"Ur doing great hun"

[girlwithamoonandstaronherhead]

I'm on a couple of whatsapp groups with people I don't know, due to shared interests. I find them very useful, and the people very nice. But one thing really annoys me. If for example I ask for some advice (one of them is a parenting group), I will get some good advice, plus many fairly pointless messages along the lines of 'ur doing great', 'give urself a pat on the back' etc. These people don't know me, and have never met my kids, so I could quite feasibly not be doing great, and they wouldn't know.
I like genuine compliments, for example if someone in real life said, 'your kids are so well behaved, you're doing really well with them', or on whatsapp, 'your posts are so insightful, thanks' (btw no one has said either of these things to me, I'm just fantasising ), that would give me a nice warm feeling.
But I really don't feel I need meaningless compliments from people I've never met. I feel this is the way the world is going, everyone needing constant praise from others for not actually doing anything.
AIBU and a miserable cow?

I feel really weird about hun. I say it to friends in writing (fb, texts etc) but have NEVER, EVER said it in real life. I couldn't imagine a situation where I ever would. It's truly bizarre and I curse myself but never really know what else to say without sounding really formal.
Sorry to derail....

Love MN because for every 'hun' message there are 2 remarks like "boils my piss" or "cockwomble". My vocabulary is much enhanced. Makes me laugh out loud sometimes.
Who thought of 'cuntweasel'? Ur a genius hunni, wherever you are!

For me it's the whole herd mentality that annoys me. No individuality with following the crowd. Just be yourself, what you say is still valid even if you don't use the "in" words.

People hear others say something and think they should be saying that too. And on it goes and becomes a "thing", like hun!

Today people in general irritate me. It's a very busy time for me and everyone seems to think what I really need is a nice long chat. It really, really isn't. If someone hunned me I'd be likely to do them serious harm!

I didn't realise that Hun was a slur at all, even though I lived in Glasgow for a couple of years. I'm a Tim though so I probably wouldn't have noticed anyway.

Navy twat has always been a particular favourite of mine

Stay off whattsap then

Black mirror is on Netflix. Episode 1 was about a time where everyone's place in society depended on how many every single social interaction is rated. All 3 series were written by Charlie Brooker. I couldn't describe it so I've copied the following
Featuring stand-alone dramas sharp, suspenseful, satirical tales that explore techno-paranoia "Black Mirror" is a contemporary reworking of "The Twilight Zone" with stories that tap into the collective unease about the modern world.
So there. It's really good. Watch it if you can.

I get irrationally annoyed at fake compliments too

I was raised with if you don't have anything nice to say - say nothing.

I've often thought of starting a petition to change it to "if you have nothing constructive to say or probably type nowadays - say nothing"

I must confess "Hun" is an easy thing to get dragged into, as others have stated it seems if you don't reply with "Hun" and xxxxx you appear a cold heartless bitch I have used "Hun" on occasion, even spelt that way too - yes I am very ashamed. I have also been dragged into multiple kisses but draw the line at 3 and NEVER use lol!! After reading this thread though I will stay strong, keep my grammar standards high and avoid hunning and multiple kisses where there is no need. Have to say though, love an emoji

I hate 'hun' ... don't know why but it really makes my blood boil.

I'm English living in Scotland. I use the expression 'hun' mainly when I'm talking to friends back home.
Constructive criticism is great in context but I wouldn't call someone I don't know & have never met hun.
It can be difficult commenting on a group chat with strangers. Some people ask the opinion of others then they themselves or others are derogatory about that opinion!
Crazy world we live in 🤐

Is there a gap in the market for hunsnet?

Same reason i left nm's and left loads of facebook groups. SJW tumblr snowflakes, trigger warnings for anything that might bare some relation to anyone's past and protect everyones right to their opinion as long as its exactly the same as their own. I've gone through tonnes of shit and dealt with it through a very dark sense of humour and when those types find out they get offended on behalf of people who've had my experiences when they haven't themselves because they expect us all to be broken and shattered by everyday life if it was true. Talk freely, tell me I'm wrong if you can prove it, call me a fucking moron of ot's common sense and keep the trigger warnings to hand guns ffs!

Oh, yea, YANBU, not by a long shot.

I'm sorry but everyone judges. It's just not politically correct to vocalise it. We've all got different ideas of what's acceptable and what's not.
10 month old eating MaccyDs? No fucking way in my house and I would totally judge any parent that did.
I do totally despise the word hun though.
I also hate the phrase furbabies but that's another story.

People are just being nice. It is hard to give genuine compliments if you don't know somebody in real life. Usually if you care enough to be asking for online support with parenting yoi care enough to be doing a good enough job.

The OP is elearly not feeding a baby fries washed down with coke and therefore I am
not sure why the thread has become all about that crime other than to give some MNers the chance to sneer or feel superior.

But if you don't know someone, why give a compliment? You don't know them, so it's a meaningless platitude. 'Youre doing great hun' doesn't mean anything. 'what you've written sound's fine to me' is an objective opinion of someone who clearly doesn't know you from Adam. If I'm texting, I just say 'hi' Even my friends aren't my 'hun's, they are my friends. Grown ups with names.

I have been called 'Chick', 'hun', 'babe', 'chicker', 'sweetheart', 'darling', and told 'well done you'. It makes my blood boil! It is really insincere, and just a bit glib! :)

I have a friend who calls everyone 'chick'. Perversely I quite like it I don't know if it's because it sounds less personal.

I loathe hun, and *hubby is just as irritating. Ugh.