To wonder why so many people are nasty and thoughtless

[FlowerOfTheValley]

Some of the threads on here today where an OP posting for support in a distressing situation is getting abuse reflecting treatment they received in real life.

We are supposed to be a civilised society. I just don't get it. Why? What does kicking someone when they are down achieve. Where is the compassion.

I don't go on a thread to slag someone off in a sensitive situation. If I can't be of support then I won't post.

I might think somebody is wrong or horrid, both on MN and in real life, but what does it achieve to give them a further kicking.

There are lots of people for whom a few kind words or care would make their day yet there are so many people who would rather be nasty instead.

Is being supportive of somebody upset or vulnerable really so hard?

[hollyatchristmas]

Gah if you mean mine no it's not

[LouisvilleLlama]

I think there's a lot of projecting, you can have little amount of facts but because of projection posters seem to post talking about aspects of a situation/ feelings or attitude of a person wo isn't even the OP etc when there's absolutely no way they could know or tell. I think it slips in for a lot of people myself included sometimes

[Ilovehedgehogs]

I prefer competitive loveliness to competitiveness nastiness.

[LiviaDrusillaAugusta]

But it's more likely to be false.

Competitive nastiness isn't pleasant but at least it's not bullshit.

[Ilovehedgehogs]

Nah, it's just bullies doing it under the guise of 'straight talking'.
There are lots of genuinely nice people around.

[FannyWisdom]

Nah Liv they do sometimes have a point.

A reminder to all of us to have a bit of perspective and empathy.
A reminder why we like mnet, because you can get all the other argumentative posturing on other forums.
Mnet can and does help a lot of us.
It doesn't hurt to refocus that.

[Ilovehedgehogs]

In your opinion.

[Ilovehedgehogs]

So being nice is dull, being nasty is genuine (and good fun). Is this taught to dc too?

[Jinglebellsandv0dka]

But it's more likely to be false

Honestly how the fuck do you know that?

Maybe that's just your natural outlook on life. My cousin is like that - bitter. Thinks every one is fake or out of order so it's better to just be an all out nasty git.

[ghostspirit]

I think the nastyness will always be about. I do think some people enjoy being nasty. There are ways of not agreeing without being nasty. Bit of think people sometimes like to be. Also the op may ask if she is being unreasonable but she does not have to agree. As pointed out though it happens on other threads to.

I have had it a good few times on my threads but I don't care all time it's on my thread they are leaving someone else alone.

But as a whole mn is great there are lots of lovely people on here with lots of good advice and opinions. We just take away whether works for us.

[Pisssssedofff]

I honestly don't know why I post here at all, it's usually just to put things down on paper kind of thing which is therapeutic. Where I go wrong is pressing post lol

[Jinglebellsandv0dka]

And yes ilove her DC are getting like that too. So I do think it's passed on. I think ultimately it's just folks bad energy or personality.

[Ohyesiam]

livia I disagree, I've seem loss of nastiness that is bullshit, and just to be nasty. In fact most of the nastiness is nothing to do south opinion, it's just finding a hurtful thing to say, and saying it, hiding being anonymity.

[LiviaDrusillaAugusta]

Who said it was fun?

Just that if you believe that most people are genuine and lovely in RL or MN then that's your prerogative but be prepared to be disappointed.

But someone isn't 'falsely nasty' iyswim. But for every genuinely nice person, there are hundreds who are two faced.

It's just how things are - I don't honestly think people are going to read threads like this and decide that they had better start being nice.

[Ilovehedgehogs]

What the hell? where did you extrapolate that being non aggressive to someone is

A. Not being honest or forthright
B. Saying 'aw sorry hun'

[LiviaDrusillaAugusta]

Not everyone is nasty, I know some amazing people that I have actually met via MN but there are a lot of two faced people in the world.

[Ilovehedgehogs]

Gosh, how awful to be boring to other fascinating and witty posters.

[Jinglebellsandv0dka]

Being forthright and offering advice imo is better than " aw sorry hun

I've rarely seen a 'aw sorry Hun' on here. I've seen brilliant advice with out the poster being a complete arsehole and also see/seen lots of people being forthright and bring cunts.

[LouisvilleLlama]

No being nice isn't dull, but everyone pretending to be nice and supportive when you all think the OP is a bit mad is dull and not real so actually dilutes the strength and sincerity of the meaningful support that is real.

Also if you're always supportive even to those that have done something wrong how will they change that if your always supporting that behaviour.