Call me by my bloody name!

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Aibu

My name is Alexandra. (I'm happy to say that here as I don't post personal stuff). Not Alex. I sign my emails Alexandra. I introduce myself as Alexandra.

so why t' feck am I always called Alex? In response to emails I have clearly signed with my legal, preferred name??! why do people shorten without asking?! I wouldn't, it's rude.

Gahhhhhhhhhhh.

AIBU to want people to call me my actual bloody name?

I'm a Tracey and give death stares to anyone calling me Trace, especially if it's someone who's just been introduced.

I'm also fed up with getting emails addressed to Tracy - the correct spelling is in my bloody signature!

My DH has this. He'll introduce himself with the long version of his name and so many people call him by the short version.

The short version really doesn't suit him either.

I've got a commonly shortened name. I hate all the shortenings.

Every other person with the same name (there are a lot of us, it's a common name) that I've spoken to about this also dislikes the shortenings, even the ones that are known by them. They're always externally imposed, then the person just ends up giving in.

underbeneathsiesthemistletoe
You have a very well developed sense of irony, but I doubt you'll get much snogging under any thing this Christmas, despite your name

Call me Under, OhYes
I'm sorted for snogging in case you were asking, thanks.

Yes banana, you got it.

You'd be amazed how fitting in to the team not being precious or stupidly irritated all the time by your colleagues can do wonders for your promotion. You can call yourself the Queen of Sheba when you're in charge, and people will still call you whatever they feel like,
which might even be fucking rude but so what?

If you're really insistent on having your long and correct, birth certificate variant of your blessed name being the one you're known as I guarantee, that's not the name people call you when you've left the room!
Sometimes you gotta think strategically and roll with the abbreviation or nickname, it's the lesser of two evils.

People who don't gel with the team are let go, ime and rightly.
Prissily correcting your boss, or team mates in front of clients is a dick move, will create an atmosphere the clients will pick up on and will lose the business money.
You can easily put your full name on your slide without looking like a precious arse, and the clients may or may not call you by that.

Your name isn't that important actually, the account is. When you suit up for work, the tutu stays at home.

I'm so disappointed that this isn't a thread by Muhammed Ali

I hate how so many names get shortened and have a feckn z at the end..

Caroline becomes Caz, Gary becomes Gaz, just fuck off and call people by their proper name!

I actually like the shortened version of my name it doesn't have an added z

However no matter how many times someone sees my name they spell it wrong.
I have an Irish name but not a difficult spelling or unusual one, but there's always an added I or h even though in their phone book they have the proper spelling!
Fucks me right off

Love the name Alexandra op

Oh sparklers I'm so very sorry and I bloody hope you're taking the piss.. (please say you are!)
Siobhan is NEVER pronounced Shivorn

If you're really insistent on having your long and correct, birth certificate variant of your blessed name being the one you're known as...

How many more times? It's not because it's her birth certificate name, it's because it's the name she uses. If her parents never called her Alex, her friends never call her Alex and she doesn't see herself as an Alex, than she just isn't Alex, any more than she's Tracey or Vanessa.

Well, whatever, Emma, if she's interested in looking like a dick at work, by all means insist on correcting the person who introduced her in front of the clients. Make everyone embarrassed and look bad. You'll lose clients if they have any inkling at all that there isn't perfect harmony in the company. They don't want to know your petty personality conflicts and shit.

if she wants to look like she mucks in and is part of a team with a team spirit, she should take one for the team crack on with the work, without being up herself and prissily correcting her boss, and put her full name on the first page of her presentation.

Sometimes we just can't stand on ceremony. How many times do I have to say it Sometimes work is more important that your boss getting your name super correct in front of clients.

My friend's name is Anthony. Not Ant and absolutely, definitely, not Tony.

He prefers to be called Anthony, so when people call him something else, he corrects them immediately, in a firm-but-friendly tone : "it's Anthony, not Tony". They get the message.

If you don't like people shortening your name, correct them.

I use initials. Say, "JD" This is a far too common conversation with new people:

"Hi, I'm JD."

"What does that stand for?"

"Nothing, it's just JD."

"But it's got to stand for something."

"Yes, but I only go by JD. Have you tried the bean dip?"

At this point it frequently continues:

"If I guess, will you tell me?"

Polite smile. "I'd rather not, just call me JD, it's what I answer to. What about the punch, it looks delicious!"

"It's something weird, isn't it? Justice? Judge? Judifer!"

Another polite smile. "Is that a yes on the punch?"

Oh, but the best. The best. Are these people.

"Aww, I'm going to just make something up then! I bet it stands for... Jumping Dogs! No? Um. Justice Decision! Ohhh, it needs to be something good. I know, I'll call you--Judge Doodie!!"

And then they do. And it all starts over again with me reminding them my fucking name is fucking JD.

And then there's the utter asshats who say, "Hey, Juicy Dick, how are you!"

Oh, and I forgot--the people who find out that the J stands for Jennifer. And then insist on calling me that.

If I wanted you to call me Jennifer, I'd fucking introduce myself that way. You don't get to change my name.

I am blessed with a double barrelled, hyphenated first name; think something like Lucy-Jane, but am generally known by an unconnected, slightly eccentric diminutive. I am always called by the latter now, even at work, but officially am still Lucy-Jane. This has the great benefit of being primed for bumf calls as they always ask for Lucy-Jane.

The downside is that the NHS has me down as Lucy J Molecule and always call me Lucy. I don't answer to Lucy, not because I'm being a pain but like a dog I'm primed to recognise and respond to Lucy-Jane. It seems petty to me to make a fuss, and get the NHS to change everything, but I have this fear that one day I'll be in intensive care and won't respond to entreaties of "Lucy, Lucy" whilst they try to establish some sort of brain function.

It is a bit of a mouthful to be fair.