AIBU to say DH can't see his elderly father?

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We live overseas and sadly don't get to see our family as much as we would like. This Christmas I was desperate to come home as we have a new baby in the family, sadly we can't really afford to. My dh travels to Europe frequently. (We are in US) he will be traveling to Germany just before Xmas and would like to pay extra to also visit his family in the UK. I don't normally have a problem with this, I think it makes sense and is nice for his elderly father, however he last visited them in September and I have not seen my family in almost a year. I realize that changing his flight is obviously nowhere near as expensive as flying from the US, but it is still coming from money we could use for a whole family visit. I do not want him to spend the extra to fly to the uk because although I feel really really selfish as his dad is elderly and I want them to spend time together, I miss my family too and want to save up for us all to go. Am I being a selfish arse?

I mentioned that about 3 pages back but the OP didn't comment on it!

I mentioned that about 3 pages back but the OP didn't comment on it!

He would have to change the dates of his travel back to the states to accommodate going to the uk and it carries a penalty charge on the ticket which at this time of the year could be very pricey. But two thirds of the price of an actual return flight? Im not so sure.

yanbu.

sod oh no poor dh how willyou feel if something happens to his dad between now and march? how do you think the op will feel if something happenes between march and whenever they can now afford to see her family who she hasn't seen for over a year?

his spending money to see his dad is preventing you seeing your parents.

No Peely it would cost that much to change his tickets to travel back from the UK, not from Germany. I used to live in the Caribbean and it rarely cost much, and sometimes nothing, to change the time/date of the return leg. I remember once having a 3 hour wait and asked how much it would cost to make the wait 4 days and it didn't cost a penny, so we had a short vacation (which did cost several pennies!). I was just wondering if the OP's DH had that option and could change the return date from Germany at a minimal cost and then fly/train/drive/coach to England and back.

My grandchildren, yes, I see what you mean, but nothing suggested has been considered doable.