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Aibu? Fallen out with sister over DP

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Ilovepapaya · 30/10/2016 17:39

Nc for this....im usually in the pregnancy section so be gentle....

I've had a bit of a row with my sister today. We were at our parent's house for Sunday lunch, and I was talking about my wedding plans.

To give a bit of background - DP had split up with an on and off girlfriend of a few years when I met him. When we were together a few weeks, she revealed she was pregnant with his child. His daughter is now 2. We have her eow and for tea twice a week.....we wanted 50/50 but the ex wouldn't agree.

She is really hard work- always wanting to know what we are doing with dsd, where we have taken her. It's been hard for DP to bond with dsd at times because ex won't give him space to be a dad to her without her hovering over her shoulder.

Anyway, she won't let us keep dsd at the wedding overnight, which is potentially awkward as ex doesn't drive so how is dsd going to get back home?

My sister and parents are quite old fashioned. I was explaining the situation to them and asking their advice, and my sister said she was sick of my moaning and how negative I was over dsd. I love dsd and have been in her life from birth, obviously I was cross and things got heated. Dsis has NEVER liked DP and she made this clear

Dsis and I are not talking now. My parents are saying I should apologise but surely Dsis should be the one to apologise?

This is such a mess. My wedding is in six weeks. I am also 8 weeks pregnant and have had horrendous morning sickness and feel stressed and exhausted as it is

OP posts:
FleurThomas · 04/11/2016 23:47

A good stepmum would insist on the ex being invited if it meant her 'beloved' 2 year old DSD could come to her wedding. Appreciate that you're pregnant, but I think YABVU here.

Petal02 · 05/11/2016 08:10

Having the ex at the wedding would just be excruciating!

Aderyn2016 · 05/11/2016 08:31

I wouldn't want to invite any exw/h to my wedding and if I was the ex I wouldn't want to go.
Tbh I don't know why people are so big on wanting their children at their weddings, when they are marrying someone other than the children's parent. I hated having wedding guests - I kind of felt that they were witnessing something that should have been private, between me and dh.

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