My DH's SN have prevented me from helping a woman in need

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Trying to cut it short - acquaintance I first met 12 years ago, she moved away, lost contact, met her in the street a wee while ago, gave her my number etc....

Her life is a mess. Too much detail would be identifying, but essentially it's a mess, mostly not of her doing....

She phoned tonight when I was dropping my youngest at an activity - she needed a place to stay tonight until she can get to the council offices first thing tomorrow.

I feel so upset as I had to turn her down. My DH is autistic and has social phobia - he simply couldn't have coped if I had brought a stranger home to stay overnight no matter how in need she was.

I had to turn her down - she was in tears and obviously desperate for a place to spend the night. I offered her sleeping bag/air bed etc if she can find somewhere to go but I feel helpless as I couldn't help her.

My DH is supposed to be away with work this week and if he had been away she could have come, but as he is here I honestly had no choice.

I don't have the money to pay for her to have a night in a b&b or anything, and she clearly doesn't have the money either.

Hi Statistically,
A lot of what we do requires taking the temperature of the thread, to be honest. You can see from this thread that we aren't deleting it as a matter of course, but we won't rule out deleting it again if it comes up on another thread. Sorry not to be more explicit, but we try to take things on their merits.

And I will state now, that my constant replying on this is part of my aspergers.

Mine too, Popfizz. I hate being misunderstood/misinterpreted, and feel the need to clarify/explain ad infinitum, and try to be as precise as possible with my language. It's not healthy for me at the moment; I should have just accepted being deleted and not reacted.

I don't regret what I said, at all, and I still can't fucking believe that MNHQ (and other posters, clearly), think that autist is an offensive word. But this is good, in a way; it's the final straw in a bundle of sticks that have repulsed me from MN over the last year or two. I've had enough. I'm going to stick to more aspie/auti-friendly places. Humans never cease to amaze me (and not normally in a good way), and MN was a good place to 'people watch', but I don't like what I'm seeing here, most of the time. I'm going to deregister my account.

Interesting. What are these autism friendly places of which you speak?

I've PMed you, help.

Please don't do anything in anger, Papaver. We can continue to talk about this tomorrow by all means; we can see your point and nevertheless have to take a broader view in deleting. (As to your more recent posts, we'll delete the more swearie of the two but just because you told someone else to fuck off, not because you told us to.)

Thank you Helen, that's a really kind message. I've already deregistered, though; did so last night and just waiting for that to be actioned (and meanwhile still checking MN... ).

I don't mind the last deletion - that was thoroughly deserved.