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To not have got anything for my colleague at Greggs?

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JustGettingStarted · 02/12/2016 19:21

That's right! A Greggs thread! Grin

I was in Edinburgh on business last week and a colleague was staying in the same hotel. I got up before sunrise to walk across town in freezing cold to go to the gym. Any virtuous points were forfeited when I stopped at Greggs for a bacon roll and coffee. The queue was out the door and it was a long wait, but I love a bacon roll!

Just after I had ordered and paid my colleague texted to ask if I wanted to meet for breakfast. I replied that I had just ordered at Greggs. My order was then served to me and when I was putting sugar in, she texted again: "Oh, lovely. Could you please get me a latte and a pain au chocolat? Bring it to my room and I will pay you back."

The queue was even longer by now and I just wanted to walk back with my room and eat on the way. So I texted "I'm sorry, I've already paid and received my order and the queue is out the door." I then walked back.

I guess the sound of traffic blocked the next ping, and I didn't see that she'd texted "Oh, please? I am really craving it and it's just so cold out. Please?" I didn't hear until the next ping which was for a second text: "????"

I replied that I was now on my way back, sorry.

Colleague was pretty miffed with me when she saw me later. She seemed to think that I had been selfish.

Not sure if this is relevant, but I find her a bit clingy She asked me to eat every meal with her and badgered me daily to ride on the attractions at the Christmas fair in Princess Street Gardens, although I repeatedly said that I had no desire to swing about in baskets 60 metres up in the freezing cold. She also texts me stupid questions like I'm her personal Google "What's the best pain killer for muscle aches?" "what's the weather forecast for tomorrow "

So maybe I was being mean?

To be honest, I wanted to just eat my roll with one hand and drink my coffee with the other and not carry her stuff.

WIBU?

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OutDamnedWind · 02/12/2016 19:23

YANBU, and she needs to chill!

iveburntthetoast · 02/12/2016 19:23

Given everything you've said about her, YANBU. If you're lucky, you might have pissed her off enough that she won't bother you again.

Ginslinger · 02/12/2016 19:24

I get that she's annoying but I'd probably have queued again and eaten my roll while queuing and then ordered another one when I got to the front

LindyHemming · 02/12/2016 19:25

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Tootsiepops · 02/12/2016 19:26

That's the sort of whiny text I'd send my husband or my best friend of 30+ years

Never in a million years would I speak that way to a colleague.

YANBU. I'd tell her to do one.

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JustGettingStarted · 02/12/2016 19:27

toast I'm afraid not. Today she texted me whilst I was getting my hair done. She wasn't happy with her highlights at the same salon with a different guy and had complained and I had recommended my colourist. So she had me book her in with him. Like, I had to go to the receptionist with foils in my hair and talk to the lady and text tennis with the colleague and get her booked in.

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IzzyWotNotNoo · 02/12/2016 19:27

Oh.

I knew someone like this.

Very needy and was always trying to send me on errands as if to prove my love for her or something?

YANBU.

QueenArseClangers · 02/12/2016 19:29

She sounds hard work. Didn't the hotel serve coffee and pastries? The lazy fecker.

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JustGettingStarted · 02/12/2016 19:30

I have another colleague whom I adore. I probably would have done it for her. So I suppose I was BU.

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JustGettingStarted · 02/12/2016 19:30

The hotel served lovely pain au chocolat and she had a breakfast voucher!

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OccasionalNachos · 02/12/2016 19:31

I live in Edinburgh & am trying to figure out which Greggs now Grin

YWNBU at all, she sounds very hard work

Sweets101 · 02/12/2016 19:32

Yanbu. Re the highlights i'd have just text back the number for the salon.

haveacupoftea · 02/12/2016 19:33

She sounds deranged.

Packergator · 02/12/2016 19:33

I love Greggs pain au chocolat. They're always slightly underbaked at our local branch, so the pastry is all soft and yielding...mmm...misses point of thread

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JustGettingStarted · 02/12/2016 19:36

nachos It was a Greggs between the Greyfriars Bobby pub and the University. My gym was across from that posh old private school and my hotel was next to Waverley station.

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Patriciathestripper1 · 02/12/2016 19:37

What a hardship to have someone you work with that enjoys your company! Work can be boring and maybe she just values you and your intelligence. I think you were a bit mean. And perhaps not worthy of a friend.

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 02/12/2016 19:38

Maybe just stop texting?

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JustGettingStarted · 02/12/2016 19:39

Well, I gave her a place to live for several months when she became homeless due to her general haplessness, so I know I'm not utterly evil.

I just prefer to do my own thing most of the time.

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MissVictoria · 02/12/2016 19:44

Queuing is boring and annoying, it was out the door so out in the cold, and you had your own food and drink you wanted to eat and drink whilst it was warm. IF you hadn't already been served and were in a position you could have just added it to your order but hadn't, that would have been mean, but you weren't, you'd have had to re queue again, and her asking you to do that and let your own food either go cold or awkwardly eat it in packed queue, was the selfish one.

expatinscotland · 02/12/2016 19:44

Yanbu

PaulAnkaTheDog · 02/12/2016 19:46

I'm just wracking my brain trying to think what Greggs in Edinburgh ever has a queue outside it first thing in the morning!

Iwannabelikecommonpeople · 02/12/2016 19:47

I prob would have queued up again for her and got a 2nd bacon roll for myself Grin Is she someone you would normally socialise with out of work?

myusernamewastaken · 02/12/2016 19:50

I wouldnt have bought her food either....ive picked up bits for others before and not been paid back so am reluctant to do it now.

CoraPirbright · 02/12/2016 19:50

Given that you put her up when she became homeless, perhaps she considers you to be really close friends? Sounds weird to me though - why couldn't she book herself into the colourist? What is wrong with her phone?? Also, if the hotel also had pain au choc and she had a voucher, how bloody strange to send pestering, pleading texts to you. Has she cast you in a motherly type role, do you think? She sounds v childish to me.

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JustGettingStarted · 02/12/2016 19:53

It was going on 9am by then... Just before work so there was a queue.

I used to socialise with her more - I'd see her a few times a year. Then over the summer she became homeless and I let her stay in a flat I didn't use much. That's when I discovered how utterly needy she is.

We're both self employed in the same industry. In fact we're competing with one another. So I got annoyed when she showed up in the same hotel in the same city as me. She even changed her train ticket home so that we could travel together.

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