. You got her treatment. If you get a visit then they just need to hear how it happened.
Only advice. Never put Vaseline on a burn. Ever.
Be gentle with yourself. Have a cuddle with DD and remind yourself she will be ok.

I don't think SS will be called, unless the hospital staff had any other concerns. Even if they are, as others have said, they will just check that everything is OK and leave you to it.

DNiece once burnt her hand badly by picking up her mum's hair straighteners while they were still hot, she was in hospital overnight & had to have a few follow up appointments for the burn. As far as I know, SS were never involved. If they were it certainly wasn't in a negative way.

My 7 year old burnt her hand on the hob a few months ago, it was switched off but still hot like yours. She reached up to get something and put her other hand down on the hob without thinking. She had blisters on her fingers although only small ones. We went to the minor injuries unit who asked me and her what happened, gave us some treatment advice and we have never heard anything from anyone else about it. I was worried too but honestly accidents do happen please try not to worry too much.

Do you suffer from anxiety generally? Seriously, you're massively over reacting!! Yes, she had an minor accident and hurt herself. It happens ALOT. SS may check in, but they probably won't. And if they do, what on earth will they do? Your daughter was almost certainly have more accidents in her childhood, you must try not to panic Iike this!

I can understand the panic. It must have been awful to see her hurting. Burns are painful.
OP clearly feels guilty. It's easy to say don't feel bad but as a loving parent of course you want to prevent any harm coming to your child.

Op.hope your ok. I.think it's hospital routine now to overly question parents when my kids have had an accident. They ask child how did this happens ask siblings oh dear what did your brother do ect. Then another doc/nurse will ask again later. It's just to check story stays the same and no hiding anything to make sure the child is safe.

My DS did this - on a ring cooker (a milder burn but you could see the rings). As he is the eldest he sometimes got things out of cupboard, like plastic cereal bowls etc (usually by dragging up a chair and reaching). One day he did that, but then wanted something on the counter top opposite so tried to climb across.

He really isnt naughty, yes it was a bad idea. He knew that he wasnt allow to use cooker/ buttons etc but hadnt thought he was breaking this rule and I never expressly said "don't climb on the cooker" it wasnt something I had imagined. It was a while since it had been turned off but still hot enough. I obviously wasnt supervising carefully enough and was in the next room.

Anyway I just wanted to say my DC was injured in same way, it can happen and it was an accident, like it was in my case. Don't worry about SS. It is great we have SS/HV /these checks, it must be awful for a child if injuries werent accidents or kept happening and no-one intervened.

Aww OP try not to worry . .

As others have said accidents do happen . They may or may not visit but explain as you have explained here and I am sure it will be left at that .

Try not to worry.

My DD pulled the whole ironing board, including hot iron, onto herself in the summer. She was 17mo.

We were at A&E within the hour but I was petrified my baby was going to be taken off of me. I overheard the Dr make a comment "jesus an iron, really?" Yet once same Dr had seen us and treated DD she didn't even want to give DD a full once over (I offered to strip her down by Dr said she was happy to treat just the burn which was on her arm)

I guess we didn't raise any red flags - we went to A&E immediately / were both shaken and child was presented clean, happy (well as happy as she could be) and cared for.

HV rang about 2 weeks later and there was no further involvement.

Thankfully no lasting damage. Very upsetting at the time and still makes me shudder when I think about it.

I haven't read all posts but id would say don't worry, my dd knocked a hot glass of green tea that my oh stupidly put on the floor down by his feet, I picked her up and ran her into the bathroom and ran her foot under the cold tap, she was wearing a sleep suit and I didn't realise that it had actually got the leg but I initially thought the wetness on it was from the cold water I ran her foot under, anyway once I realised I felt awful pure parent failure was all I had running in my head, we took her to our local walk in centre and they were brilliant could see how bad I felt and how worried I was, they popped the blister and put a dressing on all whilst reassuring me that they had dealt with worst things and accidents happen. hope you dd's foot heals soon

Maybe put the gate back. She can open it but you'd hear it and will give you time to get to her, and you can tell her it's because she's not ready to have full access as she should know not to climb on the counter, whatever age.

Worry less about SS and more about helping DD to heal quickly.

Oh bless you, I would be very surprised if SS were called for what was an accident, especially if that was the first accident she has ever had.

Children can be dreadful for this...my son is autistic and was still climbing in work surfaces at age 11. He is now 14 and has finally stopped...too big.

If SS do get involved it will literally be to ensure she is okay....not to condemn you. It was a total accident and you couldn't have predicted it. You have also acted entirely appropriately to the injury and are ensuring all further treatment. Trust me there are kids out there who won't get Christmas presents and may not get much food Xmas Day. They are the ones SS will be concentrating on. Not a well cared for child who has had an accident and whose parents have responded appropriately and supportively to it.

for you for the shock. And a hug for your daughter.

I would put DDs cups and stuff in a base cupboard so she has no need to clumb

What might worry medics was the fact you put vaseline on it.

It was an accident, if your DDs story matched yours then you are highly unlikely to hear anything further. However, I would suggest a first aid course..... you should NEVER put Vaseline on a burn or scald.

www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Burns-and-scalds/Pages/Introduction.aspx

I wouldn't worry, my DS2 once ironed his own face (he climbed up on the kitchen worktop where the iron was cooling off after I'd used it) and no one batted an eyelid despite the fact that he had a clear imprint of an iron on his face for about 6 months. His older brother has had broken bones and both have knocked their teeth out..... accidents happen, especially to boys.

If they were going to refer to SS, they have a duty to have told that that is their intention (a very good reason is required if they don't tell you). Even if they did a background check for previous involvement or to see if SS have any record of you, best practice deems that they should get consent to do so.

Asking you about SS input is a standard safeguarding question across most trusts nowadays, regardless of reason for presentation. A child medically unwell should also be asked.

The most that such an attendance should warrant (assuming no other concerns) would be HV/SN input for supervision advice.

I read Vaseline once the entire burn had cooled down
The a&e doctor said people have differing opinions on it but as long as not used before cooling it shouldn't have had a negative effect

What Brat said. I understood that Vaseline can enable the burn to go deeper (could be wrong on that). It might help your anxiety too, if you know what to do in an emergency. Red Cross and St. John do great first aid courses.

Try not to worry. Children hurt themselves doing daft things all the time! SS don't get involved in accidents like that. Even if anyone did contact you, she's 6, she can explain exactly what happened to her.

I'm a foster carer and the standards parents need to meet to prevent SS involvement are (in my opinion) shockingly low. You are a loving mother and a caring parent whose daughter had a one off accident. SS are really not going to want to know.

But it blistered after the Vaseline went on. So maybe not cool.
Don't put anything on a burn. Check NHS guidelines.