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To drink wine in the park?

284 replies

FlapsTie · 27/10/2016 16:02

We've walked two miles to the good park. We stopped at the shop to buy the essentials (milk, water and wine). I have cups with me so the kids can have a drink. They've been in the park for an hour and we have another hour to go before DH picks us up.

Just how bad would it be to pour myself a glass of vino? I am bored shitless. Will everybody judge me and will I be an awful parent?

If it matters, the wine is still nice and cold. Although the plastic cup may mar the taste somewhat. I'm sitting outside the actual play park with the dog.

AIBU? Would you?

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PigletWasPoohsFriend · 28/10/2016 10:26

Well done Flaps Flowers

StrongTeaHotShower · 28/10/2016 10:42

Well done, try to keep the momentum going. It's so easy to let the proactive side of yourself slip if you take your eyes off the ball for a moment.
If you feel things aren't moving forward speak to someone and keep saying things out loud. Pm me if you want to talk privately.

YouTheCat · 28/10/2016 11:12

Hope you feel better about it all this morning.

It's great that you've already sought some help and that your dh is being supportive.

SaucyJack · 28/10/2016 12:24

You're doing well already.

Make sure you've got a plentiful supply of soft drinks in for this eve for if you get a craving for a drink x

Bruce02 · 28/10/2016 12:34

Well done flaps!!!! You sound so much better today!

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FlapsTie · 28/10/2016 12:34

Thank you. I'm feeling very positive. I would normally go to the shops to get milk and my prescription today, and get wine while I'm there. I've asked DH to get it on his way home so that takes the temptation away.

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AndNowItsSeven · 28/10/2016 12:35

Your dh sounds lovely. Have you tried AA? They gave daily meetings and you really do need daily support.

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FlapsTie · 28/10/2016 12:42

I went to a couple of meetings before and just didn't click with it. I'm not very good with groups of people, although I manage with therapy because it's led by three professionals so feels very safe.

I'm going to see what the service I spoke to offers, it says on their website they do one to one counselling and practical support with a care coordinator which seems a lot more 'me'. They are a mh based service.

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FlapsTie · 28/10/2016 12:43

And yes, DH is amazing. He phoned me this morning as well to make sure I knew that he wasn't cross and that he knows how hard it is but he's there to help. God knows what I've done to deserve him.

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Natsku · 28/10/2016 12:49

Oh OP I'm sorry I encouraged your drinking at the beginning of the thread. I hope your cpn and the drug and alcohol service can help you. All the best of luck to you, I think you were very brave to admit your problem here and its so nice to read all the support on this thread.

rollinghedgehog · 28/10/2016 13:11

I am sorry I suggested you have a drink. I grew up in Spain, where it is perfectly normal to enjoy a small glass of wine or a beer at any point after breakfast! However there is a big difference between a small glass of wine and over half a bottle. I am glad you have the support of your dh and are looking at getting the help you need.

summerskittles91 · 28/10/2016 13:34

Just ready your thread FlapsTie Just wanted to say I hope you're ok. Looks like you're taking all the right steps. The MN community is always here when you need a chat! Take care of yourself Flowers

hercomersthenighttime · 28/10/2016 14:08

Flowers You're sounding really motivated and your DH lovely. Wishing you strength and continued positivity. You are doing a wonderful thing for yourself and your family and you could have a really happy future to look forward to. Keep posting for support.

I am the child in your scenario, if my mum had had support and strength things could be very different for us all now, 20 years down the line.

madein1995 · 28/10/2016 14:34

Hi flaps. Well done for realising youve a problem, as a pp said theres some tgreads you could join on the relqtionships board? Am on my phone atm but will link to the brave babes bus later. Dont spend the day beating yourself up, onwards and upwards, try to not drink for the next hour? Then extend and extend until the day is over? Look after yourself, drink plenty of water, get yourself some nice soft drinks and sweets to have instead of alcohol. Is there any more drink you have, if yes can you pour it away or give away to someone? Your dh sounds really supportive 😊 well done for makibg this step. Feel free to post for support

ChampagneTastes · 28/10/2016 14:44

Have been lurking on my phone and just want to come on and say massive well done to you OP. Look how far you've come in 24 hrs! Be kind to yourself and have a lovely Friday. Sorry I don't have any useful advice but have some Flowers and do keep posting.

ItShouldHaveBeenJess · 28/10/2016 15:03

flaps My main port of call is Addaction, as I used them before. I go to the occasional AA meeting for 'back-up', as it were. You find whichever solution works best for you. There is no one size fits all regarding addiction. We are all SO on your side. Hope all goes well today.

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NoahVale · 28/10/2016 15:13

user rtft Angry

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 28/10/2016 15:14

user1477427207 are you deliberately being a twat?

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 28/10/2016 15:17

user Maybe RTFT and think before posting.

user1477427207 · 28/10/2016 15:18

oops sorry

nephrofox · 28/10/2016 15:26

Keep posting if you get tempted to pop to the shop. I guess you've got Dc today?

lynniep · 28/10/2016 15:35

God yes. I was in soft play for 5 hours. FIVE HOURS on Monday. I couldn't drink because it's half an hour away by car. But if I could have, I bloody would have...

lynniep · 28/10/2016 15:36

oh I think I've missed a significant part of this post...

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 28/10/2016 15:37

lynn read the thread, it's so much more than what the OP says.