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Original poster

To think neighbours should come and collect their parcel?

264 replies

bibbitybobbityyhat · 10/12/2016 21:51

Dh took in a fairly large parcel (think box of wine size) for our neighbours on Thursday or maybe even Wednesday afternoon - I can't remember.

It has been in our narrow one person width hallway since then.

Aibu to be a wee bit pissed off now?

And

Wwyd?

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DailyMailyFaily · 10/12/2016 23:37

OP, I think you come across just fine in this thread and I think it's ok to not accept parcels for neighbours if you don't want to.

I sometimes don't with my neighbours if it's not convenient for me. I don't mind doing it occasionally but I don't want to do it all the time. Seems reasonable to me.

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 10/12/2016 23:39

I was hoping people would agree with me PaulAnka. Isn't that what AIBU is for? you think you're right but you just want to double check.

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WorraLiberty · 10/12/2016 23:39

Actually the neighbours are probably too scared to come and collect it Xmas Grin

"Oh fuck, it's gone to that house".

"Which house?"

"You know, her with the face?"

"You go and get it!"

"No way, you go, you ordered it!"

"Let's draw straws".

"No fuck that, let's just leave it and buy Aunt Olive a bath set instead".

Starlight2345 · 10/12/2016 23:39

well now you know... Hope this thread has helped clear things up for you.

Parkourbench · 10/12/2016 23:40

Wow how miserable Confused

DailyMailyFaily · 10/12/2016 23:40

Lol at the posters being outraged at the OP and calling her a drama lama.

Grin
PaulAnkaTheDog · 10/12/2016 23:41

I'm wondering if "miserable and unhelpful sod" is now verging on the personal attack? It would be interesting to ask HQ as the rules are a bit vague just now.

That sounds like it's bordering on spiteful. You really don't like how this is going, do you?! Ask away to mnhq, it won't make the reading of this thread any better though...

Just to reiterate...

YABU!

PaulAnkaTheDog · 10/12/2016 23:43

But you wouldn't accept ywbu. So why ask if you weren't willing to accept the general consensus?

sushisack · 10/12/2016 23:46

A box of wine isn't that big.

DailyMailyFaily · 10/12/2016 23:47

Some posters are coming across as though they are desperate to have a fight and it's not the OP. It pathetic and childish.

There is nothing wrong with disagreeing with the OP but there isn't any need to be so nasty about it.

sushisack · 10/12/2016 23:47

So it might take me two minutes round trip from leaving my desk where I'm working upstairs to go down, sign for a parcel and get back to my desk

Oh the horror! Grin

LadyBusDriver · 10/12/2016 23:47

Maybe they're away? Do you know they've gone home or assuming?
Just knock and ask them to come and get it if it bothers you that much. Job done!

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 10/12/2016 23:48

The general consensus has become a massive side issue to me now, tbh Paul. I got sidetracked into all sorts of spin offs. But I'm pleased to see you think describing me as an unhelpful and miserable sod could be seen as spiteful.

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 10/12/2016 23:50

Sushi - it gets tiresome at this time of year. You don't think this is the only parcel we have taken in lately do you?

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Floggingmolly · 10/12/2016 23:50

Why would anyone want someone else's boxes cluttering up their hallway? Random anecdote; at ds2's birthday party a couple of years ago, the parent of twins he'd invited decided she needed to stay.
Fair enough, but I discovered later that she'd gone shopping on the way, bought an industrial sized package of toilet rolls (there seemed to be hundreds of the bloody things)and brought them into the house with her Confused
Any guests coming after her arrival had to shimmy round the toilet roll mountain to get into the house (narrow passageway).
I was mortified. Sorry to derail...

WorraLiberty · 10/12/2016 23:54

To be fair, on this particular issue, the words miserable and unhelpful do seem to be fairly descriptive, rather than a personal attack.

'Sod' is obviously insulting but as far as insults go, it's just about the mildest you can get, although I accept an insult is still an insult.

Either way, just put your sign up if that makes you happy in some way.

But if you're not going to knock and tell the neighbours you have a parcel for them that needs collecting, then you'll just have to put up with the hallway obstruction really.

Pluto30 · 10/12/2016 23:54

Do they even know you have it? Confused

ThPrincess · 10/12/2016 23:56

maybe they have been knocking when you are not in, i have had this isue for the last month the neighbor is never in

WorraLiberty · 10/12/2016 23:56

Why would anyone want someone else's boxes cluttering up their hallway?

Indeed I certainly wouldn't.

Hence the reason I'd give them a quick drama free knock and ask them to come and get it, if I couldn't manage to/didn't want to pop it over to them.

dontpokethebear · 10/12/2016 23:56

I'm not sure why you refuse to accept that the courier may not have posted a card through their door?
Baffling.

CoffeeCoffeeAndLotsOfIt · 10/12/2016 23:58

As it's heavy, put a note through the note stating you have their parcel and ask them to collect it. Job done.

Bogeyface · 10/12/2016 23:58

YANBU

We had a similar issue and in the end I would answer the door and if it was for next door I would say "Sorry, we dont take in parcels for them", would happily take for the others neighbours though. The piss take was that they were fucking nightmare neighbours and hated us, but would put my address as an alternative! I only found that out when I driver pretty much tried to force me to take it saying that I had been put down as the alternative. I said that they didnt have my permission to do that so I wasnt taking it. Had a couple more attempted deliveries which I refused and then oddly enough, it stopped happening :o

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 10/12/2016 23:59

dontpokethebear don't be baffled! where have I not accepted that the courier might not have put a note through the door?

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PaulAnkaTheDog · 11/12/2016 00:01

Well now you're being intentionally obtuse.

birdladyfromhomealone · 11/12/2016 00:02

Op it is the season of goodwill-where's yours?

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