Family gathering, niece doesn't like dogs.

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We are having a family gathering tomorrow to mark 20 years since our mum died, therefore my brothers and sisters will all be there, along with partners and children.

My sister (sister2) is hosting, she is ok with dogs although doesn't own one anymore. I have a dog which I would like to take, he is a good dog and doesn't jump up or run around barking.

Our other sister (sister 1) has said she would rather I don't take the dog as my niece is scared of them.

I would usually get our younger sister (sister 3) to dog sit but given the occasion she will obviously be there too.

Would I be unreasonable to push it a little and ask could I take the dog and leave him in the kitchen? the children will probably be playing upstairs most of the evening and the smokers of the group tend to congregate in the kitchen so its easier to get to the back door.

I don't really want to leave Dog on his own all evening because he will cry, he doesn't get left alone for long periods usually.

So WIBU to make this suggestion and potentially put DSis 1 in a position she would rather not be or am I being one of THOSE dog owners?

Bottom line... sorry have to say it...

Your dog is ruling your life.

If you're happy with that... fine.

But to have to sleep with your sister because of the dog is beyond ridiculous.

I am a dog lover but I know twhat heir place should be. He is a dog. He is not your mother, he is not your child.

There are times during the week people approach me with their young children to stroke the dogs.

But they will be people who like dogs! As will the people who comment on your dogs. But not everybody does like dogs.

Navy You just said you can't control other people's dogs. That means when a dog comes up to a person they cannot control that dog. Okay? That means you must understand why people don't want dogs off of the lead coming over to them; because they cannot control them. Your words.

Therefore if you were walking and a dog came up to you, you understand that you cannot control that dog.

No dog can be 100% under control whilst off a leash; they are sentient beings that can make their own decisions. Even if that dog is trained to the highest degree it can still make a choice to disobey. That is the point people are trying to make.

You are contradicting yourself. I cannot argue with you anymore; I feel like my head is going to explode.

Sorry where did I do say I have to sleep with my sister? My sister and her partner have been staying with me in my room. I have been on the sofa for that reason. They are not staying for the dogs benefit.

They won't be here forever.

However I have been on the sofa with my sister and her partner staying over so we are in the same room all night

Hard to understand. I apologise if I got it wrong.

I have no idea who is sleeping with who!

However....

A dog is a dog however much he is loved.

I'm not stalking, we just happen to be on two threads the same. Funny how you're not answering the logical answer I just gave you though

Because you know I'm right? Its purely just applying logic to what you have said that I came up with that post.

Thank you itsmine

I definitely wouldn't take the dog. Not worth the stress.

What part of that post don't you agree with? You can't without contradicting yourself. I have dogs and I understand that while they are highly trained and I do let them off leash that they should be called to heel and put on the lead if we are near children because adults do not like unaccompanied dogs near their children etc.

I say leave the Dog home too.

I am not afraid of dogs, the DC love them I wouldn't go that far, a bit smelly and boisterous for my liking tbut I would be very surprised if anyone wanted to bring their dog along to my house.

Yes and so you know that other people can't be in control of your dogs, just like you can't be incontrol of their dogs. That's the point I was making - so you are agreeing with it.

I've found the threads that we've "spoken" on before.

And I'm the stalker itsmine