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Aibu to feel massively left out?

351 replies

Pritchyx · 04/12/2016 09:31

I work in the motor trade for a very busy dealership. There is 3 receptionists including myself. Anyway, yesterday one of my receptionist colleagues got married.
Every person in our dealership bar workshop technicians (she doesn't know them as they're separated from us) were invited. Except me.
I've got to work this morning and everybody is talking about how good it was etc. And people coming upto me asking why I wasn't there... I felt horrifically stupid for replying "I wasn't invited"... A few colleagues who have only been there a month, if that were also invited... I've worked with her for months and knew her prior to her working with me, but only in passing.

Aibu to feel really left out?

OP posts:
DeeNR · 13/12/2016 22:31

Good luck Op. If it was deliberate then she is fucking horrible, whatever excuse she comes out with. I really hope you get to the bottom of it and that it turns out she's gutted because she assumed you'd be there. I really hope it was a breakdown in communication and not the nasty viscous personal attack it appears. You are not being unreasonable, just really hope it turns out to be a misunderstanding

KirstyLaura · 14/12/2016 09:58

I've been waiting for the 14th to roll around! Let us know how it goes OP. I'm glad you didn't message her back.

Aeroflotgirl · 15/12/2016 07:45

Let us know how it goes today, as she's back. Just be professionally polite. Good morning, that's it. Don't speak to her unless you have to. If she asks what's wrong, I wod tell her, not ummm nothing. But only if she asks.

FourToTheFloor · 15/12/2016 07:51

Having rtft I need to know now if OP is going to ask!

Aeroflotgirl · 15/12/2016 07:57

I don't think op should ask, if she asks what's wrong as she sees op as unusually cool towards her, then she should tell her.

laurenandsophie · 15/12/2016 08:41

placemarking unashamedly Grin

Pumpkin2010 · 15/12/2016 08:49

Same Xmas Grin

kiwimumof2boys · 15/12/2016 09:50

Haha me too! Xmas Smile

myfavouritecolourispurple · 15/12/2016 10:48

Hope the OP comes back to update us. Please do OP!

Aeroflotgirl · 15/12/2016 10:54

She is probably busy at work, so will look forward to an update later mabey.

Freshprincess · 15/12/2016 15:47

Marking place to get this back on my TIO.

Dying to know what the bride bitch said.

DearSantaDefineGood · 15/12/2016 16:04

Joining the placemarking squad 😀

YoHoHoandabottleofTequila · 15/12/2016 16:05

Totally placemarking....

CalmItKermitt · 15/12/2016 16:12

It's beyond odd!

buckeejit · 15/12/2016 16:22

That's awful. Particularly if your line manager excluded only you-on that occasion I would definitely be asking why!

DeeNR · 15/12/2016 21:48

So?

Ibloodyhatethomasthetankengine · 15/12/2016 21:50

Ditto!

suspiciousdelicious · 15/12/2016 21:59

Samesies

RebeccatheOld · 16/12/2016 08:16

Whhhhaaatt happppeeened

Please tell us!!

maybeshesawomble · 16/12/2016 08:18

Damn I thought the fact the thread had been bumped meant there was an update. I was hoping to hear it was all a huge misunderstanding Star

Original poster
Pritchyx · 16/12/2016 08:49

morning all...

Basically, yesterday was awkward. She came in and was like "hi! How are you? Is everything okay.. how's your little girl etc" V enthusiastic...
I literally replied "we're both fine thanks".

We didn't speak about the wedding whatsoever as we was busy yesterday and I was in a right shite mood anyway...
Told her I have hospital for today and she went "oh okay. That'll have to be your lunch break." Got a bit arsey about that, as I'm not voluntarily going to see my consultant nor sitting in a hot sweaty hospital!!

People have noticed things are a bit awkward because of the situation. But choosing not to point it out. Just being cold but remaining professional. I think she's noticed it too as she keeps trying to make idle conversation but getting nowhere.

Also overheard a conversation she had with one of the other girls that her mum didn't turn up to her wedding Shock so do feel a bit sympathetic towards her but it isn't my problem!!

Oh and she's "unwell" but may be going Xmas party tomorrow, all depends "if she's better"... fun times for me! Hmm

OP posts:
ClarissaDarling · 16/12/2016 08:52

Am Prob being a cow but she's prob trying to deflect from wedding chat to 'poor her, not well'!!

PassiveAgressiveQueen · 16/12/2016 08:57

You are in a kill or cure situation, you can't make things worse by asking can you.

Aeroflotgirl · 16/12/2016 09:28

Thanks for updating, she sounds a right two faced cow, now you seen her for who she is. Yes I agree, she is trying to deflect the situation, by the 'poor me thing', she deserves everything she gets nasty person. Just remain cool and professional. Please update about the Christmas party Xmas Grin.

Aeroflotgirl · 16/12/2016 09:33

Wtf about your medical appointment being your lunch break, no you are allowed time in work for medical appointments. I would have pointed that out to her, is she your manager? No no, tell her, no that will not be happening, go to your senior manager about that. It does not sound right!