To Be Upset That My Alledged Best Friend Has Invited My Ex-H Over For Sups?

[OhCallistoSolo]

Looking for some perspective here as I really don't know if I'm being unreasonable or not.

I haven't been invited by my best friend for supper (or anything else for that matter) since January. My ex-h has been invited twice that I know of, and the other couple we all see have been regular visitors. My best friend, with and without her husband, has been for sups with me countless times. Every time she comes over she tells me that she must invite me round for sups. Am I being over-sensitive to feel really upset that my ex-h gets and invite when I don't?

On another thread someone asked about abbreviations and a poster came back to say WTF stood for "with the family"

I cannot read it another way now and it really amuses me reading the posts that include it on here

Kerfuffle is a great word, or, as I like to call it, kerfuffs.

Just laughed out loud to myself. My TA is giving me funny looks.

stopfucking you don't think the op's comment counts as bullying then? After all that was the one which was deleted.

'I wonder what the answers would be if this was the thread "My teenage DD came home from school really upset today, she made the fatal mistake of using a "family" word we use for our evening meal, not many people use it and it's a bit naff I suppose but totally inoffensive and we really only use it jokingly in our house. For hours she was subjected to taunting'

If you then revealed that the teenage DD had in fact delivered herself of a monologue in which she repeatedly used said naffism as though she were making a point of it, snapped after a few mildly teasing remarks and hurled a slew of unpleasant-class-based abuse at her classmates so that in a sense she instigated much of the subsequent unpleasantness, I suspect the response would be to accuse you of dripfeeding crucial information.

Also, I'm assuming the OP is an adult, rather than a hormonal 14 year old with poor impulse control.

It was either deleted because she asked for it or somebody else reported it. Funny how no-one has reported any of the other bullying comments.

No, Restless, MN deleted OP's post and then subsequent posts which repeated the nasty comment. No others were deleted.

The OP hasn't reported any of them. And MN have been on to comment so they are probably keeping an eye on it.

Funny how no-one has reported any of the other bullying comments

How do you know? Maybe other comments have been reported and MNHQ deemed them not in contravention of the guidelines.

I shall clarify:

Tea - a light, casual meal, usually for children eaten around 4pm in the kitchen

Supper - a casual but later meal, usually taken in the kitchen

Dinners - a more formal sit down affair, may involve multiple courses

YANBU OP, i'd be properly gutted. She's not much of a friend

I assumed sups was some sort of forrin delicacy that the OP was annoyed about missing out on Never heard of that before.

I have an acquaintance that refers to finger foods as "lifties" which mild grates on me. Eg "8pm Friday at my house for lifties and drinks"

Just to further add to the confusion my grandmother did wonderful suppers which was a large spread with cold meats, salads etc.

Was the OP's title an attempt to start a spelling bun fight, also? I note she cannot spell the word alleged - in which case, it's probably best she sticks to "sups".

Callisto, if you are still around, I appologise for not answering your question.
You most certainly are not being unreasonable. Some best friend she turned out to be.
You must be feeling slighted by their carry on.
I wouldn't push it, if I were you, just let it go, and move on to real friends, who do care.
People on here, including myself, got a bit carried away, with the word sups, because it isn't a word, that most of us are familiar with. You are not being bullied. 😂
MrsHandles, a Ram tups a ewe, she's then in tupping. Tupping Season! 😄

Most people worked out what the abbreviation meant. Took all of 2 seconds.

"poster ScrubbedPine Wed 02-Nov-16 10:28:29
I think some of the somewhat holier-than-thou posters who are piling on to shriek about bullying probably didn't witness how after only a few responses (most of which were either being amused by or mildly baffled by 'sups', as 'supper' for many people is a cup of tea and a biscuit at bedtime, which would change the context of the OP considerably), the OP made a particularly foul and foul-mouthed, classist statement based on a set of incredibly unpleasant underclass/regional stereotypes.

It was (rightly) deleted immediately, as were subsequent, comments that quoted it, but it limited people's sympathy for the OP, who defaulted pretty much immediately to privileged class prejudice sneering at those beneath her. Which to an extent rules out the possibility that she was innocently using a childish family word and being unfairly picked on."

Surely there's nothing more to say? Excellent summary ScrubbedPine

what - just background really - my relatives/parents/titles - if that is actually what makes you posh, depends how you define it really. She lives in a converted barn and thinks she's special - which is fine, she is actually lovely just a bit 'look how posh I am'. Always makes me laugh that people are taken in by certain things and the whole labelling of others based on what they portray - not sure if that makes sense.

We aren't stuffy posh people just if they knew who my relations are they would probably invite us to a dining room supper. It's complicated and silly and makes us laugh. I look like the local mad dog lady most of the time -must do better.

Just to further add to the confusion my grandmother did wonderful suppers which was a large spread with cold meats, salads etc.

I know that as a cold supper - with cold supper being slightly different to buffet which would have more dishes - cold supper would be cold cuts of meat, salad possibly pork pie and bread and butter but no desert and very probably pickled beetroot.

They are much less common than they used to be mainly as generation that did them were mainly my GP who have now mostly died.

Kokosjumping / bibbitybobbityyhat

OP got approximately 15 sneering comments before she snapped and posted whatever she said (I can pretty much guess what she said)

whilst I concede that the term bullying is dramatic and tad overused on here and maybe not the right term in this context , I stand by the fact that

-when someone asks for help and advice

• and the community ignore her request and pile in and sneer at a word

Its cuntish behaviour

you clearly thinks it OK, whatever... lets agree to disagree

stopshoutingatme

I counted 3 rather snippy comments re. use of sups without any helpful or sympathetic comment to op's plight, not 15. But ...

whatevs

Sorry, got your name slightly wrong there.

But sups is incredibly irritating, you can't use a stupid phrase like that and expect sensible responses.

It's worse than going out for "nibbles" - or "nibs" in the OPs case ...

bibbitybobbityyhat

and I counted 15!!! I even discounted a couple that were nice and referred to sups

we are busy people, so lets leave it shall we!