I appear to have been kon maried by my brother...

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We are rarely in contact other than to wish each other a happy birthday. I live 1,000 miles away. He has done this to all members of our family now except our other sister.

I feel like slapping him around the chops with a wet fish!

His command that you not involve anybody else in his decision to cut you off for no reason is so imperious it's ridiculous!

He doesn't get to tell you what you are allowed to discuss!

i'd text him back and ask ''don't involve others in what? if my brother has cut me off for no reason I can understand, that's going to come up in conversations''

Make the ludicrous tosser trip himself up explaining.

I'd never heard of anything like this before - it's utterly barmy and bewildering (especially for the person on the receiving end).

What personality type does this fall into?

The correct response to offering someone with kids to source a hatchimal is eternal gratitude - those things are like hen's teeth and even my DPs in the US currently can't get any!

I'd be concerned about him OP if this is out of the blue and I'd text back asking if he is ok.

Is Marie Kon a joke name? It's a rude word in Spanish.

Marie Kondo is her name, she is Japanese.

That's maricón.

I knew the OP was joking, I think it's funny. I was really in to Marie Kondo this time last year and I got a skip and really went for it hell to leather.

When my x who was a hoarder dumped me in the summer I told my friend I'd been marie kondoed by a hoarder.

Anyway, I thought it was just funny. We all know obviously that MK refers to things not people. But I saw humour in applying it to people deciding that you don't spark joy in their life and deleting you

Starting this thread for the enjoyment of strangers on the internet, and expecting repayment for a token value present for your nieces/nephews doesn't reflect positively on you

She's offering to purchase something that is hard to get hold of here and very sought after in order for her brother to give it as a gift from himself not from aunty.
A £60 gift in a huge amount of households is a main present not a token gift.
These things are selling on eBay for huge sums of money most parents who had kids that age who were interested in one would be chuffed to bits to have a relative who could do the purchase on their behalf

sadie that sums up my half-sister so perfectly. Piles of abusive emails for months over something that provably didn't happen and telling me what a terrible person I am. Then suddenly "happy birthday". She loses jobs and relationships too and now at least me from her family.

It's very hurtful. In the end you have to back away.

It's well worth trying to find out what's at the bottom of this with your brother though OP. It sounds like something's wrong.

I would reply to ask if he is okay and say that you are always here for him and then I would drop it. His loss.

Erm, any chance I could buy a furby from you?

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Yours does sound a bit like a sales pitch

That's what I thought. I initially thought the offending message was the first one and reply was the OP's

I don't know what these things are and what they cost. If the OP usually sends presents to nieces and nephews and these things are in the normal budget I think I would have expected the message to be framed as " would wee x,y, z like one of these for Christmas"

I of course meant to say Furby in an egg!

Since when was £60 a token value present? The op was trying to do something nice for her dub, that if his dc wanted a Hatchimal and they were struggling to get one she could help out by getting one and sending it to them. His reply is odd, hurtful and totally unnecessary, especially as there seems to have been no lead up to it. Most people can cope with exchanging a few texts each year.

How strange!

Even tho this calls for a witty one liner response to show how petty he is and how you're the bigger person, sadly the best response is what you plan to do - delete and ignore. Less satisfying short term but he's probably checking for a reply every few hours.

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* Would be happy to help (but in all honesty, not sure how that would work?)

Interesting... It never even crossed my mind that he might not know what one was? It certainly is way above our usual £15-£20 a child budget

It's not hard though is it, if he didn't know what it was he could just google it. I've not heard of them, just googled it and a pic came up with the price, £60.
This is not a normal response, there must be a back story/something else going on. Such a strong reaction to what appears (on the face of it) to be an innocuous text.

And £60 is a lot of money to spend on a niece/nephew. That's more of the kind of money the parents would spend.

I agree milking. But I am still smarting from the text, in all honesty and not ready to ask how he is. I suspect his wife has had a play in this.

Is there more to this?
Do you think the extreme lack of contact has made him revaluate his relationships with his family?

I assume that you both don't message each other very often? My MIL always felt that people should communicate with her but she should never communicate with them, until someone told her that she has to make half the effort as well.

I know what they are from the Christmas threads. Everyone with certain age children is desperate for them.

My two are 13 & 15 so we are beyond that now but if I was living somewhere they were in abundance I'd be letting people with kids under 10 know.

My sisters are like this - totally unpredictable and liable to bring up incidents from 1957 in arguments . . .

OP what does 'I appear to have been kon maried by my brother...' mean?

Sorry for being thick

OP what does 'I appear to have been kon maried by my brother...' mean?

Thrown away because it is something you don't love, it doesn't bring you joy or you don't find it useful

I don't understand this at all. I must be missing something. Does everyone on here know more of OP's backstory than I do or something?

It seems like you sent a message saying hi how are you, and offering to get this thing for his kids, and he then just straight up told you he doesn't ever want to speak to you again? That doesn't make any sense.

The title means nothing to me either but I'm guessing maybe that's a mumsnet reference.