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Original poster

To think neighbours should come and collect their parcel?

264 replies

bibbitybobbityyhat · 10/12/2016 21:51

Dh took in a fairly large parcel (think box of wine size) for our neighbours on Thursday or maybe even Wednesday afternoon - I can't remember.

It has been in our narrow one person width hallway since then.

Aibu to be a wee bit pissed off now?

And

Wwyd?

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dontpokethebear · 11/12/2016 00:04

Because you're going on and on and on about what awful, selfish consumerists they are for not picking up their parcel.
IMO the most likely explanation is that they don't know. But that doesn't seem to have occurred to you?!

Original poster
bibbitybobbityyhat · 11/12/2016 00:05

Well spotted Paul.

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HeadElf · 11/12/2016 00:06

I think OP knows full well that the general consensus is right and is now being goady as fuck.

GiddyOnZackHunt · 11/12/2016 00:06

Bibb write a note asking them to collect. Go and knock on their door. If they answer explain that you work from home and it's been a bit frustrating being interrupted. Can they consider other options. If they don't answer put the note through their door and have the same convo when they come round.

Herschellmum · 11/12/2016 00:11

My neighbour a few times has dropped off a parcel to me, but it's simply because driver leaves no note, so I have no idea at all. I think you should give people the benefit of the doubt unless they make a habit of doing it.

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 11/12/2016 00:16

bear, you said I haven't accepted that they might not know. I can't work out why you think that.

They do have a lot of parcels delivered and we get a fair few of them. They do seem to be big consumers, yes. It's never happened before ime that a parcel has been left here at our house in our busy London street where we take in quite a few for our neighbours (despite being miserable curmudgeons!) and the intended recipient has not been aware. But I am prepared to believe this could have happened this time and I haven't said anywhere on the thread that I am not.

Infact, I haven't argued anywhere on the thread that ianbu after my first post Grin. I have been keeping myself busy by challenging people on their made up nonsense.

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Original poster
bibbitybobbityyhat · 11/12/2016 00:17

Goady as fuck you say Headelf?

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oleoleoleole · 11/12/2016 00:27

Has it been taken over to them or have they collected it?

Original poster
bibbitybobbityyhat · 11/12/2016 00:29

It's still here ole. I will be sure to post an update.

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MiddleClassProblem · 11/12/2016 00:43

Do they normally leave it a few days before picking up a parcel?

YellowLambBanana · 11/12/2016 00:54

Jeez what's the harm in taking round their parcel or at least knocking on to let them know it's there ? You could have taken it round numerous times in the time it's taken to post this thread !

My lovely neighbours not only took in a crate of wine delivered to me last week but carried it round for me as was heavy, and I take in and then take round various parcels for other neighbours. Kindness costs nothing OP

WetPaint4 · 11/12/2016 01:05

Yeah I do think you should just let them know you have it but people should generally be as considerate as possible in terms of their parcels. Many items can be collected from a local shop now as part of click and collect, instead of disturbing a neighbour and you can often get guidance around delivery dates or tracking. People should keep on top of shit they're ordering. I appreciate it's not always possible to select a tracked option but most places will be able to let you know when your parcel is due. If you've ordered something, your neighbour shouldn't have to chase you or haul it around for you, no matter how kindly they are. If the OP's neighbours do this frequently and regularly find they are not getting card notifications, they should be doing something about it.

MrsBlennerhassett · 11/12/2016 01:05

OMG i really hope you dont live on our terrace lol! Ive done all my christmas shopping online but im forever missing the door when parcels come because its a three story house and you cant hear the door from the top or back of the middle of the house at all. These parcels seem to come at all times of the day and night now as well, especially from amazon. Had one yesterday at 6pm!
Our neighbours are forever taking them in and bringing them round for us.
Its difficult to keep track especially at christmas. Lost one parcel that they said theyd tried to deliver four times altho i never heard the door nor received a note!
Weve taken in a few parcels for people as well and also had neighbours come knocking for parcels we didnt have.
Its just what happens this month i think most people just deal with it. I wouldnt personally get annoyed about it and i hope none of my nieghbours are!

Ohyesiam · 11/12/2016 01:05

Wow op, if you get this upset about having a parcel in your hall, listening to the news must be torture, all that child poverty, suffering and destruction, exploitation and travesty of justice. It must play havoc with your nervous system.

MrsBlennerhassett · 11/12/2016 01:07

Oh i see you live in London.... i suppose thats a bit different then as i live in quite a rural location so people on our terrace do generally order alot of things including big food orders that come in trucks etc Its more understandable here because if you dont have a car you cant really do any shopping except online

Floggingmolly · 11/12/2016 01:08

How come all your neighbours can hear their doorbell, MrsBlenner?

Comedyusername · 11/12/2016 01:12

I nearly started a thread on this very same thread the other day. I'm glad I didn't!!

I took in 4 parcels for one address on Thursday, got annoyed that they didn't pick them up, complained about it to my mum on Friday who then said, why don't you go round there? I did. The guy apologised, I accepted it, and we all moved on.

But I do agree with the OP, that if you're the one who is always home during the daytime, the drivers know this and will always try you first. They tend to be paid on the number of successful deliveries so it's in their interest to find someone to drop it with. If it's inconvenient to take a parcel in, I'll just not open the door and sometimes hide Blush

monkeysox · 11/12/2016 08:42

Help your neighbours where possible. There are some right miseries here.
Our former neighbour took in an ikea delivery once. Pile of huge boxes. They were nice.

londonrach · 11/12/2016 08:45

Had a parcel for a neighbour for the last thinking they rude not collecting etc. Saturday came so knew they in so popped it around. They knew nothing about it as no card left.

LineyReborn · 11/12/2016 08:47

Not leaving cards seems to widespread and is a bit worrying.

Saucery · 11/12/2016 09:07

It's very annoying when they don't leave cards. I had to email a supplier to be breezily told "oh, they say it was left a week ago, with X at No. 123345"
I'm not a mind reader and X did apologise profusely for not bringing it round as it slipped their mind they had it.

Witchend · 11/12/2016 09:12

I had a card dropped off the other day saying my parcel had been dropped off at "Mr G". I don't know my neighbours' surnames, but that was irrelevant because when my neighbours came to drop it off they have no names beginning with the letter G.

A couple of years ago I took a parcel in for about four doors down. When I took it round the chap nearly burst into tears. They'd put the wrong number on the card, and he'd been trying to locate it, but hadn't thought of going as far up as us.

It takes five minutes to knock on a door and ask. Much less energy than sitting chuntering.

MiddleClassProblem · 11/12/2016 09:21

Wasn't your address on the parcel, Witchend?

We've had parcels left outside for someone at the same number and street name in the next town! We had to take it over ourselves as they didn't leave a card saying it was in a safe place because it was in the corner of our porch for anyone to take

Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 11/12/2016 09:21

How sodding miserable! If we can't take a bloody parcel in for a neighbour then what is going on?

You and your husband sound a right pair of miserable so and so's OP.

Go on, post your ridiculous note on the door- at least that way your neighbours will know the kind of people they live next door to and can return the favour in kind should you ever need help with anything.

I'm so glad I live in a friendly Street where people don't obsess over what's in people's bins and begrudge taking a parcel in! I've got a 50" tv in my hall at the moment for next door but one- I'm not losing my mind, I'm happy to take it if into helps out my neighbour.

Biscuit for you and your DH OP, merry christmas! Smile

oleoleoleole · 11/12/2016 09:27

Email parcel company. Say parcel not collected. Can they confirm a card was left with neighbour?