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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

To think neighbours should come and collect their parcel?

264 replies

bibbitybobbityyhat · 10/12/2016 21:51

Dh took in a fairly large parcel (think box of wine size) for our neighbours on Thursday or maybe even Wednesday afternoon - I can't remember.

It has been in our narrow one person width hallway since then.

Aibu to be a wee bit pissed off now?

And

Wwyd?

OP posts:

EnormousTiger · 12/12/2016 07:14

People just have different views so if we can all just be kind to others in life things tend to get sorted out. I don't like undone tasks. So if a neighbour's parcel comes in here (unilkely as all the houses around have mostly at least one person in all day and I work from home) then I take it round as soon as I get back to be done with it.

I prefer it when delivery men for my own parcels leave a card (or even better that they leave the parcel at the door - very very quiet private road, metal box by door (not locked) but some need a signature so then it might go to a neighbour's. I just about always answer the bell here even if on a business conference call (am lawyer) to in 5 countries which yes is what I might well be doing at home.

Toast3 · 12/12/2016 08:03

I think if they are out all day and just expect you (or others neighbours) to take in their parcels without asking it's a bit cheeky. Maybe drop it back round and say that you can't do it again. I take in parcels for neighbours and vice verca but they're great neighbours and we are happy to do it.

SoupDragon · 12/12/2016 08:10

It's not usual to take parcels round to neighbours is it?

I do because then it is at a time convenient to me and not when we are eating or whatever. However, if I have a "you were out" card I go and collect it as soon as I can.

You expect them to come and collect from you. You expect the courier company to have left a card through their door.

I expect precisely nothing.

Boomerwang · 12/12/2016 08:17

Thanks for this thread. I'm picturing a flock of birds squabbling over the highest branch :)

EBearhug · 12/12/2016 10:59

I don't expect neighbours to take in my parcels. I know where most of the courier company depots are round here, as I've collected from many of them at some point, and collected a parcel from the Royal Mail sorting office this morning. But most companies do try to deliver, and sometimes neighbours take them in, because they're nice. I have also taken in deliveries for neighbours when I've been working from home. It doesn't quite balance out, but it mostly does.

DeepanKrispanEven · 12/12/2016 12:57

It's not usual to take parcels round to neighbours is it? I've never done it before in my many years of accepting parcels for neighbours.

I usually do, just because I don't want them cluttering up our hall and I want to deal with it at a time convenient to me rather than having the neighbours disturbing me when I'm in the middle of cooking or slobbing around in a dressing gown watching TV. If it's too big to take and hasn't gone within a day, I do knock to let them know.

BreatheDeep · 12/12/2016 13:25

I have a parcel for my neighbour delivered this morning. It's sitting in my living room as I don't even have enough the luxury of a hallway for it to clutter. I expect they'll be around later to get it but if not I'll get DH to pop it around to them tomorrow. I'm 41 weeks pregnant.

To me this is normal life. I'm not bothered about it.

HeadElf · 12/12/2016 13:30

BreatheDeep good luck with your other pending delivery

shovetheholly · 12/12/2016 13:34

It might not be their fault - maybe no card was left? Maybe the card was left but accidentally got chucked in the mountains of paper that come through the door these days. If it's bothering you, just go knock on their door!

The time it takes to post about it, you could have got rid of it!

Also, it really pays to do a good turn to your neighbours and to keep relations friendly. You have to live around each other -it might as well be a joy, and not a misery. I've always tried to get along with mine and to give more than I take. Fate just didn't like that balance, though. A few years ago, I became really ill and one day I collapsed in my front room. My neighbour from over the road saw me fall, knew that next door have a key, and working together they were able to get in within a couple of minutes. They had me in an ambulance in no time. I figure I now owe them a lifetime of parcel collection and trips to the shops!

TheViceOfReason · 12/12/2016 13:36

Christ, OP you come off as a total nut job based on this thread.

Why on earth have you created such a palaver over this? Surely the simple - and obvious - course of action would have been to have nipped over to the neighbours (minus parcel) and rung the bell?

If they answered - simply say - i have a parcel for you - can you come over and collect it now?

If they didn't answer - pop a note through the door saying "A parcel was delivered for you to Number x - please come and collect it ASAP".

It would have saved so much apparent stress on your part, and would have saved you a huge amount of time compared to what you've wasted on this weird post.

Putting a sign up saying you won't take parcels in for anybody seems a very good move when it clearly causes you so much angst.

HeadElf · 12/12/2016 13:40

My neighbours took in a mattress for me this morning whilst I was at the doctors, when I pulled up he was carrying it over and even popped it in the house for me - the horror I must have caused him

yoowhoo · 12/12/2016 13:43

God... I've not read the whole thread as it's 11 pages long but read about 4 pages then the ops update.
I'm so happy to see that the majority were disagreeing with the op. I would hate to think we were becoming an unneighbourly world!
I'm sorry op but nearly choked on my lunch when you tried to compare taking in a parcel to a stay at home mum providing childcare to someone else!
How dare you judge your neighbours on how many parcels they have? It's Christmas for a start. I have lots of people to buy for and work ridiculously long hours and while I try to physically shop as much as possible, it just doesn't always happen! Online shopping is the way the world works at the moment as people are too busy to shop. When I'm at home I always take in parcels and my neighbours do the same for me. We all appreciate it..if you don't want to take in a parcel... just don't answer the door!

BreatheDeep · 12/12/2016 13:45

Thanks HeadElf

mummytime · 12/12/2016 14:03

I have two parcels that apparently were delivered to my neighbour with the surname "Smith", only no card was left with me so I didn't even know that much until I chased the parcels. I don't know a neighbour called Smith. It could be someone several doors down the road, only I'm not sure of their surname (and why not a nearer neighbour who would be at least as likely to be in - never mind that someone is almost always in at ours..).
Of course it could have been a delivery driver signing for a parcel to get rid of it and having dumped it...

Maybe that is what has happened in your case?

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