AIBU to not want the nanny having her phone with her?

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I don't mean not physically on her, but her not using it when she is meant to be looking after my child. I often notice her on her phone and DC nudging her and her saying one minute, etc. I work from home, so I tend to see what's going on and if I'm going past I do occasionally mention it but she claims that my DC is happy doing x, y and z so she thought she'd quickly reply to an email/text, etc.

AIBU to think this isn't okay?

This nanny isn't in this position though. She has a 6 hour day and a quarter of that time is spent on breaks.

If she works more than 6 hours she is entitled to 15 minutes break. If she gets that then she should use her phone then. If she doesn't then it's unrealistic to expect someone to not use their phone at all, all day long.

It's perfectly lawful to ban phones at work or jsut allow her to get it out for 15 mins when the baby sleeps.

Loads of jobs prohibit phone use at work, many many many jobs.

Does this nanny have kids of her own?? Maybe she's leaving her own kids to look after the ops kids and wants to check up
On them?

Does this nanny have kids of her own?? Maybe she's leaving her own kids to look after the ops kids and wants to check up on them?
I imagine a lot of working parents can't check on their children while at work.
Anyway, she has a 15min break every hour, isn't that more than enough time to check on your children or do any other personal thing you need to?

I'd be really interested to know how you can up with the "15 min break every hour" set up, it's mad!

If she was looking after the child in Pre-school or Nursery setting she would only have access to her phone on her lunch break. You are on the premises in case of emergency so she doesn't need it on her all the time. My phone is in my locker all day and the world hasn't ground to a halt yet

I don't actually think she does get that many breaks to be honest . Imagine breaking off every 45 mins for a break I just don't believe it. Would love to hear the nannys side .

It's utterly bizarre. I can't even imagine the conversation.

Nanny: "By the way, I need to have a quarter of every single hour off"
OP: "OK"

I mean, WTF??!!!

i am amazed by all of you who are shocked that the nanny said wait a minute

yes she is paid to look after/play/respond to them, but sometimes children have to wait

its good to teach them not wait/not interrupt

do you all jump to attention asap everytime your kid speaks

she could have been on internet banking where as on mine if dont respond within 30sec it will lock you out

as said previously if works 11/12hr days then can have a fiddle on phone here and there

but as has breaks every 45mins sure she can wait till then to do stuff check fb, mn, email

then again op i wouldnt be giving nanny breaks every hour

if you are at home and she works 9-3, then maybe 12.30/1 have few mins to eat lunch/chill etc

but

its not normal in nannying

First. World. Problems.....

I can't believe so many people think this thread should be about the OP and why she needs a nanny. I think she is unreasonable about phones, I think her nanny is shit, but I don't think it's anyone else's business why she wants to pay a professional for childcare.

Ofsted have guidelines for Childcare and every person who works in Childcare as a profession is required to follow them. Playgroups have a strict rule in regards to mobile phones - they are not allowed in the playgroup setting. Every staff member must put their mobile phone into a box or cupboard at the beginning of the session and collect them at the end of the session. There are good reasons for this; safeguarding and attention to work. I don't think it matters what your opinion is in regards to your nanny using her phone or even what opinions other people have. There is a professional standard that must be maintained within childcare and your Nanny is not maintaining it. When you speak to your Nanny about her use of the phone during work time I suggest you do not say this is your opinion but use the authority of Ofsted and other Child care institutions to back up your request that she no longer uses her phone whilst looking after your child.

Mummyvicar you are talking about a nursery situation it's completely different in nannying . I am always messaging my boss as she does me she certainly would not want my phone off.

Mummyvicar: That simply isn't true, is it? Your nanny can nanny your children as informally as you wish because she/he isn't a childminder or nursery worker.

Personally, I think this depends on the situation. If the nanny is on her phone for legitimate reasons, such as arranging a play date or checking the weather for the rest of the day for instance, then I think it is fine for the nanny to do so if the child is engaged in there own activity. However, if the nanny is using there phone for personal pleasure then I don't think it is acceptable to be doing so when taking care of a child - especially if they're being given breaks in which they can do this. Not only are you paying this nanny, you are also intrusting them to take care of your child and although you can't watch a child constantly, being distracted briefly because of a legitimate reason/situation is completely different than not watching the child because you are on your phone. So I think this is definitely something that needs to be properly brought up again with your nanny, express your concerns and suggest she doesn't occupy herself throughout the day with her phone unless it is for a legitimate reason.

Mumnyvicar you are talking nonsense - OFSTED have no authority whatsoever over nannies, nannies do not have to be OFSTED registered and are not inspected.

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My kids are beyond nanny age or being accompanied to the park, but when I did accompany them, only a few years ago, nearly every nanny in sight (and there were scores, all vaguely known) was constantly on their phone, with occasional breaks. I have to add though that many of the mums I knew (also vaguely) were also on their phones, but a lower proportion. When I had a nanny, I know she was often on the phone too (from reports by the kids).

It's the modern way innit? But you are not being unreasonable. She's supposed to be at work, not gassing with her mates.

Mummyvicar I'm a childminder and regulated by Ofsted. I'm 'allowed' to use my phone. There are different guidelines for different childcare professionals. Nanny's can also be Ofsted registered (not all are) and they can still use their phones appropriately

I was 'nanny', ahem!.....mother's help was the correct term but the missus, who thought she was 'it', told her posh friends she had a nanny. I call the job 'mother's slave', and it was/is a crap job. Bringing up your own kids is bad enough, but at least in 18 years time, you can be proud of the job you've achieved. The 'nanny' won't have that pleasure. My first job was at the age of 15, I lasted a week, the second job I was 21, in Chiswick, lasted for 4 months, the third and final job was at 29, lasted 7 months. Tell her you do not want her to use her 'phone, at all, when she's 'on duty', and I think she may give notice.

Little red are you op's nanny?!

Something seems not quite right about this thread - the OP claims that she only gets paid for working 2 days a week, yet she spends 5 days working "solving crimes", and can afford to pay a nanny for 5 days even though she's only paid for 2 days?? And on her working days, she takes breaks every hour and hovers over the nanny.