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Original poster

to buy my disabled daughter branded clothes?

159 replies

PennieB · 14/11/2016 21:16

My daughter is in a wheelchair, she is mentally disabled. She obviously has no idea about brands, so no peer pressure, etc.

However, I'm not being unreasonable to put her in them am I? MIL seems to think it's because I want to 'jazz her up a bit' Hmm would you think along those lines if you saw my DD in branded clothes?

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harderandharder2breathe · 14/11/2016 21:18

If she's happy and comfortable and you can afford it then yanbu

Daisiesandgerberas · 14/11/2016 21:18

Go for it. Why wouldn't you if you can afford it? You sound lovely. Flowers

DiegeticMuch · 14/11/2016 21:19

Yanbu

Why shouldn't she wear what others in her peer group are choosing to wear? She's a girl who happens to be disabled.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 14/11/2016 21:19

I think anyone who buys branded clothes purely for the brand is unreasonable.

However if you are buying clothes because you both like them, and they are practical etc YANBU.

In this case I'm not sure the disability is really relevant?

I wouldn't notice I'd someone was wearing brands or not. I only judge if they are wearing (to me) ridiculous clothes.

NapQueen · 14/11/2016 21:19

I wouldn't think twice seeing anyone in branded or unbranded clothes.

Surely you just buy clothes you like?

Some brands, imo, are the price they are because of the quality. Some are just because of the name.

LimitedSedition · 14/11/2016 21:19

YANBU And your MIL perhaps just doesn't 'get' it.

kerryob · 14/11/2016 21:19

Do you like the clothes? Will your daughter be comfortable in them? If yes get her them! She's your child, sod what your mil thinks buy them

DeleteOrDecay · 14/11/2016 21:20

I wouldn't think anything as long as she looked clean and comfortable.

Buy what you like for your daughter, it's no one else's business.

isthatmorelego · 14/11/2016 21:20

Ok not being mean at all am disabled myself but why shouldn't your daughter wear them , why should she be different to other children ?

Rosae · 14/11/2016 21:21

Tbh I wouldn't even notice if they were branded or not....

Do you have other children? What do you buy them?

Original poster
PennieB · 14/11/2016 21:21

Well, DD doesn't pick any clothes. She just doesn't really know, as I get her dressed, etc. so I go for ones I like, I suppose. Which tend to be branded, so I get them. I never though anything of it, but when I heard that I thought about and I'd hate for anyone to think that of me.

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AndNowItsSeven · 14/11/2016 21:21

Yanbu your dd should have the opportunity to be fashionably dressed just as her peers are.

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface · 14/11/2016 21:22

I wouldn't know what was branded or not. I'd just see a person in clothes.

I'm quite unobservant. Probably wouldn't actually notice the wheelchair, tbh.

Am sure she looks lovely.

Manumission · 14/11/2016 21:22

What does she mean "jazz her up a bit"!?

WiddlinDiddlin · 14/11/2016 21:22

Buy clothes that you think she likes, that perhaps her peers like too, that you like, that are comfortable.

Whether they are branded or not is not really relevant.

I wouldn't pay stupid money for hyped up brands that she may not even like though, but equally I would avoid dressing her in the cheapest crap going on the grounds shes not able to choose/complain (I have no idea if she is or she isn't of course!).

3littlebadgers · 14/11/2016 21:23

Not at all. I wouldn't even notice to br honest. I think the only thing I would notice is if you had one child dressed in good quality clothes and another in rags. Your daughter is cared for and loved. That is all that matters at the end of the day.

ITCouldBeWorse · 14/11/2016 21:23

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AnyFucker · 14/11/2016 21:24

Your MIL sounds peculiar and a bit mean

Buy whatever clothes you like for your daughter. I like good quality clothes too and have always bought them for my kids whether they were aware or not

Original poster
PennieB · 14/11/2016 21:25

Ah, really pleased thank you :) no, she is my only child

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Owllady · 14/11/2016 21:26

She is deserving of nice clothes you know. Take no notice of MIL, what an odd thing for her to focus on.

VixenLupin · 14/11/2016 21:26

I'd think you want your daughter to look nice. Just like most parents want their kids to look nice. If you can afford branded clothes then why not?

What sort of brands are you talking about? Despite having a bunch of children I have no idea what brands are about as they have no interest in fashion so I buy their clothes wherever is cheapest!

changedname26 · 14/11/2016 21:27

Not at all unreasonable - I looked after a severely disabled lass a while ago at work and it was her family's request that we straighten her hair daily, apply light make up and perfume etc. She wore clothes from top shop, new look etc. No 'comfy joggie bottoms' or massive polo shirts as I so often see. As long as your daughter is clean and comfortable, why shouldn't she be allowed to wear bonny clothes?

IminaPickle · 14/11/2016 21:27

Nasty comment from your mil
As pp have said it's a way of showing you care. You sound like a lovely Mum.

Manijo · 14/11/2016 21:28

Why shouldn't your DD look hip and trendy? I am sure that to you she as is gorgeous and beautiful as my daughter is to me.
The most important surely is that she is comfortable.

ReallyTired · 14/11/2016 21:28

I suppose that a lot of us wear certain to clothes to please other people. Provided your daughter is happy I can't see the problem. Dressing her in nice clothes will affect how other people see her.

Lots of people dress babies and small children in fashionable clothes and don't get judged.