To wonder why so many people are nasty and thoughtless

[FlowerOfTheValley]

Some of the threads on here today where an OP posting for support in a distressing situation is getting abuse reflecting treatment they received in real life.

We are supposed to be a civilised society. I just don't get it. Why? What does kicking someone when they are down achieve. Where is the compassion.

I don't go on a thread to slag someone off in a sensitive situation. If I can't be of support then I won't post.

I might think somebody is wrong or horrid, both on MN and in real life, but what does it achieve to give them a further kicking.

There are lots of people for whom a few kind words or care would make their day yet there are so many people who would rather be nasty instead.

Is being supportive of somebody upset or vulnerable really so hard?

[gluteustothemaximus]

pklme - yes, I saw that thread. Nasty.

[crashdoll]

Oh yes usual, the ex TES members tend to have a distinctive style.

[pklme]

When threads disappear, are we ever told why? Are we to assume that they are all fake, somehow?

There are loads of teachers here, by the way.

[FlowerOfTheValley]

I don't see much point in faux sympathy or support neither although I would like to think most support posted on here is genuine. Nor do I see any reason to follow the crowd.

Robust debate is great and can help an OP see things from a different perspective. Yes sometimes it's not said gently but with the right intention.

But some comments and behaviour are said with the intention of being nasty with the full knowledge it will upset the OP. In those circumstances I am asking why people are lacking in compassion and still post inflammatory comments.

I see plenty of threads where I will strongly disagree with what the OP has done but if it's obvious they are vulnerable or upset I won't post. It's not difficult to refrain from being nasty.