To plan not to have a Christmas baby?

[XanaduBubbles]

My partner and I are going to start trying for our second in the new year, however I think that if we don't get pregnant right away (before February) we should wait until May to avoid having a Christmas / New Year baby, basically because I've known friends with birthdays around then and they always resent it (fewer presents, people forget, nothing to look forward to the rest of the year, total first world problems I know).

Aibu thinking like this? Am I just over thinking?

Ah hahahaha. I suppose there are extremely lucky people who manage to plan like that. We took four years to conceive of our first, so didn't give a shit when the birthday was. Conceived the second v quickly and she was due in December but premature, so has an October birthday! I know there are people who get to plan, but don't be too confident you'll definitely be one of them.

I have friends who love their December birthdays! They think everywhere is glamorous with festive lights, people love getting dressed up and everywhere has a great atmosphere

I feel so strongly because I absolutely hate my late December birthday. People aren't around as often that time is used for family visits, my birthday often gets overlooked or forgotten about totally because of this, joint presents make me cry as it meant Christmas overload then zero on my birthday. My mum tried her best but if no one is around there's nothing you can do to change that. If I loved it as some do I may feel differently. DH has an early Dec birthday and he isn't a fan either.

The only advantage can be that if
You work somewhere that does a Christmas-new year shut down you will never have to work. However if you work in retail you will pretty much ALWAYS have to work because it's peak sale season.

Beware the October baby as well - you're heavily pregnant through the hottest months of the year! :)

I was due Christmas Day, born New Years Eve. Yanbu but wouldn't advise going on the pill inbetween for so short a time

Those who hate having Christmas birthdays lack imagination. It's great!

In my experience there are so many events in December with work parties and other social events that it's virtually impossible to find a date where people are free. Most people I know seem to have December pretty much permanently full because it's party season...

More seriously, if you have a winter baby they are more likely to catch the winter viruses while they are still very small. I have known quite a few winter babies hospitalised at a few weeks old with bronchiolitis which seems rife around Christmas.
I planned summer babies as my birthday is just after Christmas and at a miserable time of year. I got what I wanted - if you conceive easily it is possible to plan. I didn't think about the virus thing until after, but I'm glad about that too.

Try all you like - I rocked up 2 months early on 19th Dec!

My DS was, ahem, a surprise and due on my birthday but he held out to 30th.

I knew a guy who was born on 26 Sept and his sister exactly a year later. We always used to joke that we knew what his parents got up to over Xmas!

Oh and FWIW I LOVE my December birthday. Everyone is in a party mood and I don't really have to do any work. My close friend, born 3wks later in early Jan hates it because everyone is skint and doing Dry January.

I wouldn't tell people in rl as it can offend but as we're in no rush and no known issues were going to start trying for June/July baby as dh is a teacher with Summer off, and then take a month or two break for Christmas before continuing ttc, if it still hasn't happened then we'll give up planning!

We have a Christmas baby. I'm not going to lie...it makes it even more of an expensive month for us and unless we plan well, which owing to differing circumstances isn't always possible, it can be bloody stressful.

If it's good enough for Jesus...

I'm an early December and love it (although I used to often be in school concerts on my birthday and they made the audience sing to me, which was very embarrassing). I'm early enough you're getting that 'buzz' but before people are panicking about it!

Ds is Boxing Day.
He hates it.

YANBU.

Navy, I'm just still bitter. Six week old DC3 is well worth it, though.

Really don't know why an August birthday is a problem. Mines in August and I'm always on holiday.

Oh and I had an October baby too. - didn't find it any more uncomfortable than my March baby.

YANBU but I would definitely keep it to yourselves and not be too wedded to the idea if it doesn't work out. DD was a much-struggled for IVF baby and she was born on 3rd Jan. We were just lucky to have her and will always try to make sure it is as special as it can possibly be for her. It was insanely busy in the hospital with people virtually giving birth on the antenatal ward so she will definitely not be alone. She also has joint birthdays with her NCT friends who are all Christmas and NY babies.

A cab driver told me once his daughter's birthday was on Christmas Day. What they did was have birthday decorations up for half a day then make it about Christmas for the other half.

Grinchy - celebrate your birthday before Christmas instead. DH is the week before Christmas and he never has problems with people showing up to celebrate. Everyone is into parties and the festive mood.

Can you plan it that perfectly? My late DH's birthday was in very early January, mine/sister's and her DH mid-Jan, big brother 3 days before Xmas, nephew's GF 2 days after Xmas, kid bro mid-Feb! he hated having 'one present will do, won't it?'

The main thing that would worry me would be having the hospital dash at the worst time of year weather wise.

My sister hated being pregnant in the summer as she had a long uphill walk for her hospital appointments - draining in the heat, but dangerous underfoot in autumn/winter. Take it as it comes if you'll pardon the pun.

DD is a Christmas baby and she hates it.

I have a birthday on 18th December (due on Christmas Day) and I absolutely love it! Everyone's out and about, it's all Christmassy, there's usually a festive mood in the air 🎄

Dd1s burthday is two weeks before xmas, its no ideal!

Despite what I said in my previous post, I don't think anyone should avoid any particular time for having a baby, I really don't. I have an October baby too and was massive in the summer...it wasn't ideal but I coped. Having a Christmas baby isn't ideal but we cope.

In the situation where having children is on the cards, each child is a gift to be thankful for. After falling pg by accident delightful surprise with ds1, it took three years of 'trying' to conceive ds2 (our Christmas boy). I wanted a three year gap between ds1 and his next sibling. It ended up being six.

We made the mistake of assuming we would make another one with no trouble. In the end, we didn't know if we were going to get another one at all. Ds2 was the best Christmas present we ever had.

Weirdly, when ds2 was 5 months old I fell pregnant AGAIN at the drop of a hat! Had given up bfing him by a week when BAM! - pregnant again. He was 5 months old. His sister is only 14 months younger than him.

Point being, I don't think it's pertinent to assume things will work out neatly the way you want them to. Que sera sera and all that. You wouldn't like to be left wanting because you were too picky.