To plan not to have a Christmas baby?

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My partner and I are going to start trying for our second in the new year, however I think that if we don't get pregnant right away (before February) we should wait until May to avoid having a Christmas / New Year baby, basically because I've known friends with birthdays around then and they always resent it (fewer presents, people forget, nothing to look forward to the rest of the year, total first world problems I know).

Aibu thinking like this? Am I just over thinking?

On the other hand I knew a woman had her baby 30th Dec had the whole unit to herself

I didn't want an August baby but DS had other ideas. Despite not being due until the end of September he made an appearance 5 weeks early on 25 August. You can't plan for everything.

Do whatever you prefer! Birth month was not a priority for me. I got pregnant easily every time but it didn't always result in a babe in arms sadly. Each to their own though.

One of my boys has a birthday the week before Xmas. He was born at a local birthing centre and sitting around having lunch with the other mum's the day after we had our Xmas babies is one of my most treasured memories. Taking him to church on Xmas eve was lovely too. He somehow ends up with just as big a party as his siblings so he doesn't lose out.

I always fancied a spring time baby but have autumn, winter and summer!

As an aside my August Born started reception aged 5 so they are not always the youngest if you don't want them to be.

If you get to plan your birth time then it really is your choice and go for it. We didn't really think about it - too busy enjoying the process! Although I do know a few power mums in SW London whose kids are all early September birthdays. Good if you want to do a team sport and need to be bigger.

I have a late August baby (11 years old now) and he has just got into a top school and is thriving there and isn't the struggling one even if he is the youngest in the whole school at the moment (year 1). He is much more driven than my other two - maybe that is why August babies can do well - it doesn't just have to be a disadvantage! Everyone evens out at school when they get older.

Good luck with it and enjoy all the fun with your kiddies whenever they are born.

Yanbu and I wish you well with number 2. I was thinking about the Christmas thing before both children but as it took a while to get pregnant both times it went out the window. Ended up with both being born in March. A friend from School is a Christmas baby, no one ever forgot the date! Her parents also took the step of having her Birthday party in the spring/summer and several family members gave her her birthday presents then instead of at Christmas. My Brother is mid December he has never been bothered really and sometimes worked in his favour if he wanted a more expensive present as he could combine Christmas and Birthday without having to wait for months!

Go for it
But as others have said don't tell anyone. You never know who is trying around you who will be incredibly hurt if they hear this kind of planning. Totally irrational I know as you having a baby has little to do with anyone else.
I had a section on 1st September this year, they wanted me to have it on 30st August but I postponed it for the school year.
I've been through the whole infertility crap (28 months worth) and anyone saying anything about planning to get pregnant in a certain month used to make my blood boil, as did the people who used to time dtd for certain times it the month to have a boy/girl.
Best of luck avoiding Xmas for a birthday, although I would be thrilled to have a December birthday personally as I absolutely love Xmas.
Good luck

My mind set is usually whats meant to be will be .... however my birthday is the beginning of December and I hate it. I don't feel forgotten or worry about getting less presents but it's just not good getting anyone to celebrate with u as it's such a busy time of year ... Also I'm always busy with work to plan too and it's cold and dark and so limits what u can do to celebrate anyway! ...just want to be indoors and snuggly but then resent it when friends get to have bbq's or go to theme parks in the summer lol...So plan it if u think u can!!

cant speak for others but for me having a birth date of august 30th it means birthdays were a struggle as it was at the end of the 6 weeks holidays so money was always a bit tight by then. It also meant i was the youngest in my school year and left school at 15 which made applying for college problematic

What's wrong with having August babies?
Some people worry that they will struggle at school as they will be the youngest in the school year.

Some people even try to postpone their August babies from starting school for a year so in effect they start school with kids who usually would have been in the year below them.

My son was born on 31 August and when he started school aged 4 and 3 days I was a little worried but because he had been attending PT nursery since age 1 and then FT nursery since age 2 he was fine.

I don't think it's unreasonable at all. I'm a Christmas Day baby myself and I don't recall a single birthday being special 😔

Forgot to add that at the moment one by one DS's friends are turning 18 and as expected they all choose to go out to a pub or town for the first time.

Every few weeks DS complains because he is missing out on yet another birthday celebration.

His really close friends have instead gone out for meals and the like so he isn't excluded.

My sisters and I were born within three days of Christmas, three are 17 family Birthdays in November and December 😱

No wonder I hate this time of year........

I did this. My 2nd as well. I took over 18 months to get pregnant (no idea why). By the time 2nd risk of a Christmas baby came around and I didn't care any more. I just wanted a baby. And, you guessed it, EDD was 25 December (but born on 28th).

Do whatever you want but I'm another December baby that loves having a birthday in December! Can't see an issue in it!

My son loves his Christmas birthday, and he was the best Christmas present ever. He will always be with his family for Christmas and doesn't understand why everyone doesn't get a day off for their birthday. As long as he gets a present on his sister's birthday he feels that is fair. You can have a birthday party with friends any time before or after!

No I don't think you're unreasonable. Nothing wrong with trying it. I have a relative born Christmas Eve and she says she always gets Christmas and birthday gifts in one. I wouldn't want a July or August baby either. But it's not always easy to plan conceiving. Plus you could give birth early. So many would think you are lucky if it works for you.

Sometimes planning just dosent work out. My ds wasnt due until 19th feb but ended up arriving the week before xmas. He loves his Christmas birthday.

Vinorosso
Why is it unreasonable to want September babies so they do better in school? If you can plan, and want to, why wouldn't you give your kids that extra chance? Not all Autumn borns are ahead, just as not all summer borns struggle, but there is a trend and several studies have shown this. As a teacher I have seen the difference in those children, why is it questionable to want your children to do well and have the best chance? We were lucky to plan that way and it worked out, obviously not everyone can or even wants to.

Having said all that, circumstances meant DS2 was Feb baby

If you don't mention it to anyone, what's the problem?! We had infertility so any baby st any time was fine by us! I just wouldn't feel the need to even discuss this, if no one knows you're trying, then you just fell pregnant when you did.

The unexpected benefit I found in having an early Jan baby was undivided senior midwife attention through my delivery. Central London hospital and virtually empty maternity suite - midwife said it was often like that as lots of people avoid Christmas babies!

Def plan to avoid it. I had my first baby no bother but it took me years to conceive my 2nd. Therefore I had just about given up hope as was nearly 37 at the time. However boom suddenly got pregnant and due date 19/12. Obviously we were overjoyed at getting the baby we thought we would never have. However I ended up with an emergency section on 19th. The hospital was packed and I had an awful experience. Xmas was a nightmare cos I also had a 5 year old and I was in so much pain but didn't want to ruin her Xmas. Now I have a nearly 1 year old and have asked close family to hold off buying him birthday and Xmas present cos what does a 1 year old actually need. Then to maybe get him something in the summer when he can properly play with his toys. So yes AVOID. I have no idea why anybody without fertility issues wouldn't.

We didn't give much thought to DS2's conception dates til the first scan declared that he was due on Christmas Day. Fortunately he went over and he arrived on Twelfth Night, 6th Jan, the same day he was due to be induced. Never had an issue with his birthday being so close to christmas, he loves that he gets so many presents in such a short time!

Had youngest on December 17th and we were very happy . Shes 8 now and just has plenty to look forward to in December and it's not a problem

YANBU but I would keep it to yourself, I was very happy when preg with DS2 and DD who were due Oct and SEPT as wanted to avoid summer babies ( no I didn't want them to be super brainy ahead of the class but just didn't want them being the youngest and struggling) as much as I planned DS2 was born in Aug 2 months early and DD was born in July again 2 months early! Babies come when there ready, good luck with it!! :)

YANBU! We only wanted our children to be born between Oct-April.