To not have got anything for my colleague at Greggs?

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That's right! A Greggs thread!

I was in Edinburgh on business last week and a colleague was staying in the same hotel. I got up before sunrise to walk across town in freezing cold to go to the gym. Any virtuous points were forfeited when I stopped at Greggs for a bacon roll and coffee. The queue was out the door and it was a long wait, but I love a bacon roll!

Just after I had ordered and paid my colleague texted to ask if I wanted to meet for breakfast. I replied that I had just ordered at Greggs. My order was then served to me and when I was putting sugar in, she texted again: "Oh, lovely. Could you please get me a latte and a pain au chocolat? Bring it to my room and I will pay you back."

The queue was even longer by now and I just wanted to walk back with my room and eat on the way. So I texted "I'm sorry, I've already paid and received my order and the queue is out the door." I then walked back.

I guess the sound of traffic blocked the next ping, and I didn't see that she'd texted "Oh, please? I am really craving it and it's just so cold out. Please?" I didn't hear until the next ping which was for a second text: "????"

I replied that I was now on my way back, sorry.

Colleague was pretty miffed with me when she saw me later. She seemed to think that I had been selfish.

Not sure if this is relevant, but I find her a bit clingy She asked me to eat every meal with her and badgered me daily to ride on the attractions at the Christmas fair in Princess Street Gardens, although I repeatedly said that I had no desire to swing about in baskets 60 metres up in the freezing cold. She also texts me stupid questions like I'm her personal Google "What's the best pain killer for muscle aches?" "what's the weather forecast for tomorrow "

So maybe I was being mean?

To be honest, I wanted to just eat my roll with one hand and drink my coffee with the other and not carry her stuff.

WIBU?

Well, I gave her a place to live for several months when she became homeless due to her general haplessness, so I know I'm not utterly evil.
I agree with patriciathestripper. You don't sound like the sort of friend I would want, the way you speak about her !

She texts you to ask the weather forecast? WEEEEEIIRDDDD.

Greggs tantrums are the least of your problems!

YABU to have got a roll and bacon in Greggs - the rolls are dry and the bacon is lukewarm! There are a million better rollshoos in Edinburgh.

*roll shops.

'I'm just wracking my brain trying to think what Greggs in Edinburgh ever has a queue outside it first thing in the morning!'

The one in Nicolson Street often does.

I had a 'friend' like that. Needy, whiny and high extremely maintenance. Keep your boundaries firm or before you know it you'll be run ragged buying her things, taking her places and managing her extremely demanding emotions.. bitter
She is a friend no more. Oh the relief

Use Let Me Google That For You next time she asks a dumb question:

lmgtfy.com/?q=What%27s+the+best+pain+killer+for+muscle+aches%3F

And I NEVER got the money back either. Tight cow.

Fucking hell she sounds a nightmare. Same train as you?!

She managed to get a flat (because I gave a fake job reference from my limited company and showed her how to open a bank account.) She's not going to be in my life as much in the future.

Given that drip feed about giving her somewhere to live I honestly don't think you're coming over as very pleasant. She might well be a bit irritating but you aren't coming over well either.

To those who say that I don't sound like a good friend: I called her a colleague. I don't think of myself as a good friend to her.

And the last post confirms my impression.

If you'd still been in the queue I might have said you were marginally unreasonable (if I'd been ignoring everything else you've said) but you'd got your stuff and were heading back AND there was a long queue you'd already stood in. Sod that for a game of soldiers. Change your train!!

If i was you, I'd be giving her less information about what I was up to. Keep texts short and don't tell her what you're eating or if you're getting your hair done etc. Or what train you're on.

Bit of a drip feed to reveal that she lived with you. I would consider a person like that to be a friend, not a colleague. And the fact you'd have got breakfast for someone else shows that you just don't like her.

Maybe stop pretending to be her mate and let her find someone else? You've not come off well here.

She was in a HOTEL!! They sell breakfast and coffee fgs! Yanbu

showed her how to open a bank account.
She thinks you're her mum.

Does she think she's messaging Siri???

She never lived with me. She lived in a flat I had in another city. I did think of her as somewhat of a friend at the time. Then I got to know her better.

I felt sorry for her and I still do, to some extent. I know that she's lonely and unhappy. I just can't handle taking care of a 39 year old woman who didn't even know how to get a lease or a bank account.

I hope that she does well in her new home and makes real friends.

this sounds like a request from my dd of 17. i think you were right to say no. she treats you like her slave mother

YANBU. She sounds like a pain in the ass. Some people seem to have this 'thing' that other people are there to sort their stuff out for them.

You don't have to take care of her, just put up some boundaries. Maybe you're trying to be nice and now are frustrated. If she is a person with poor boundaries I think she might only respond if yours are really clear. Sorry for judging.

YANBU. She sounds like a pain in the ass. Some people seem to have this 'thing' that other people are there to sort their stuff out for them.

I called her a colleague. I don't think of myself as a good friend to her. You are going well beyond the call of duty as a 'colleague' then, false refs, a place to live, human google , etc...somehow she thinks of you as a friend. You seem to have two faces? No?