Brother being overly loud with friends at 10pm....,,

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So I've come up to stay with my mum this weekend as it's her birthday tomorrow and she needs help at her shop today as she's short staffed so I had to come up last night in order to work today. Now I've come up with my DP and 5 month lb. my brother and his friends are 22 and were playing PlayStation. Come 9:50 I had txt him to say we were shattered my lb was asleep could they please keep the noise down, so we could go to bed. 5 mins later they're shouting again so I knock on his door and again ask them to please keep the noise down as we're trying to sleep and my lb was going to get woken up. 20 mins after that I start getting txt from him saying he's got his mates round and how this is his home and he doesn't moan when my lb wakes him up at the early hours of the morning. My mum was out at the time and when she got back I also got txt from her saying this is my brothers home he shouldn't have to be silent and if my little boy was tired he'd sleep through the noise (I think he downplayed how loud he actually was) I explained how loud he was being but she still insisted I was out of order. Even though he would never be that loud if she was in. We live 90 miles away so don't have anywhere else to stay but please tell me if IABU in texting him last night and going into his room just before 10pm asking him and his friends to keep the noise down? Sorry long winded post xx

He's acting like a 15 year old and your mother is enabling it.

10pm on a Friday night when your in his house does sound a bit unfair.

Are there any travel lodge type places locally you could use in future?

10 o'clock on a Friday night is early to be telling him to be quiet, in his own home

Yes baby did wake up and I had managed to get him back off to sleep.

I understand it's a Friday night but still with such a young child in the house do they really need to be so loud?

If I didn't have to help my mum out at work then I would've come up today instead

If also like to point out he's never that loud when my mum is home, she never goes out it was only cause my little sister had a show she went to watch her last night

10pm, Friday night, own house. YABU.

Still BU

I think YAB a bit U. Midnight maybe, not just before 10.

As you were there doing your mum a favour, YANBU to ask him to keep the noise down. You didn't ask him to be silent, just to curb the shouting out of consideration for your baby.

Groups of lads with a PlayStation ARE loud, it's his house, he has a point.

YANBU, and your mother appears to be forgetting that you're there as she needs help!

Yabu , his house at 10pm is early. Your mum is right.

I think YABU - 10pm is quite early and it is his house. I presume your brother wasn't the one that invited you?

Another saying you are unreasonable, it's his house and it was early!

Perhaps next time start in the shop later and travel in the morning.

Sorry 10pm is a bit early to be demanding quiet.

I agree that it's his house and 10pm isn't that late for a Friday night.

However...most people would be more considerate about staying quiet with a baby in the house. You were not BU to ask him politely to keep the noise down and he was acting more like a teenager than a 22 year old.

Well ... it is his house, and 10pm isn't late for most people. I don't think you can really expect people to revolve around you and your child in their own house.

Equally, as you had only come to the house as a favour to your mum, it would have been nice if she'd told your brother in advance that you and your child might need an early night so he could perhaps make other plans.

To be honest it sounds like you and your brother have done that sibling thing where you regress to being bickering kids in each other's company. I know that happens between me and my brother sometimes. I can see both sides of this one but I think you just need to move on and bear it in mind for your next visit so you can all be prepared.

You are helping her out yes?

Perhaps next time, let your brother help her and stay home.

10pm on a Friday night is really not late. After midnight maybe. But you're the visitor so I think maybe you should have left it up to your mum to sort out when she got in. It was bound to get his back up when he lives there and you don't.

Don't help her out again.
Let him do it.

Ok so with everyone saying it's me BU then maybe it is.
My brother can't help he as it's a barber shop and only I'm qualified out of my sinlings they don't do that trade.
I only ask as he expects everyone to be quiet on a weekend still in the morning but he makes loads of noise at all hours.
If I had the money to stay in a travel lodge I would

Thanks everyone for your responses, to be honest I've been made to feel a bit uncomfortable and am so tempted to just drive back home (2hour drive)
I'm also pregnant again so am maybe being over emotional

I can't be bothered with inconsiderate people, especially when you are doing someone a favour..

Go home and leave them to it. YmightBabitU about 10pm but when pregnant & with 5 month old it is understandable.
I wouldn't bother helping out again if they cannot make any concessions for you.