To plan not to have a Christmas baby?

[XanaduBubbles]

My partner and I are going to start trying for our second in the new year, however I think that if we don't get pregnant right away (before February) we should wait until May to avoid having a Christmas / New Year baby, basically because I've known friends with birthdays around then and they always resent it (fewer presents, people forget, nothing to look forward to the rest of the year, total first world problems I know).

Aibu thinking like this? Am I just over thinking?

I have an August baby and while he will be the youngest in his year he will never ever be at school on his birthday! And more than likely be on holiday as that's when we tend to go.

I'd avoid it for the heat at the end of pregnancy. I've never ever noticed an age problem at school and I'm a teacher.

You're overthinking it. My birthday falls between the 25th and NYE. It's what you make of it - you don't sound like you'd make your child have just one present for both.

My youngest is December 30th. He'said about to turn 2 so not sure how it'llanidloes turn out in the long run, but I suppose it might be nice to have something to look forward to in the slow period after Christmas. I think parties will be a pain though so when he's older we might do something in June.

I'm a late August birthday. My friendson were always away over the summer. I went to Oxford and am now a barrister so I don't feel my birthday caused me problems academically. The statistics show there's a general disadvantage but you can obviously offset that by the work you do with your own child (I was lucky to have a primary school teacher mum, who taught me to read when I was 3).

Those are your wishes OP so I respect them. However, after struggling with TTC bear in mind that things might not happen when and how you like them. I found myself just wanting to get pregnant and couldnt care less about when the bubba would have his birthday.
But if you dont mind the unknown then follow your wishes.

Thanks, I love it really, makes me feel a bit special and as you say, young. I for instance will NOT be having a 40th but a 10th birthday.

anyone who has had fertility problems or pregnancy or infant loss, I have had a miscarriage and I was so excited to have my baby that particular month, having not been TTC, and now that month is just tinged with 'what if' and I too just wouldn't care when my baby arrived (not that I ever did).

I have a Christmas baby - he'll be one in December 27. It won't matter too much this year but I certainly plan to make sure there's a strong differentiation between Christmas and his birthday. We'll probably do a half birthday bash in summer too with all his family.

I must admit, the way you present your choice does make me feel a little needled as a thoughtless person who didn't think about her child... so you might want to think about how you present this decision.

I felt very much like this with number 2. We did not want a millennium baby..

que My EDD of 1/1/00..... dd2 is born on 6 days late..

ds has his a few days before Christmas

Neither of them really minds having their birthday close to Christmas we just ensure it is planned accordingly. For example we have had ds parties in June for haf birthdays.

Yes I try to avoid a Christmas birthday for my DD after many years of having to listening to my mother moan about being her being born on the 20th Dec.

However I also tried to avoid a May birthday because of exam time, DD was due on May 13th and was born on the 25th May. Oh well. She's 17 now and has got use to working exams around her birthday!

YANBU - it's entirely up to you.

However, on the August birthday thing, I'm glad my parents didn't avoid that time of year as my sister and I wouldn't be here! We both loved the fact that we never had to go to school on our birthdays.

Welshwabbit and I have a lot in common - I am another Oxford-educated late-August barrister. In fact, given the cluster of late-August birthdays in my chambers it may be worth people avoiding conception about now if they don't want a future barrister DC

I conceived my first very easily. Second I decided shouldn't be a summer baby due to school etc. After months of trying I couldn't have cared less and baby no 2 was born early August

Nice if you can buy puts a lot of extra pressure when you can't

As a teacher, I planned a second child to coincide with term dates.

As it turned out, I couldn't have another child.

Don't want to piss on your chips, OP, but didn't make assumptions that because you've had one you can have another.

I have a Julu baby but I live in Scotland so he'll be one of the older ones at school

*july

Read the first and last page. When the fuck did this thread deteriorate into a discussion about birthdate and academic ability?

OP, people try to plan conception for all sorts of reasons. My friend because she had a bunch of weddings she wanted to get pissed at. Your reason is as good as any. Good luck

DS1 was due September and arrived end of August, DS2 due January and arrived 25th December. You can try and plan it but nature takes it course anyway!

You can try to plan it but the baby might have other ideas! DS was supposed to be due early February but came on December 29. I got to watch New Years Eve fireworks from my hospital bed with him just up from the NICU. It was lovely.

It's entirely your choice but I would keep it quiet you never know what issues others are having and comments like this can hurt! I had IVF for both of my children and ended up with two August babies! Good luck with ttc and hope you get the months you want!

I'd pefer a Christmas baby than a spring one. They will - in all probability - be more mature when they start school, have fewer problems settling in, and you will have longer at home with them before they start school.

Oops, sorry, x-posted - haven't rtft.

I've got a few friends who are pre-Christmas December babies (including one Christmas Eve) and they don't seem to mind- however I do have one friend whose bday is early January and I don't remember the last time he actually celebrated it- his reason being everyone is too poor and has used up all their enthusiasm for celebrating by then!

Nothing wrong with a Christmas birthday in fact I think I have more fun. As a child you have your party at the end of the term before everyone skips town and have a family party on the actual date.

When you're a teen your mates will come out at any time.

When you're an adult the Christmas events start in November and there's loads of things to tag on to. Your mates and loved ones are spending money like it's going out of fashion so every weekend of December is a party. You can have a knees up in the pub just before Christmas. It's awesome having a birthday in party month.

I also get two presents, people ask me if I want two or one big one and I usually go for two.

Those who hate having Christmas birthdays lack imagination. It's great!

I had my dd1 In January It's not someghing I would choose
However it took a long time to have her so I was just greatful to have a beautiful baby.

I'm a December baby (in between xmas and new year and i love it ) :)

Like others, I have a December birthday and I LOVE it! Mine is between Christmas and New Year, so when everyone else has all their presents unwrapped, I still have presents under the tree! Plus the fairy lights, decorations and nice food...

I feel sorry for anyone who doesn't have s December birthday to be honest!

To answer your question though, I think yab a bit u because you can never be sure what a child will love or hate about their birthday. I know people who hate their December birthday and I adore mine. Your baby may hate having a winter birthday because you can't get a bouncing castle, they may hate a summer birthday because it's hard to organise a party when their friends are away on holidays. You can't predict everything because your child will have a unique mind and personality.

You do sound like you're trying to make everything perfect for your baby, and that is lovely to see. Best of look ttc whenever you start