To wonder why so many people are nasty and thoughtless

[FlowerOfTheValley]

Some of the threads on here today where an OP posting for support in a distressing situation is getting abuse reflecting treatment they received in real life.

We are supposed to be a civilised society. I just don't get it. Why? What does kicking someone when they are down achieve. Where is the compassion.

I don't go on a thread to slag someone off in a sensitive situation. If I can't be of support then I won't post.

I might think somebody is wrong or horrid, both on MN and in real life, but what does it achieve to give them a further kicking.

There are lots of people for whom a few kind words or care would make their day yet there are so many people who would rather be nasty instead.

Is being supportive of somebody upset or vulnerable really so hard?

But don't we want stuff which is helpful? If it's aggressively phrased, then people switch off from the content even if it is right, so it's not helpful.

And I'm not referring to specific people, I haven't got that hang of remembering who said what.

"NavyandWhite

That's what I mean about posters having a go at someone that they've noticed elsewhere and bringing their argument/disgruntlement to the thread."

On TES that was totally unacceptable. I felt surprised to find such a thread here.

the report button is just to the right ~> liv

Funny how your not so keen on the tables being turned and some one calling you out.

Any who - I don't want to derail the thread any further. Enjoy your evening.

Helpful stuff is fine and good but people shouldn't feel they have to be insincere and false rather than be honest. People are grown ups, no?

I don't report posts like yours because it helps for other people to see you making a twat of yourself ^^

You really do have an issue with me... if I'm not that important why comment on my posts all the time?

Still I suppose it's a hobby

Times Educational Supplement. (TES)
You actually didn't know??

Anyhoo?

TES Opinion in the not too distant past was combative and feisty. The debates were not all educational, either...

Gotta say I'm loving the irony of this thread...

There is such a lot of factors
You don't know the person. Half of the comments people would never say irl.
We all have sensitive days. I know I do.
You are reading comments on here and they can be misconstrued. Like texts. I have been guilty of that.
Some people are brutal in a 'that's me' annoying way. Just avoid them.
But....
I do run out of patience sometimes when people repeatedly drag others through the same mess repeatedly asking advice. And some people could do with a wake up call and hearts and flowers is not always the best option....
life is hard though.....

"NavyandWhite

Ha ha. Was that a dig Alexa?"
No. Just thought everybody would know!

I haven't heard of it either - I presume it's for teachers?

There's loads of teachers on here.

It's not insincere and false to phrase things gently rather than sharply, is it? Communication isn't just about spewing out your thoughts. It's about what the other person hears not just what you say. Anyway, I don't think I'm helping here, so I'll bog off.
I'll go and dream of a world where more people care about the experiences of the people around them...

TES? Just for teachers!! Goodness me, no! Anyone who is interested in education is welcome on TES, dontcha know!?
(God, they could do with anyone and everyone, given how many decent posters they have banished.)

I agree with you, OP. Well done for saying it.