"Ur doing great hun"

[girlwithamoonandstaronherhead]

I'm on a couple of whatsapp groups with people I don't know, due to shared interests. I find them very useful, and the people very nice. But one thing really annoys me. If for example I ask for some advice (one of them is a parenting group), I will get some good advice, plus many fairly pointless messages along the lines of 'ur doing great', 'give urself a pat on the back' etc. These people don't know me, and have never met my kids, so I could quite feasibly not be doing great, and they wouldn't know.
I like genuine compliments, for example if someone in real life said, 'your kids are so well behaved, you're doing really well with them', or on whatsapp, 'your posts are so insightful, thanks' (btw no one has said either of these things to me, I'm just fantasising ), that would give me a nice warm feeling.
But I really don't feel I need meaningless compliments from people I've never met. I feel this is the way the world is going, everyone needing constant praise from others for not actually doing anything.
AIBU and a miserable cow?

Ugh the huns. Nothing more infuriating. YANBU. 'Haters' is also really irritating. Anyone that doesn't agree with their opinion is a hater, as someone previously said, they don't know how to have a discussion like an adult so throw sickly sweet phrases out instead. I've had to unfollow a lot of huns on FB. Luckily, huns tend to flock to huns so I don't have too many!!!

"they don't know how to have a discussion like an adult"

Who are 'they' then?

Yes the huns. Well, any I have ever come into contact with in real life I should say. Shouldn't make a sweeping generalisation of the masses, that was naughty of me. Apologises.

Seems ironic that anyone would make such a vapid statement to support their claim to superior skill in adult discussion.

yes but then if they don't know you they might just want to be kind/nice. they wont come on and say you could be horrible or doing really badly,so they come on and try to encrouage,be nice. if you've said something you have done wrong and the yare praising you then fair enough but if they are simply choosing to come on and firstly see you as good then why not.
and the hun,if its genuine then give people a break!people cant win.

I think it's always meant well, but because of its banality, it fails to mean anything.

Take it as it's meant, or ignore, but getting in a stink about it is a waste of energy.

People can't win, yes exactly kateandme. Moan if people are horrid, moan if they're nice. Do you really have nothing else to worry about!?

I don't mind being called love, sweetie, chick etc, but for some reason Hun is like finger nails down a blackboard. To me, a Hun is a German soldier and always will be.

I go on Netmums sometimes...I think they're a more laid back, accepting and realistic lot, particularly when it comes to the parenting element.
As much as mumsnet reckons it's a cut above the so-called 'hunners', it's a tough place to be found lacking in any way, however commonplace or paltry the crime.
I come here for the banter and bargy debate...if it was support with parenting I was after, I'd pick Netmums over Mumsnet in a flash. Sparkles and huns aside, they seem more honest, empathetic and kind when it comes to being a mum.

On netmums they tend to answer the op's question directly without piling in and pointing out the op's short comings or questioning how they got in their situation. Which is good imo. With 'your doing great hun', its often just a brush off without offering support or advice at all. It's a meaningless platitude.

I am so not the NetMums demographic, I just don't really like babies/children (quite partial to my own, but that's it).

I have perused NM but it brought me out in hives after 15 minutes...