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To drink wine in the park?

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FlapsTie · 27/10/2016 16:02

We've walked two miles to the good park. We stopped at the shop to buy the essentials (milk, water and wine). I have cups with me so the kids can have a drink. They've been in the park for an hour and we have another hour to go before DH picks us up.

Just how bad would it be to pour myself a glass of vino? I am bored shitless. Will everybody judge me and will I be an awful parent?

If it matters, the wine is still nice and cold. Although the plastic cup may mar the taste somewhat. I'm sitting outside the actual play park with the dog.

AIBU? Would you?

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PaulAnkaTheDog · 27/10/2016 20:39

Would you have drank the wine without people on here making it seem like a decent idea op?

Veggiesupremeextracheese · 27/10/2016 20:39

What have you spent money on? Are you ok? Flowers

NoahVale · 27/10/2016 20:39
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Lupinlady5 · 27/10/2016 20:39

If you can't sort yourself out for your own sake, for God's sake do so for your children.

Floggingmolly · 27/10/2016 20:39

So you basically can't be trusted with money because you'll immediately buy alcohol (and drink it outside; were you trying to hide it from your DH?)
What were you hoping for from this thread, op? It's clear that the lighthearted tone you were going for was completely inappropriate in the circumstances, and was hiding a multitude...
And your insistence that you'll ignore any posters that aren't actually cheering you on 😕

Katy07 · 27/10/2016 20:40

Alcohol and a fag in the park - yeah, real classy Hmm

Mynestisfullofempty · 27/10/2016 20:40

Many of the first posts were cheering you on, OP. Sad Sad

StrongTeaHotShower · 27/10/2016 20:40

Oh darling, I'm a raging (recovering) alcoholic. I can literally preempt any response you have as I have said them all. I used to be the only mum taking her toddler for an afternoon drink at a nice pub on a Tuesday or sipping gulping back a bottle with my non drinking flipping Muslim mum friends in our playground and it was ok because they wouldn't be drinking anyway.... Like I said up thread, it all seemed ok with kettle chips Hmm

Original poster
FlapsTie · 27/10/2016 20:41

TBH I'd already cracked the bottle before I posted. I was looking for validation.

I know I'm a mess.

OP posts:
StrongTeaHotShower · 27/10/2016 20:41

Are you ok?

Bruce02 · 27/10/2016 20:42

I really wish people would think before cheering on behaviour like this.

Why did you drink it in the park? To hide it?

How long has this been going on?

StarlingMurmuration · 27/10/2016 20:43

OP, you do need to take all the help you can to face this issue. Would you have open the bottle without the enabling at the start of this thread?

StarlingMurmuration · 27/10/2016 20:44

Cross post. I'm sorry OP. Please get help.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 27/10/2016 20:44

I think perhaps you should back away from this thread. You're going to have a lot of nasty buggers that won't help. Perhaps post a separate thread for some support? There are plenty of people who will try to help. Flowers

Mynestisfullofempty · 27/10/2016 20:44

Looking back, I've realised it was mostly MadHatters Wine Party who was cheering you on. What a coincidence.

witsender · 27/10/2016 20:44

Have you posted about compulsive behaviour before? It's ringing bells. I hope you're ok. I realised after I posted that you had mentioned him picking you up...sorry.

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FlapsTie · 27/10/2016 20:45

Not really. I'm feeling like a complete heel. The fantasy of a cheeky glass in the park was bollocks and really I just downed the bottle as fast as humanly possible, the only reason there was any left was because DH turned up. I'm letting everybody down.

I can't have money because I spend it, not just on booze but on clothes and shoes and puppies and new cars. I'm seriously not to be trusted with the finances.

DH is sad and cross, the kids are confused and I'm feeling like they'd all be better off without me. DH is following me around the house so I don't self harm ffs. What a fucking car crash.

OP posts:
Maraschinocherry · 27/10/2016 20:45

very brave to admit you have a problem, very best of luck.

StrongTeaHotShower · 27/10/2016 20:45

Echoing Paul don't get a pasting. If you start a new support thread we'll be there for you Brew

myownprivateidaho · 27/10/2016 20:46

Yeah this thread is depressing. All this "have a glass of wine tee hee" that women do is twee enough in general but it can just normalise substance abuse. Most people telling the OP that this is fine would not even dream of cracking open a bottle of wine in a park on their own with their kids on a weekday afternoon in October and then finishing it off by themselves before dinner. So don't act like this behaviour is normal, it really isn't. Seek help, OP.

Original poster
FlapsTie · 27/10/2016 20:46

It wasn't to hide it, I'd have made an excuse for buying it and drunk it this evening. I drank it this afternoon because I could.

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GwendolineLacey · 27/10/2016 20:46

You absolutely set yourself up to be in a position where you could drink a bottle of wine tonight, it wasn't an accident you ended up with a cold bottle of wine and a cup with your kids occupied and your husband elsewhere. Doesn't matter if it would be ok for someone else to drink wine in the park, you're an alcoholic, it's not ok for you. Never will be, no matter how much you try to set up your story of it just being a fun accident that you ended up trashed. That much is clear from all of your frantic threads about your husband being too much of a controlling killjoy to drink with you or let you drink.

gillybeanz · 27/10/2016 20:47

You can't drink alcohol in our park as it's situated in the TC and there is an alcohol ban in town.
I think this will be conveniently dropped when the town has it's new revamp of restaurants and entertainment venues.

Lupinlady5 · 27/10/2016 20:47

They wouldn't be better off without you. Their lives would be ruined. They need a mother they can depend on, and that can be you.

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