"Ur doing great hun"

[girlwithamoonandstaronherhead]

I'm on a couple of whatsapp groups with people I don't know, due to shared interests. I find them very useful, and the people very nice. But one thing really annoys me. If for example I ask for some advice (one of them is a parenting group), I will get some good advice, plus many fairly pointless messages along the lines of 'ur doing great', 'give urself a pat on the back' etc. These people don't know me, and have never met my kids, so I could quite feasibly not be doing great, and they wouldn't know.
I like genuine compliments, for example if someone in real life said, 'your kids are so well behaved, you're doing really well with them', or on whatsapp, 'your posts are so insightful, thanks' (btw no one has said either of these things to me, I'm just fantasising ), that would give me a nice warm feeling.
But I really don't feel I need meaningless compliments from people I've never met. I feel this is the way the world is going, everyone needing constant praise from others for not actually doing anything.
AIBU and a miserable cow?

Funny you've said black mirror

I've just watched the first 3 episodes.

Sat there with a what the fuck am I watching all the way yet can't seem to tear my eyes away from it

I've only ever seen the 'Prime Minister shagging a pig' episode of Black Mirror (eerily prophetic). Can you do a link, falange?

The answer is.... don't be in whatsapp groups with people you don't know! Huns or no Huns, it's a shitty idea!

I hate Hun! Someone I don't know calling me Hun in RL or forums sets my teeth on edge. And makes me feel a bit like a snob. But I still hate it.

I could murder a Big Mac right now.

I am pretty slack in judging parents. But sometimes I see clearly shit parenting. Like the mother speaking horribly to her quiet teenage girl in a way that had everyone in the queue raising their eyebrows. No one should speak to another person as that woman spoke to her daughter. It was horrible. Some people are horrible, and that includes to their kids.

Sorry, but I hate these pointless posts. I actually feel like poking myself in the eye for reading even half of the thread.

You hate people you don't know trying to be nice to you and trying to be a little positive, but you then come on a forum to ask other people who don't know you from Adam to reassure you that you ANBU (in my opinion the acronyms AIBU and YANBU are far worse than calling someone "Hun", "Hon" or lol). Surely a bit of positivity is better than miserable people, judging every aspect of our lives. You are saying people should be more honest, but as was pointed out many times on this thread, you don't know these people, so what does there opinion matter either way? Friends and family should of course always be completely honest, but total strangers should just offer their advice in the nicest possible way (in my opinion). Don't we all try and teach our children to be nice, kind and to not deliberately hurt someone else's feelings?

The thread then gets turned into a debate about whether people who use the term Hun are educated or lazy or both?!?! Come on ladies surely there are better things to talk about and debate, than these trivial matters? I'm now going to poke myself in the other eye for even bothering to post. And for the record I have never seen anyone give an 11 month old coke.

Welcome to Mumsnet shady debating trivial matters is our raison d'être...

Out of interest, where do we stand on Bubs as a diminutive of baby?

Kiiilllllll them, yes?

Hate bubs and hubs any any type of 'ubs'. My dsis is a serial offender, I might disown her.
Love Black Mirror.

I expect you all do stuff someone somewhere would consider 'shit parenting'

Oh I do but it would take ages to list them all usual.

fruit shoots, MacDonalds, Call of Duty....the holy trinity

Milkshakeandmonstermunch I despise it too for that very reason.

Omg,
I can't stand "Hun".
I despise the word.
There is a mum at my daughters school(same year, different bloody class, thank god.) and she knows my name as she knows me but recently she sent me a couple of texts and said "Hi Hun, how's things."
To cut a long story short, she sells products, and i personally think this is a phrase that they have been told to use to sell products and come across all friendly etc. Haha
Any thoughts?

Shady,
I agree with you,but I couldn't help myself when I saw the "HUN" thread.
It just winds me up.
😬😬

You know what's worse than Hun?

Hunny.

Or

Hunneee

They all make me shudder. 😱

DC-less here, but being called "hun" really, really grates on my nerves, its a horrible term.

I loathe 'hun' or any derivative of said word.

Why would a person who knows your name call you hun?

I hate it, seriously makes me angry. I joined another forum just for the Christmas section (I don't fit in on mumsnet Christmas discussions spend too much) but I just couldn't see past the huns, hubby, little man and 'stash' photos

God, shadey did you call us ladies?

@shadey2009 really couldn't agree more.. what's so wrong with people being positive and supportive.
It's better than people judging you and putting you down.
And as for "Hun" each to their own, we all have words or phrases that annoy us.. but I have bigger things to worry about than if someone wants to call me "Hun"