To Be Upset That My Alledged Best Friend Has Invited My Ex-H Over For Sups?

[OhCallistoSolo]

Looking for some perspective here as I really don't know if I'm being unreasonable or not.

I haven't been invited by my best friend for supper (or anything else for that matter) since January. My ex-h has been invited twice that I know of, and the other couple we all see have been regular visitors. My best friend, with and without her husband, has been for sups with me countless times. Every time she comes over she tells me that she must invite me round for sups. Am I being over-sensitive to feel really upset that my ex-h gets and invite when I don't?

Yeah, it would almost drive you to drinkipoos.

Sups is annoying, on a par with reem, hubby, hubbster, bubs, hollybobs and amazeballs. I'm not really surprised posters latched on to that.

Having said that OP yanbu be sad about your friend but there's f all you can do about it.

Just say dinner op. Yes it is unusual and I would not be happy about it.

I've NOT READ ALL THE PAGES, BUT MY SIS CONSTANTLY (WELL A FEW TIMES A YEAR), CATCHES UP WITH MY EX-H ..sorry about caps....anyway my sister only remembers me as an afterthought.

Some of this is FB nonsense, both sister and ex-h are triumphant facebook addicts....look at my amazing life...constantly extolling about what they have achieved by showing up at something or another. So I think it may be due to their shared FB existence. Ex-H has ditched me from FB so I don't see his posts and am therefore not aware of the upcoming events in his life. Both he and sister would go to the opening of an envelope so I think much of their communication is triggered by this commonality.

Also it depends on who was the dumper and who was the dumpee. Some people will just love sympathising and supporting the dumpee, regardless of the reasons for the dumping.

Spag bol.

That is the ultimate

I'm not particularly busy just now as it happens.

Might go back and count again.

1. You are unreasonable for using the words "sups".
2. And please don't write 'sups' ever again!
3. Do you think you don't get invited because you say "sups"?
4. I never get invited for sups
5. Sups in my house is a bowl of shreddies. Make your own .
6. SUPS ? WTF
7. Sorry you're finding it difficult but all I can think about is what an awful word sups is.
8. What are you supping, as a matter of interest?
9. Invite her for sipsies and ask her what's up.
10. I always thought sups was slang for blow job
11. however perhaps she can't bring herself to say "sups" and that is the reason for the lack of invite.
12. Maybe ex-h is 'supping' her and that's why you're never invited. Or it could just be because of your use of sups...
13. what a horrible word when used like that.. its has its own meaning!

I lost 2

I was number 1-if you go back and read it in full you'll see my post wasn't horrible. I answered the ops question and after that said that using "sups" was unreasonable.

All this talk of sups is making me hungry...

itsmine - I think you'll find keyboard warriors to be a common usage term. And I'm not sure why you are still choosing to ignore the reason the comment was deleted...?

I wish posters weren't so keen to report and MNHQ weren't so quick to delete. Particularly since they have deleted the OP's 'vile and classist' post but let the whole thread stand. I was brung up on a council estate and I can cope.

The post was horrendous! Absolutely abhorrent.

Agreed michy. The 3 "horrible" comments I counted were stand alone comments about sups, not tempered with any other advice for the op as I said when I made my post .

I have skim read most of the pages on this thread. The op's response was long deleted when I saw it so I cant comment on it. However this thread is mn at its worst. I have been on mn for over 13 years and lately it is a place I don't recognise. It used to be wonderfully supportive but now it is a place where the majority of responses to an op asking for perspective is ripped apart by her use of one word. I mean seriously? I hope those of you who have done this are nicer in rl.

And op (IF you come back). Yanbu to feel strange at your friend doing this. Imo she probably isn't much of a friend as she has made it clear where her loyalties lie. This happens a lot after break ups. Some people surprise you for the better and some for the worst. I am sorry you have had such a hard time on here and I hope you have other rl friends who can help you get some perspective on this situation too

the OP's vile and classist deleted comment

Was that the comment that those of us ignorant of the term sups must live on sink estates, drink Special Brew and neglect our children?

Was actually is a sink estate? I was brought up on a council estate and I'm not a problem drinker with my DCs in care. And we have dinner with friends, tea with kids, and supper is cheese on toast and cocoa.

Now pass me that can, our kid, and get out of my sight

It was (rightly) deleted immediately, as were subsequent, comments that quoted it

If it was that awful then I don't think it was right to delete it and leave the thread still standing with a silly MNHQ message about peace and love or somesuch.

itsmine - the term is in the OED, so hardly the preserve of the daily mail. Please point me to where 'sups' features?

The drama !

Vile.... horrendous and abhorrent !! 💀💀💀

What did she say ? fuck off you council estate dwelling special brew drinking cunts? That's my guess