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To drink wine in the park?

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FlapsTie · 27/10/2016 16:02

We've walked two miles to the good park. We stopped at the shop to buy the essentials (milk, water and wine). I have cups with me so the kids can have a drink. They've been in the park for an hour and we have another hour to go before DH picks us up.

Just how bad would it be to pour myself a glass of vino? I am bored shitless. Will everybody judge me and will I be an awful parent?

If it matters, the wine is still nice and cold. Although the plastic cup may mar the taste somewhat. I'm sitting outside the actual play park with the dog.

AIBU? Would you?

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Bruce02 · 27/10/2016 20:12

It ways amazes me how people on here react to drinking when it's women and wine.

I am pretty sure if a woman posted that her dh took the kids to the park and down a four pack of beer whilst watching them, people would tell her to ltb.

MaisieDotes · 27/10/2016 20:13

I wouldn't have judged but I would feel sorry for you.

You sound a bit lonely. Wine in the park on your tobler. It's a bit sad.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 27/10/2016 20:16

I said at 16.05 that it's something I wouldn't do and I love any excuse to have a drink.

Sitting in the park drinking alone out of a plastic cup on a cold, Autumn afternoon watching the kids play, to alleviate boredom, is not good.

Lupinlady5 · 27/10/2016 20:19

Sounds like alcoholism to me.

Why do people normalise alcohol
dependency? Why?

OnwardsAndUpwardsYo · 27/10/2016 20:20

It's illegal to drink alcohol outside in Scotland, really? I didn't know that. What about the fantastic NYE celebrations, or festivals? Or even street fairs/parties?

Nope, wouldn't drink alcohol whilst alone with the children. I'd have a flask of hot water and a little tub of coffee or tea. What if there was an emergency?

JustCallMeKate · 27/10/2016 20:21

We stopped at the shop to buy the essentials (milk, water and wine).

Jane there's one thing buying it, I just don't see it as an essential item. Drinking it in a park out of boredom is a whole different issue.

This is a very sad thread.

bloodyteenagers · 27/10/2016 20:24

On your own? No. with others an part of a picnic/BBQ thing of course why not.

Wine bought as part as an essential? I enjoy wine with the best of them. I've been known to organise last minute meets in the pub or at home. But as part of an essential? No. Sorry.

JustCallMeKate · 27/10/2016 20:24

It's illegal to drink alcohol outside in Scotland, really? I didn't know that. What about the fantastic NYE celebrations, or festivals? Or even street fairs/parties?

Yes, it's illegal in public places, i.e. parks, streets etc. I think licences have to be applied for and are granted for festivals and things like that.

StarlingMurmuration · 27/10/2016 20:25

I'm so glad some of the later posters think this is a terrible idea. I would be worried about my dependency on alcohol if I felt it necessary (or even desirable) to neck half a bottle of wine out of a plastic cup while sitting on my own in a park on a cold autumn afternoon. And if DP did it while in charge of DC, I'd be seriously unimpressed.

witsender · 27/10/2016 20:27

I'd be worried about walking 2 miles with small kids after nigh on a bottle of wine tbh.

Hobbes8 · 27/10/2016 20:29

It's a fine line I think. I went to a lovely picnic in the park with the kids and parents from my sons class in the summer. Someone offered me a glass of wine: lovely. My 2 year old wandered off towards the swings and I ran after her clutching my wine. Once I was about a hundred metres from the other picnickers: wino.

Mynestisfullofempty · 27/10/2016 20:31

witsender "I'd be worried about walking 2 miles with small kids after nigh on a bottle of wine tbh."

Her husband picked them up in the car.

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FlapsTie · 27/10/2016 20:31

We didn't walk home, I already said DH picked us up.

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StarlingMurmuration · 27/10/2016 20:32

I think there's a huge difference between having a glass of wine at a summer park bbq, surrounded by friends, and having a plastic tumbler of wine on your own and in sole charge of children.

Mynestisfullofempty · 27/10/2016 20:33

What did your husband think about you downing a bottle of wine by 6.30, most of it in the park?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 27/10/2016 20:33

That's the only thing you picked up on op?!

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FlapsTie · 27/10/2016 20:34

Yes. I'm ignoring the rest.

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FlapsTie · 27/10/2016 20:35

DH rolled his eyes at me and we had a frosty silence over dinner. He's already got my bank cards and now I've deleted Apple Pay off my phone.

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Floggingmolly · 27/10/2016 20:35

Well, that reply says it all, op Hmm

Bruce02 · 27/10/2016 20:36

So you do have a drink problem?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 27/10/2016 20:36

Why? Is there maybe some truth to it? Perhaps you should pay attention, people are voicing their concern.

SaucyJack · 27/10/2016 20:36

"Why do people normalise alcohol
dependency? Why?"

Because lots of us drink more than we should, and if we all stick together and maintain the party line that drinking too much is witty and clever then we can all get pissed all day everyday with a clear conscience.

Everyone else is doing it, after all.

I love drinking meself. I'd love to sit in the park with a can of Strongbow (and there have been plenty of times in my life when I've done similar).

It's not right though. I'd go so far as to say it was actually wrong.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 27/10/2016 20:37

Ah ok. Your post explains a lot.

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FlapsTie · 27/10/2016 20:37

I think it's quite clear I do. My imagined chilled out glass of wine in the park turned into most of the bottle and DH despairing because I've spent money I shouldn't have.

I'm speaking to my cpn tomorrow. This is far from the first time. I'm nowhere near pissed by the way.

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StillStayingClassySanDiego · 27/10/2016 20:38

You posted about wanting to booze in the park alone, you've had honest but not brutal responses.

I hope you're ok OP

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