AIBU.....jobless SIL with her own Christmas list

[Sararob28]

AIBU? My brothers GF left her job about 6 months ago and worked a bit over late summer but due to some sort of "admin error" has been unable to start her new job but hasn't bothered to do any temp work in the mean time preferring to go out for coffee etc rather than finding work. Anyway.....my brother works FT and is supporting her and paying all bills.....not so much an issue, however, I suggested that I'll lable one of the gifts I purchased for my DS from him and SIL (I made out as though I had too much stuff for DS rather than mentioning his finances). We do swap gifts so I also asked him for a low value item as he wanted to get me and DH something ..........however, I don't think he's realised I was trying to help as he sent me his GF's Christmas list asking for one of the items off there. AIBU that she shouldn't be so demanding considering she isn't working.....plus who has a great big long Christmas list in their 30's? Maybe my brother should have told her it's a coal and satsuma year......bah humbug!

My family and friends know me very well, but still wouldn't know what shade of makeup to get/i already own or dvds i already have same as i wouldn't know what my friends already have

Well exactly kali, I see my mum 3 times a week ish but she doesn't know what books I own, what make up I've ran out of etc.

I'm 43. My hubs is 59 and kids 18 and 14. For the past 11 years, all four of us have written Christmas lists. None of us expects everything off the lists and we do deviate from time to time, but it saves upset and embarrassment on Christmas Day.

No one likes to open a present and think "what the fuck did you buy me that for?"

On the other thing, not really your business how they conduct their relationship. But I can see how it would piss you off.

Slightly worryingly, my family have just this week bought me the whole of my Christmas list for my birthday. So what I'll actually get for Christmas is now anyone's guess.

Are presents time apportioned according to time worked? So, someone who works 2 days a week should get a proportionally smaller present than someone who works 5 days?
Or maybe should be done by salary.
Poor earners= shit presents!

It really all depends on whether your SIL sent you the list. If it was meant for her DH then there is no problem. The coffee and unemployment status are irrelevant and just scene setters.
If GF/SIL did send the list, unsolicited then I'm right with OP.
Lists are great, I'm all in favour, as long as that is the agreed protocol in the group. Lists in Amazon, Facebook, all great. Every body in the group should agree a maximum spend as there will always be one who doesn't get it and will try to push the boat out.
However, a list should NEVER be proffered unless requested. One should never specify the nature of the gift (e.g. money for DCs birthday) unless asked. To do otherwise will always be seen as grabby and should always be ignored.