"Ur doing great hun"

[girlwithamoonandstaronherhead]

I'm on a couple of whatsapp groups with people I don't know, due to shared interests. I find them very useful, and the people very nice. But one thing really annoys me. If for example I ask for some advice (one of them is a parenting group), I will get some good advice, plus many fairly pointless messages along the lines of 'ur doing great', 'give urself a pat on the back' etc. These people don't know me, and have never met my kids, so I could quite feasibly not be doing great, and they wouldn't know.
I like genuine compliments, for example if someone in real life said, 'your kids are so well behaved, you're doing really well with them', or on whatsapp, 'your posts are so insightful, thanks' (btw no one has said either of these things to me, I'm just fantasising ), that would give me a nice warm feeling.
But I really don't feel I need meaningless compliments from people I've never met. I feel this is the way the world is going, everyone needing constant praise from others for not actually doing anything.
AIBU and a miserable cow?

Do it OP!

why are you hanging out with these people? they are clearly not as intelligent, erudite and well educated as you

but seriously, you don't like the way they talk, but please don't come to MN to slate them as you 1000% know everyone will agree wiv u Hun

stopfucking the worst offender on my FB feed has her PhD in Chemical Engineering - it's nothing to do with intelligence or education. I've no idea why she does it except that she enjoys talking that way.

I had to tell a really close friend to stop saying "Hun" in texts. It was cringey, every other word.

So... They replaced "Hun" with "love" and for various other reasons we are no longer friends

Agree it's not intelligence or even education related, many of the people on the group are well educated, and I wasn't actually complaining about the 'hun'!

Yep where I'm from 'hun' is a nasty word for a Protestant, also directed at rangers supporters whether they're Protestant or not.

I'm on the fence with this one though, I think they're just trying to be nice and there's worse things they could do/say.

You see it a lot on parenting forums. I think people are genuinely trying to be supportive and helpful but posting stuff like "you're a great mum" means nothing at all. It's only meaningful if the person knows you, your kids and your parenting.

Your bubz your roolz type thing Eurgh!

RELEASE THE KRAKEN!

It's the only way.

"Well I bet you're a right munter" is never going to go down well
Are you sure you're not Scottish, Worra ?

it's nothing to do with intelligence or education

lets agree to disagree shall we?

I wasn't personally questioning the language used, I'm not a 'hunner' myself but don't take offence at it. I was questioning why these days people seem to need to constant flow of praise regardless of what they are doing.
I am aware that internet support forums can be really important to isolated people, and that being nice to strangers is not a bad thing!
By the way stop I had to look up the meaning of 'erudite' so I don't think I can be lauding my superior education over anyone

Oh, I just can't bear it...the bland, empty platitudes.

But I'm a complete Nazi when it comes to this style of language. Both DDs know to not use text speak, or cutesy abbreviations when they text me, because I just won't respond bah humbug

What's wrong with McDonalds?

Nothing.

But the children in question were probably 10-11 months old. If me looking askance at a mum giving Coke in a sippy cup and chips to a kid who can't even walk makes me a judgey fucker then hands up, I am a judgey fucker. They were discussing what seemed like a visit to tte docs or HV or something where said hcp has mentioned that Coke and chips were not the finest diet for the cherubs in question. The hunning and 'ur bub ur rules ' was pretty depressing.

'Hun' makes me cringe. Then when people do it to me, I feel I have to do it back, otherwise I sound unfriendly, but I can't bring myself to do it, so I put up with sounding unfriendly! These women are articulate, intelligent (for the most part) and well over 25 in most cases! Id expect it to be more a younger woman thing for some reason

I have an issue with 'cum' instead of 'come' - I mean, ewww! My ex sends texts saying he 'Can't wait to cum' (to visit us!) and I just think, "Good for you. Twist that wrist".

Bleurgh.

Yes it's people from all walks of life ime who are hunning, bubbing and hubbying all over the place. It's a bit false and twee.

Twist that wrist!

They do it on here, albeit with fewer huns and babes.

Ur doin great hun ignore the haters and feed lil Mason and Kyle maccyDs what do those docs know anyway haha

What a horrible thread.
People are trying to be supportive in their own way.
Agree with a PP.... really sneery and unpleasant undertone
This sums it up..... just nasty

But it's not supportive. No one should be 'supported' in giving coke in a sippy cup & chips to a 9 month old.

It's like 'supporting' them to get Type 2 diabetes before they're 40. Nice.

*But it's not supportive. No one should be 'supported' in giving coke in a sippy cup & chips to a 9 month old.

It's like 'supporting' them to get Type 2 diabetes before they're 40. Nice.*

Not sure where you have got that from the OP