AIBU to think it's silly that DS can't wear these to nursery?

[GracyEvans]

DS had some leggings on today - they're gorgeous! They have monsters on (not scary) but apparently he isn't allowed to wear them? They don't have a uniform, but apparently a Mum said that they scared her daughter WTAF.

yanbu
I would look for monster jumpers and socks as well

I wonder if the falling testosterone levels in males are due to them becoming more feminine or just the tight jeans, although I realise my opinion won't be particularly welcome

No but it's highly entertaining

My boys wore brightly-coloured tights in the 70s - I don't think they're worrying about their testosterone levels now, in their 30s and 40s.

Do check out some men's fashions from the past - you'll be amazed. I'm nearly 70 and can't believe all this gendered clothing nonsense. What's it for??

I work in a pre school and I certainly wouldn't dream of even mentioning that another child was scared of his leggings let alone say he couldn't wear them!
It comes across as very precious.
I wouldn't minimize the child's fear, I absolutely accept that some children are more sensitive than others. But really, they are leggings with pictures on. Many books have similar pictures and we wouldn't remove them for fear of upsetting someone.
Children can be fearful of some very random things and I think it's important that we, as adults demonstrate that these things are ok and not to be feared.
A low key approach with appropriate reassurance is all that's needed. Where would we draw the line if we simply removed everything that children were scared of, and how will they ever come to terms with those fears?
The world's gone mad!

Sounds like the kind of obsessive fear my children began developing around that age, they have asd/pda/social anxiety.

I wouldn't demand a child steps wearing something innocuous because of that though, but if the phobia became contacted to refusing to go/panic attacks/nightmares (as we have had due to similarly rediculous phobia) then I would discuss with nursery to see what resolution there could be.

Nursery should never have banned the leggings, but if they politely explained a phobia of my child's level would it really put you out to not use that particular pair on nursery days?

My children will inevitabley have to learn coping strategies to help them with these issues, but for that to happen I need them to access education in the first place, and these types of phobias along with other problems have effectively become a road block to that. Several years down the line they still only bearly manage part time. If the other kids life is that hard going would it be such a big deal for you to make a small accommodation?

Leggings are ace on boys btw.

They're lovely - but YABU to send your son to nursery in £13 leggings whatever the design is

Perfectly lovely perfectly fine.YANBU. I'm just wondering how that other child coped if they had a fancy dress thing for Halloween or a storybook character day in school.

Ds wears iron maiden tops with Eddie the mascot on them. Nursery have never battered an eyelid. That parent was being ridiculous.

Then she would be extremely upset and cry. My son has anxiety issues. He works himself into such a state over things. If someone came into his nursery dressed up he would be terrified and cry. He would become so stressed that he would physically exhaust himself.

My dd used to be the same. She's a bit better now, although if a fly comes into the car she will scream until it's gone. If we went anywhere where there were people in fancy dress we had to leave ! This was at the age of 1!

Not to add other than . . . To all the people at the price - I've just found and ordered DS yellow and grey ones for £4.49 a pair on ebay (free postage too). Soz etsy.

So sick of the snowflake generation.
They are cute cartoon monsters. If the little girl's Mum wraps her up in cotton wool that much, she'll spend her life being terrified of everything!
Had a Year 7 child at the school where I work totally flip out over the 'Toxic' safety symbol in the Science lab (skull and crossbones) - literally screaming and wailing, 'Oh my God! It's death!' and doing (very fake) hyperventilating. My response? A firm, 'Just stop! Now!' He did, looking somewhat startled.
I cannot bear drama-queenery.

Awww poor little snowflake let him wear them

.just stop now I love it. If only more children heard this!

Wow how pathetic, makes me scared for the future generations if the nursery and parent is pandering to this utter nonsense!

My DD is autistic. She finds all sorts of things scary - the sound of tearing paper for example (I know WTF?!). When we work out whats scary for her we try to desentisise her (gradually obvs) - I admit it doesnt always or even often work.
In this instance I'd ask if I could borrow the legggings over night or something and do my best to make them not scary (wear them on my head, dress a teddy up in them, whatever).
If things got VERY bad I might ask the parent to avoid their child wearing them - but I'd do my best to help her find them less scary first. I dont think the parents are doing their child a lot of favours by not tackling it at all. Is it worth offering to talk to the parent and finding out if you can help?

Stairs that's right...not ALL children have the capacity to "deal with it" and thank God we now are getting close to living in a society where people don't immediately get ridiculed for being different.

On MN there's always someone who starts on about how kids need to toughen up etc...but it's not possible for ALL children.

Not to add other than . . . To all the people shock at the price - I've just found and ordered DS yellow and grey ones for £4.49 a pair on ebay (free postage too). Soz etsy.

Link please!!

Fulltimemummy85 You don't want to stop her being afraid of everything. Of course that's damaging.

MrsCharlieD Eddie is brilliant! Is your son a fan or is it you/his dad?

Thank you for reminding me of EBay.

Just got these 3 beauties for £9.82 with postage.

This thread is rather sad. Both my children when very small had irrational fears. We accommodated by not doing the things that frightened them and they grew out of the fear. Sure it would have been nice to go on watching Dr Who, but the opening titles for some reason really scared dd, resulting in nightmares. It wasn't really that big a deal to avoid scaring her, and a few years later she was a fan. ds similarly had some toddler worries, of course we tried to talk him through them, but toddlers are fairly irrational. If they are frightened they are frightened, give them a few months and they are more likely to forget about the worry. Insist on exposing them to it and they are likely to make it into a bigger and bigger deal in their minds.

Anyway, luckily the OP is much nicer than many of the other posters here. OP keep the cute leggings for the weekend for a few months, looks like your ds has plenty of other cute (but not scary for his small classmate) leggings to wear in the meantime.

Very cute. The issue is that this is a seriously pathetic insecure parent who complains about trousers being scary. WTF!? How on earth is her daughter supposed to grow up into a stable child and then adult if she is constantly shielded from minor "scary" things. A parent at my son's nursery complained that fairytales were too scary and thought they should not be hearing them. !!!!!!

Are you sure that's the real problem? It sounds a bit unbelievable if I'm honest.

The only reason I could think of that might make the nursery whip up a white lie is that perhaps your son is being laughed at? Those pants are cute but do look very much like PJ's. If any of the other kids have noticed they could be laughing at him for coming in in his PJ's. Your son might not have even noticed the comments yet but the staff have and thought of a quick reason for you to stop dressing him like that without causing upset.

Having said that they look nice but are very expensive for what they are. You may find yourself cringing in years to come when you have no choice but to buy branded trainers and expensive jeans. It never stopped me but I wish someone would have shook me for coughing up for trendy clothes which my babies couldn't have cared less about. I needed that money later on!

Richard, of course I would like her to stop being scared, it's
Not that simple. It's irrational so I can try and explain to her, unless you're with her you wouldn't understand why it's impossible to explain to her. It's irrational pretty hard to rationalise to a 4 year old!
Sensitive personality it generally avoid trait I wouldn't change the way she is.

Bloody love Fred & Noah leggings. Actually had some arrive today, one pair which are a present for a little boy who is 12 months.

Boys look ridiculous in leggings. Are you having a laugh? They are toddlers!!!!!! They should be in clothes that are comfy and they can crawl, run, play in.

I cannot believe the attitudes on here. As for the "testosterone levels are falling, men are more feminine"

Batshit bonkers is all I will say

#letclothesbeclothes why shouldn't boys wear leggings?clothes are clothes leggings are comfy and adapt better to a child's movement than jeans and I love Fred&Noah clothes personally I think that the nursery would be better afressing the issue with the little girl rather than leaving her to be scared of a print