To get fed up of my DP going to ExWs house regularly because of kids?

[Sunflowerspread]

I've been with my DP 5 years - and mostly good but for one niggle - he's always going to ExWs house because of their kids!

He takes his two daughters to Uni every morning - they live at their mum's - so he goes around every morning. Fair enough.

When their mum goes away they sometimes come to ours, they are very welcome, one used to live with us. But more and more they don't want to, and so DP goes to their house to see them and check they are OK. If they want their computer sorting, or a lift. Again, DP goes to theirs, they are often not ready, so he gets asked to go in, he does.

I do get that he needs a relationship. I do get that they are living at their mums. But why does it always have to be there?

I've tried to entice them to ours for the weekend, taken them out for dinners, all so that they can have some Dad time in his own house, or just him and them. His ExW has been starting to ask him more and more favours which involve him going to her house. They have a half sister now, who they hardly ever see because of this new 'norm'.

I'm just getting a bit fed up, but if I don't want to say anything directly as DP will just feel like I want to stop him seeing his daughters. Which I don't. I just wish it were more at our house!

If I recall correctly, they're not married. In fact, he's married to his "ex" no? And he owns the house. So the OP doesn't get to decide to "let" him back in as it is his sole asset.

This thread is depressing, it reads like certain posters trying to manipulate OP and bully her in to ending the relationship.
Good luck OP, you will need it.

whattodowiththepoo what relationship though? He gives the OP minimal time and attention and even less for their daughter. OP hasn't said he's actually changed his behaviour (or even sees anything wrong with it). From everything sunflower has said there is nothing to salvage - - his choice. Yes - she can continue to be a live in housekeeper for him. What a life....
sunflower hope you're well.

whatto, not bully, there is no relationship as icy has said, he treats his dd3 appealingly, and op just to be there for him when he's finished at ex wife's, and running about after his adult dds. She and her dd deserve so much better. He does not see what he is doing wrong, blames op. I think she knows deep down she knows this and it's more of the same if she continues with him.

This thread is depressing, it reads like certain posters trying to manipulate OP and bully her in to ending the relationship

I think you'd have to be extremely weak-headed to end a relationship with the father of your child just to please some anonymous posters on mumsnet.