To plan not to have a Christmas baby?

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My partner and I are going to start trying for our second in the new year, however I think that if we don't get pregnant right away (before February) we should wait until May to avoid having a Christmas / New Year baby, basically because I've known friends with birthdays around then and they always resent it (fewer presents, people forget, nothing to look forward to the rest of the year, total first world problems I know).

Aibu thinking like this? Am I just over thinking?

We thought about this for DD, avoided trying for a few weeks and later had a 10th Jan due date. She ended up deciding for herself and was born early on 10th December!! So YANBU, but I wouldn't worry about it. Ultimately it always seems to be beyond anyone's control!

I have a December and a November baby, I never wanted a summer baby may- August and never went out of my way particularly it's not unreasonable

With dc1 we were determined to avoid August birthday as dh is August born and always felt he struggled at school. Due date was 10th Oct then along comes DS1 on 29th Aug.

For DS2 we therefore tried to avoid July, August and September in case he turned up early or late. He'll be one on Xmas day. Ffs.

I never knew about the august thing and I agree with avoiding Dec. Mines in Jan and I hate it cause nobody ever wants to go out or do owt cause there skint. Yet none of my kids were planned and there birthdays are July, Aug, sept and oct and are exactly 4 week apart, except the sept/ oct ones for there's is 5week and 5 days apart but for that time they are both the same age.

My daughter was born in December 13th to be precise. She never misses out, we always make sure she gets a proper birthday..it just takes planning. We always plan well ahead and Xmas is all but sorted and half her presents for her birthday are bought. She certainly doesn't seem to resent it.

My dd's birthday Is 21st Dec, she moans about it constantly YANBU!

YANBU! I have two DDs and they were born exactly 18 months apart - October and April. When one celebrates a birthday, her sister has a half birthday. And, yes, I planned it that way Had I known then what I know now, I probably would have avoided school holidays too!

YANBU I'm a Christmas baby and it's crap!

I don't think you can choose?? Or am I behind the times?

What I would genuinely advise is trying as far as possible to avoid any early January birthday, as if it is not the 1st (which might have a little bit more gloss), I can tell you it's rubbish, whether you are 5 or 38. Or probably more.

When 5 - it snowed and about 3 people managed to make it to my party.

When at the age to host people for Xmas I wake up on Boxing Day and have the dawning realisation that I have a week left before I turn a year older.

In most years it's a date when a lot of restaurants/places to go may be shut or at best very far from their usual functioning.

It's becoming apparent that I am an Eeyore...

My daughters birthday is on Boxing Day and it does spoil it a bit. Once she's had the excitement of Christmas, birthday presents can either seem a bit crap or just not that interesting... she's not ungrateful but I have divorced parents and grandparents so a lot of people want to spoil her. It's also a bit difficult to plan birthday parties as it's in the holidays and it just doesn't have the magic of a mid year birthday when there's only that to look forward to (I was an April baby) . So no don't think you are being unreasonable at all....

I agree. DSis Jan 2nd frequently ended up with "this is your Christmas and birthday present" scenario. Same with Aunt who is Dec 23rd.

I agree with the school year thing. DD's are May and June babies and there have been times where there has been a marked difference in their development compared to the oldest children in the class who are about 9 months older. BUT I would say that this difference is more about maturity, or social development and sometimes physical ability rather than academic differences.

I had trouble conceiving but it only took 2 months "trying" with both, once I was finally prescribed Clomid. This coincided with me missing babies being born in months which are my personal bogey months. I was so desperate by this stage that I would not have deliberately avoided conceiving in those months, it's was just a happy coincidence for me.

Definitely keep whatever you decide to yourself.

I still cannot believe that when we are talking about the life of a child that considerations about how many presents they are going to get is a major consideration regarding when that child should be born.

Perhaps I am missing the point but to me it just seems sad.

My DD was born on 17 December and it does mean that she gets all of her presents in a very short space of time, although we always try and do something nice for her in the summer too. I probably wouldn't have chosen it to fall that way, but then I took a long time to get pregnant, miscarried my first who would have been a May baby, and was then just so grateful to get through the second pregnancy that I thank my lucky stars for my December baby. So you ANBU to want to avoid Christmas, but sometimes things don't turn out that way, despite best laid plans. Best of luck with it.

I still cannot believe that when we are talking about the life of a child that considerations about how many presents they are going to get is a major consideration regarding when that child should be born.

Perhaps I am missing the point but to me it just seems sad.

This, really.

It also seems a never ending source of weirdness to me that people are able to think "we'd like a baby", have sex for a few months, get pregnant and 9 months later have a baby. And then if they want a couple more, they do the same thing again. The infertile live in a parallel universe!

The infertile live in a parallel universe!
This thread must be an awful read for someone who is suffering from infertility.

I am sorry if you are in that position and I hope that one day you will have the baby that you so badly want.

We skipped months due to dh being away for work and me being worried I wouldn't be able to cope on my own.

It's now looking like we can't have another. I may have missed a few chances waiting. Not saying you'll suffer the same but one of my greatest regrets is trying to pick times.

The problem with August baby's is they can be a year behind the rest of the other children starting school I know a few who have just turned 4 a week or 2 before staring school it puts them at a disadvantage. also many are not ready for school

The problem with August baby's is they can be a year behind the rest of the other children starting school
This is what people believe but my son who started school aged 4 and 3 days did not feel this way at all.

As he attended nursery from a young age he was far better equipped to cope with school than the kids who started at just age 5 who had had spent most of their early years at home with just their mother.

Dh and I are both December birthdays. We ended up with an October birthday and as Dd was early a January birthday!

I have a 31st August child. Due date was in September but she had other ideas. We didn't plan a September baby though, to be honest I would think it was too much of a risk because I know how difficult it can be to conceive.

So far we have: My birthday 6th december, dp's birthday 9th december, ds 15th december, dd1 19th december, dd2 6th january & dd3 28th january.
Also due baby no5 in two weeks, on dp's birthday (9th)
Maybe she'll be the odd one out and make an appearance before the end of this month.

I have a Christmas baby. Inflated present costs or things not available due to selling out. The whole month is manic with wrapping and planning for the party and then for Christmas, we don't have any weekends free at all. Stuff everywhere!

But it really is the most wonderful time of the year. It snowed on the day he was born and I would never change it ❤️

I have a 31st August child
Me too.

I was a June baby, home with just my mother, and skipped a year of primary school, so these things are more complex and individual than just nursery vs home. My ds, born in April, really struggled at school his Reception year, then caught up quickly by the start of year one.

Children develop at different rates individually, but these studies are looking at overall trends. It's something to think about but not be hidebound by.

I always had a cold or an exam or both on my birthday, but can't say I ever really gave it much thought, you're born when you're born.

My DD is Dec 21st... I do feel guilty but my friends have a birthday on 20th Dec and they throw a huge party, everyone would come home from uni etc around Xmas and it was a great time to have a huge get together!