To plan not to have a Christmas baby?

[XanaduBubbles]

My partner and I are going to start trying for our second in the new year, however I think that if we don't get pregnant right away (before February) we should wait until May to avoid having a Christmas / New Year baby, basically because I've known friends with birthdays around then and they always resent it (fewer presents, people forget, nothing to look forward to the rest of the year, total first world problems I know).

Aibu thinking like this? Am I just over thinking?

Aprils quite a nice birthday- dd's were born on 21st April and 21st October (exactly 6 months apart) dp's in August and I'm in December, it's quite nice and handy! But now we're going for a third.... it's definitely going to upset the equilibrium

I'm due the first half of December, so if this one is late like dc1 then we could be getting quite close to Christmas. When we decided to start trying at the beginning of the year, we were going to take a break over the time which would lead to a Christmas baby. But, I then fell pregnant straight away and lost our baby. At that point we decided to keep trying in case we have problems. Fell pregnant again quickly, and could now have a Christmas baby. Ideally I'd prefer to have this baby sooner rather than later, but if we do have a Christmas baby then we'll do what we can to make sure our baby never feels fed up about when their birthday is.

I also have an August baby (was a fortnight late) but to be honest it didn't cross my mind not to.

YANBU, it's personal choice.

Also depends how old you are - I know from having IVF that a lot of eggs produced are rubbish and this rises steeply with age. Would you really want to miss your one good egg in the space of 3/4 months?

We planned all of our 3 for Sept/Oct so they would be the oldest and i would have as much time with them before they started school. Unfortunately ds2 had to be brought out early and was born in the last few days of August - which is shit. He is the youngest in the year and despite being a few days shy of 2 yrs younger than ds1 will be only 1 year apart. No one is around for his birthday as its in the holidays and on the bank hol weekend. It's really crappy. i'd much rather he had a December birthday. Jan/Feb birthdays are a bit shit as everyone is skint, partied out and you get given a load of dross bought from the dregs of the sales

Oh and i think being pregnant in the summer is best. Yes its hot, but you don't need to spend a fortune on mat clothes and bigger shoes and after the baby comes it's winter, so you can wear big chunky jumpers and coats while you get your body confidence back.

I always said I'd never have Dec baby- DS is mid Dec . Your not being unreasonable though as its a very expensive month, although DS loves it. DD is September and it's a bit easier. A xmas baby is nice but I dont think I'd have another one and am always extra careful in March .

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There's pros and cons to every month, I reckon. Just go for it and see what you get!

I think you are BU a little bit...my father has his birthday on Boxing day and it's actually great - it's like having 2 christmases in a row. Although you have to take care to make it like that - separate Birthday & Christmas, a second special meal on Boxing day etc.

I'm born in January and I love having Xmas and my birthday close together, it make that whole season feel extra special. Essentially it's up to you how your child feels about a birthday in December/January.

My friend's kid has a birthday on the 1st of January. New Years Day. I think that's just about as shit as bdays go.

One of my children in born near Christmas the other close to the end of the academic year, I know which one causes most problems, end of August.

It's great you want to plan but I would not plan too hard, you never know when things will happen.

How old are you? If you are over 30 I would not waste too many months thinking about when to do it, and if you are 34 or over I would just get on with it. I waited a few months after we married, at 36 and took two years to have a bay (obviously 9 months of that was pregnancy). Good luck.

baby!

I've got a Jan birthday. It's ok - bad points are you have exams a lot as a teenager/young adult and also people aren't up for more parties and are all doing dry January or whatever. You also use up all the fun things in winter.

Good points are that I used to get a big joint gift then also get a birthday gift, so basically three things. Also it is something to look forward to in Jan and eases the post Christmas gloom.

I would take a Christmas birthday over being a late summer born any day

Wees really - do what you want but it boils my piss to hear people talking about planning the ideal due date, so keep it quiet - someone said to me they weren't ttc before new year as they didn't want a summer baby who'd struggle in school. I had to bite my lip not to respond that if I'd got pregnant straight away my July 15 baby would've been a Nov 13

Over-thinking it.

My DS loves having a December birthday. He likes that Christmas is near his birthday. We make sure he gets to do something for his birthday, and that he gets just as many presents as he would if his birthday were in June. It's a non-issue.

DC is due early January, and I'm not at all worried. I have a cousin with a January 1st birthday who has always loved it; especially now as a young adult because she and her friends are all out celebrating together anyway.

It took us so long to fall pregnant with both our children that we couldn't have cared less when they were born, just that they were here. In the end I've got one born in November and one in January, it makes for an expensive 3 months but hey ho.

Both our children have December birthdays. They don't resent it.

DS2 was meant to be born in late January but the thought of missing Christmas was too much for him, so he arrived on Christmas Eve! He loves his birthday, he usually wanted lots of Lego for Christmas/Birthday when he was younger and it meant he got most of it in one go. He didn't have to wait 6 months for it.

He and DS1 would have a party nearer to DS1's birthday, and as he got older we'd take a friend out for lunch and to the cinema. It was great, and of course he never went to school on his birthday which was a plus point for him.

YANBU to not want a Dec baby but to be fair you can't control these things.

I've never wanted a baby round Christmas time, being born mid year I've enjoyed the good distribution of presents throughout the year.

We have only known people to take ages getting pregnant so figured we may as well have a go at starting to try so that we could go to the docs if things weren't happening- and straight out the gates we got pregnant, with twins! So both our kids will have December birthdays, we've just decided to do "unbirthdays" for them in summer time which is when they will have their main Birthday bash and "big" birthday presents.

Their Dec Birthday will be family Birthday.

Me, my Mum and DC3 all have mid December birthdays. I don't find it a major problem making birthdays special. You need to be organised with parties but that's about it.
I also have an August baby and two spring ones. I preferred having a newborn in winter and he was certainly more ready for school than his spring/summer siblings.

You can try and avoid, which isn't unreasonable, but ultimately Mother Nature will decide.

As someone who has a birthday very close to Christmas it's not really that bad. And your baby won't know any different.

Good luck ttc

YANBU at all.

It's called family planning for a reason.

Hopefully everything will go to plan, so fingers crossed.

You can plan as much as you like but things dont always go to plan. Ds2 was meant to be born mid January, my body however had other ideas and he actually has and early December birthday. Not for a minute suggesting this will happen to you, but just saying as much as you plan things can change.

The luxury!!!!!

I don't think it's daft to plan around what times of year you do or don't want a baby at all. However, if you are hoping to conceive immediately and then to put it on the back boiler for a while to avoid a Christmas birth then I don't see the benefit of waiting until the new year to start - it doesn't give you very long to get going before you have to stop again. Why not just start now?