AIBU to think it's silly that DS can't wear these to nursery?

[GracyEvans]

DS had some leggings on today - they're gorgeous! They have monsters on (not scary) but apparently he isn't allowed to wear them? They don't have a uniform, but apparently a Mum said that they scared her daughter WTAF.

Fear is irrational! A child is highly sensitive it's who they are it can't be changed. I'd nit change my dd for the world!

Ohhhh op, they're fab. We're quite partial to a pair of Zara leggings in this house but I think DS I mean me really would like those to add to the collection

YANBU. It's silly, they're not scary.....

fulltime mummyYour DD's irrational fears and over sensitivity is not the problem of the other children. It's up to you as her parent to teach her that theses fears are irrational,- otherwise she's going to grow up afraid of her own shadow!
OP, I would't be taking any notice of the nurseries request.

Or maybe the other mother is being ridiculous. Some adults are ridiculous and attention seeking.

Still think that leggings looks ridiculous on boys though.

Apparently a Mum said that they scared her daughter
Tough, if they were scary then she would have a point but this is ridiculous.

If they are scaring another child, stop wearing them. what's your problem? you think your son looks cute in them and you want the world to see? so take him to the park in them.

DD who is 3 is scared of spiders (gets it off older DD) I wouldn't ask the nursery to ban any spider related clothing.

It's up to me and DH to deal with not the other 40 odd sets of parents at pre-school too vet their child's clothes.

If they are scaring another child, stop wearing them
I wonder if they really did scare the other child at all.

If they did why did the child's mother need to tell the nursery, surely the child would have been scared at nursery and the staff would have noticed then??

If it was a oh that scares me reaction fair enough I wouldn't do anything. If the child is petrified I would. Kids normally grow out of fears it's quite hard to teach it. My dd is scared of flies, obviously I have told her they can't hurt her. She is still petrified!

I would never put a boy in leggings either, any more than I'd put him in a skirt but I do realise that the times are moving on and many teenage boys dress like girls with tight skinny jeans and after having spent an age on their hair. It's a shame and I wonder if the falling testosterone levels in males are due to them becoming more feminine or just the tight jeans, although I realise my opinion won't be particularly welcome

ROFL - how very 1990s of you.. not 1790s of course, because then tight trousers/leggings (or as close as possible with no lycra and jersey fabric) and elaborate hairstyles on men/boys would have been totally fine - along with a touch of makeup of course.

I think it's called fashion.

many teenage boys dress like girls with tight skinny jeans and after having spent an age on their hair.

That is possibly one of the funniest things I have ever seen on mn.

You obviously have no grasp of history. Through the ages men wore tights, leggings, skinny trouser etc etc . 1960 saw Mods in trousers so tight you had to sew yourself in. 1980s saw boys emulating Adam Ant and the New Romantics.
And hair - Greeks, Romans, Tudors - wigs, short, long, oiled, shaved, it has all been done through all of history.

Thank you for making me laugh. Hope you don't have any sons

"A child is highly sensitive it's who they are it can't be changed."

Yes they can. Children's capacity for change is enormous. All kids have lots of irrational fears- our job is build resilience and real confidence. It's a balancing act, too pushy isn't good, but coddling kids is just as bad.

x post choc!

Nearly shat myself.

Fulltimemummy85 You know you're not helping your daughter with your attitude? You might think you're being loving and accepting by saying she "can't be changed" but actually it will be very damaging if her fears are as extreme as you made out.

Gorgeous leggings, wow, leggings are scary now, what next, gruffalo hat is terrifying...

I don't Molly coddle my child. I have 2 dd's one is confident the other is highly sensitive and has fears, nightmares etc. I won't be teaching any of them that they need to change! I will be explaining why she shouldn't be scared but there are amazing traits to her being ultra sensitive. She's perfectly behaved, loving and is very sensitive to other people's feelings.

How dare you Richard. We teach her why her fears are irrational, she still has nightmares . Unless you met her you obviously would not understand so don't comment on how I'm damaging my child. I could say the same for all the parents who leave their bullish children to push mine over are damaging my child, but this behaviour seems acceptable to a lot of people!

Fucking hell some of the attitudes on here towards boys wearing leggings.

Newsflash - they're clothes. They're only "boys clothes" or "girls clothes" if they specifically require you to use your genitals to wear them, and if so then they shouldn't be marketed at kids, same as toys.

I had a friend once who had a 'highly sensitive' child. Tbh, he was a real pain in the arse, and now he's an .18 year old, and nothing much has changed.

My child is sensitive and is the opposite of a pain in the Arse. She never misbehaves and really cares about other!

I'm in shock at the number of people having an issue with a boy wearing leggings! They are sooo cute!!! Seriously, if you have an issue with something upsetting your idea of gender stereo type then I really feel sorry for you and your children having a parent so closed minded!

Anyway, the nursery is being ridiculous. My sons nursery had a six foot dinosaur in the role play area today! They loved it.

BTW my son is scared of the Gruffalo. He got bought a Gruffalo sweatshirt and refuses to wear it as it's too scary. Should I also tell any other parents of children wearing Gruffalo clothes to please change them so as to avoid upsetting my son. Or should I explain to my son that it's only pretend and it's friendly so can't upset him?!

How scared could the child have been if the nursery staff didn't know she was scared until the mother told them that she was scared??

Fair enough Fulltimemummy This child was a pain in the arse though, and his parents indulged him hugely.

Of course, the other side of this is when parents of boys ( and yes, it's usually boys) insist they are just boisterous, when in fact they are little brats who rarely hear the word NO

Seen plenty of them in my time as well..