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To think neighbours should come and collect their parcel?

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 10/12/2016 21:51

Dh took in a fairly large parcel (think box of wine size) for our neighbours on Thursday or maybe even Wednesday afternoon - I can't remember.

It has been in our narrow one person width hallway since then.

Aibu to be a wee bit pissed off now?

And

Wwyd?

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DailyMailyFaily · 11/12/2016 14:32

ItsALLAboutMeMe. Funny post but The OP hasn't refused to admit she is being unreasonable. Youve made that bit up but don't let the facts get in the way of a good story...

I think the OP has been unreasonable to be mildly pissed off with her neighbour because she can't know whether or not they received a card about the parcel from the delivery notice. However, I don't think it's at all unreasonable to not want to take in parcels for a neighbour that does loads of online shopping and doesn't bother to make arrangements to have it delivered at a time when they are home or to make arrangements for it to be delivered to a pick up point.

If I think I'm going to be out I either use an Amazon Locker or arrange to collect it from a pick-up point. There are dozens of pick up points for collect+ and Hermes etc. It's not exactly difficult.

It's weird that on the recent chuggers thread there are loads of posters suggesting you shouldn't even answer the door if you are not expecting someone 😂

SauvignonBlanche · 11/12/2016 14:38

I'm just putting an Amazon order in, this thread has convinced me to get it delivered to my local Spar shop.

poppy1973 · 11/12/2016 14:44

I have just been reading this thread from the start.

If you don't want to take future parcels for your neighbours. Then don't. When the courier company rings your door for you to take a parcel in for your neighbour. Ask 'Which neighbour and which house number?'

I always check which neighbour I am taking a parcel in for before I accept and sign for the parcel. If you don't like your neighbours or just don't want to accept their parcel, then just refuse the courier company and tell them to try down the road. You won't accept for them. The courier company won't mind !!!
If you still have their parcel. Pop a polite note through their door telling them to collect within 24 hours or you will contact the courier to collect and return their parcel. Or if you know when they are home, leave their parcel on the doorstep and ring their bell for as long as you can and hurry away.

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 11/12/2016 15:35

Cel982 - later in the thread, having listened to the sage and kindly offered advice by Mumsnet, I changed my mind and said the note would say "Courier deliveries for the neighbours not accepted, sorry" or something like that. Meaning we wouldn't single them out specifically, just do a blanket ban on parcel deliveries. It is an irritation when working from home and you can't just not answer the door, obviously.

Parcel is still here. Will knock or put a note through their door later when convenient for me.

I have worked out who is behind some of the more aggressive comments towards me earlier on the thread and that has given me a good deal of satisfaction.

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Saucery · 11/12/2016 15:39

Do you mean me? Doubt it, but full marks for PA twattery.

ItsALLAboutMeMeMeMeME · 11/12/2016 15:44

DailyMailFaily point taken. My apologies to the OP.
Would it be sticking to the facts to say the OP was somewhat reluctant to accept she might be BU for the several pages of the thread? I admit I did omit the fact that she conceded that putting up a notice on her door specifically refusing deliveries for one neighbour was BU and I probably missed other concessions in the 8 pages preceding my post.

miserablesod · 11/12/2016 15:52

I take deliveries in for my neighbours all the time, it really doesn't bother me. They never knock but if i can hear them home or see a light on i take it round. It doesn't bother me that they don't knock, it takes seconds to drop it round. Whats the problem!

Katy07 · 11/12/2016 15:56

Well I'm with the OP on this. Flowers

TheSockGoblin · 11/12/2016 15:58

So neither you or your husband have gone over to ask if they know there is a parcel for them at your house in the last what - coming up 24 hours - since you posted this thread?

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 11/12/2016 16:00

Saucery - wtf?

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 11/12/2016 16:02

No we haven't Sock. Had quite a busy day so far. Don't think they're in at the moment, would rather go when they are in to get the parcel out of the hall.

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Saucery · 11/12/2016 16:05

Who stalks commenters on a thread and goes mer mer me mer mer! I know who you are!

Now that is odd

SoupDragon · 11/12/2016 16:05

I always take parcels for neighbours as I feel sorry for the couriers who are paid peanuts. I never assume they've left a card, I usually send a SmallDragon round with the parcel once I notice the neighbour is back if I can't be arsed to do it myself.

Last time one of the couriers said he would leave a card but clearly hadn't as the neighbour was surprised when I went round with the stack of parcels.

bumsexatthebingo · 11/12/2016 16:07

You have detailed all the times you know they have been in since the parcel was delivered. Not sure how you can be too busy to pop it round yet not too busy for this thread or checking up on your neighbours? You can't both be annoyed about it being in your hall but also unwilling to get rid of it. If it was bothering you that much it would be gone or at least moved somewhere less in the way in your massive 3 storey townhouse

riceuten · 11/12/2016 16:10

Our neighbours are never in and we have taken parcels in, in the past for them, but no more. They don't answer the door (even when home), so it is more or less impossible for us to give it to them. They very occasionally popped round at the weekend to collect them, if they could be bothered. We took to keeping them for 24 hours and then plonking them on their doorstep. They then put a pass-ag notice up on their back gate asking people NOT to put parcels on their back doorstep as they were being nicked!

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 11/12/2016 16:12

Saucery, I do think it is a bit rich of you to be talking about oddness on a thread but agree that backing away slowly is probably a good thing.

For anyone who might still be reading Grin, I'll update later just specifically to let you know whether they'd had a card or not.

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bumsexatthebingo · 11/12/2016 16:22

Let me look into my crystal ball and......I'm betting the update will say no card and the op will be vindicated. They will also drop rubbish on her lawn as they stomp off, wine box in hand, without so much as a thank you

MissJSays · 11/12/2016 16:50

You sound very petty!
Just knock on and ask them to come and collect it, next time you're asked to take a parcel for a neighbour just say sorry I'm not willing to do that.

Problem solved, no?

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 11/12/2016 16:54

Well ... drumroll ... they hadn't had a card. So I wbu to be annoyed at the neighbours but I maintain I wnbu about having an unwanted parcel in my house for days.

Note goes on door tomorrow.

Thank you everyone [tea] and Cake or possibly Wine as it's the weekend.

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 11/12/2016 16:55

Argh Brew

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EnormousTiger · 11/12/2016 17:06

It's a difficult issue. Most of our neighbours are in and I am in most of the time so we don't have similar problems to most people and have a metal box by the door where many couriers will leave parcels if I am not here. however sometimes on neighbour takes mine in and I always try to go as soon as I arrive back so he isn't burdened by knowing it is there waiting for bring it round. Best to get it over and done with. I don't often get neighbours' parcels but I would happily take them in. I answer the door about 5 times a day anyway to post man, deliveries etc etc. I feel ike I need a butler at times to be doing that.

pklme · 11/12/2016 17:59

As far as having things delivered when you are out a lot- we miss parcels then use the number on the delivery note to rearrange for a Saturday.

Doyoufeelluckypunk · 11/12/2016 18:16

Next time just drink the wine!!!!

LouBlue1507 · 11/12/2016 18:19

Why post on AIBU? You clearly don't think you are! Hmm

Sneery · 11/12/2016 18:23

Hmm, so they said they didn't receive a card.....

I bet they were fibbing 😂