To plan not to have a Christmas baby?

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My partner and I are going to start trying for our second in the new year, however I think that if we don't get pregnant right away (before February) we should wait until May to avoid having a Christmas / New Year baby, basically because I've known friends with birthdays around then and they always resent it (fewer presents, people forget, nothing to look forward to the rest of the year, total first world problems I know).

Aibu thinking like this? Am I just over thinking?

My birthday is always in the Easter holidays. It means it's hard to get friends out as they are all away on holiday. Now I have 2 DCs at school, I am loving having my birthday in the holidays as I have my family all around me and can plan nice things together.

Forgot to mention that having planned not to have a Christmas baby and falling pregnant straight away with a September due date I had a miscarriage in January but still managed to conceive again more or less straight away - it's her birthday tomorrow.

I love being a Christmas baby! I love this time of year and everything Christmassy as it reminds me of happy times! Everyone can always make my party I've never had a problem.

I think you should just let nature take its course, these things dont really matter.

Having a birthday over Christmas / New Year has to be better to not being born at all - which is the reality if conception delayed (different egg etc).

I think you are over thinking it. Good luck with it all :) x

Not unreasonable my father and bil both have xmas/ny bday and say that it was never the same as people always doubled up on gifts etc as children and bday parties didn't happen. I wouldn't choose to have a child around that time either

That's what I did, then completely got my dates mixed up and has ds2 on NYE!

Yanbu

My son is a Christmas Day baby. It took me ages to get pregnant so I didn't really have the luxury of planning. He is 4 this year and it has never caused any real difficulties up to now. If anything he gets even more spoilt because of it. We also ensure we give him a summer party to even things out a bit, but we don't really insist that people have to buy him presents at this time.

you are overthinking it in my view... unless you know that you will get pregnant like clockwork then you never know what could happen.

I have a Xmas Eve baby, DS2 and we have parties at the moment early December to avoid the festivities. Works well...

....But my point is before that when I too used to overthink things like you, I had 3 miscarriages in between my first and my second children and there was a point i thought it would never happen as it took months and months in between for me to ovulate properly. I kicked myself for waiting for the 'right time' and thinking it would be so easy. It might be for you but would say just go for it.

Completely upto you when you try for a baby, no one else's concern. I fell in June and gave birth late march xx

Not unreasonable at all, but just remember best laid plans can go awry. I was due a mid Sept baby and she came late August almost 4 weeks early! Her classmate was due in October and came 29th August.

I would also be looking to avoid conceiving a Christmas baby for reasons I won't go into.

Frankly, just shag and go for it now. Just do it- we plan, god (or who/whatever) laughs.

My daughter was born a week before Christmas. It feels really special to have a birthday then as everything feels really festive and it often coincides with the last day of school. She says she likes it too.

My birthday is the week before Christmas. It's pants. It's not a coincidence that both my children have summer birthdays. People told me I "couldn't" plan it that much, but clearly they were wrong!

You're not over thinking, birthdays around Christmas & New Year are rubbish.

We decided to do that with our first baby together.....we fell pregnant in the November and was ecstatic....sadly our baby wasn't to be and to be honest everything went out the window after that.
Our second was conceived when our first was 5 months completely surprisingly (ok so we were playing with a loaded gun but still) and our seconds due date to my complete horror was Christmas Day!!! She came 3 days early but having xmas babies sucks, my stepson is a Christmas Day baby too 😳

My first baby was a Christmas baby and it was a very special Christmas that year. I think Christmas is a lovely time to have a baby.

YANBU - it's totally up to you what birth month you'd like to aim for. Different people have different priorities. I'm having a January baby myself, and the idea of a birthday close to Christmas doesn't bother me particularly. I personally wanted to avoid a summer baby, as being the youngest in the school year can impact their confidence. Having a July birthday myself, I did always feel a did behind and immature compared to some of my peers, and I didn't want my child to feel the same. Had I not felt like that though, I doubt I'd give two hoots about it.

Yanbu. My dd's birthday is right at the end of November and I wouldn't like it any closer to Christmas than that. I know loads of people with Dec/Jan birthdays and they hate it.
It's no different than planning a child around them not being July/Aug born which many people do.

I agree. I know lots of people who have December/New year birthdays and they resent it. My two were summer babies and they both love the fact that it splits the year up nicely!

Rather sensible thinking. I once stayed in hospital over Christmas and New Year and saw at first hand how short staffed the hospital was.

It made me see Jehovah Witnesses in a whole different light!

I'm a teacher so planned/hoped for autumn birthdays to maximise maternity leave and minimise disruption to teaching. Ds1 was September, ds2 just born in October. I appreciate how lucky we were to achieve the plan!!

It took me eight years to get pregnant. If I were you I wouldn't care when the birthday would be. Good luck.

I have an end of December child and a summer born child. I can't say that it has made a whole lot of difference. In some instances it has mean that my eldest has asked for money and been able to put it all towards a really good present. We tend to take down Christmas cards before his birthday.

My DS has his birthday 10 days before Christmas. It's a bit of a manic time for us present wise but a lot of fun and personally I think he gets a lot more presents and fuss made of him because we're all so worried about him not getting to celebrate again for a whole year.

Haven't RTFT, sorry, but just remember how crazy maternity units are at popular times.

The women I know who have birthed in April / May had a terrible time, all of them because the units were stuffed full. One relative got turned away from three units

iMogster Sorry but I can't see how your birthday would comes close to hitting Easter each year as it changes every year. My brother is born in the first week of April which is smack in the middle of it all and his birthday is randomly affected by Easter.. I, on the other hand, am a summer child and getting anything together is near impossible, tends to be celebrated after everyone is back home from holidays.