a single bed isn't okay for 6ft3 16 year old?

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Had an awful row with XH and wanting to check who was BU.

DS, 16 soon to be 17, has told me he doesn't want to go stay at his dads this weekend as he is "being a dick" about his bed. Apparently he only has a single bed and will not buy him a double despite finding the single uncomfortable as he is 6ft3.

I asked DS to find a decent priced bed he likes so it would make talking to his dad about it easier. He found a bed similar to what he has here for £99. I phoned up XH and told him what DS had said and offered to give some of (or all) the money towards a new bed. Nope, he says that isn't happening. His reason for not getting a new bed isn't because he doesn't have the money for it but because him having a single bed stops his girlfriend from sleeping over.

Surely people can't actually think that? When his girlfriend first started staying a few months back DS only had a single for the first few weeks so they grabbed all the spare blankets and pillows and just made a den for them to sleep in.

DS and his girlfriend are both very respectful so if XH said no to her staying over it wouldn't happen.

I just don't think DS being uncomfortable is okay just because XH doesn't want a girl over. AIBU to say it's fine for him to not staying over anymore even though it's going to piss XH and his family off?

What gets me is the way that no one in the bed industry is noticing people are getting taller.

bedrooms are also not getting bigger to accomodate longer beds...

You can get 3/4 sized beds which are halfway between a single and a double. My giant brother had one from early teens in a room that wouldn't have accommodated a double well. I spent my teens silently lamenting that I hadn't asked for one too when new beds were bought just before I turned 13. I'm not giant, I just thought it would be more comfortable once my bed needed to accommodate two!
I also had ridiculously slim single beds at uni - dp and I bought a blow up mattress as he lived in my hometown and used to travel down for long weekends.

6'3 ds aged 22 managed in a single bed so far he moved out last month and is still sleeping in single bed.

PinkSwim

Indeed it is going the opposite direction as housing pressure forces (or encourages, I am not sure which) builders to try and squeeze more bedrooms into less and less space. I understand the UK has the most cramped housing in the entire of Europe

I know loads of teenagers. They have single beds, and the majority have bunkbeds, so one teen has the top bed, the other the lower bed. There isn't room for doubles. One I can think of has some pallet thing that the parents have constructed above a doorway in one bedroom because they are that short of space. Looks quite dangerous to me, but there you are. The only teens I "know" of having doubles are on US TV shows, where the rooms often look massive. My cousin's teen children, both girls, have a double, but they share that together, they don't even get a bed each. My sister's teen children have singles, though they have space for a double, because there needs to be room for a drum kit and such paraphernalia.

Well we don't..can't see it ever changing either.

It's not about not having enough room or any money, it's his dad being a stubborn a-hole.

And to all those saying that you wee fine in a single until you left home, you aren't home OPs son. He I obviously isn't fine or he wouldn't be askin for a bigger bed!

My dh was 6"3 at 18 and still slept in a bunk bed!

Nobody has suggested he can't manage in a single! A double would be more comfortable for lots of reasons (and I bet all those expressing disbelief at his outrageous desire for one know that really) and he's prepared to lay for it - so why can't he have one.
For the record, my DD is in her final year at University and has only ever had a double.

Same situation - DS1 is same height and roughly the same age. He shares room with DS2 - no room for two single beds. Went onto Amazon and bought two 6'6" singles instead - company will make to order any length to 7ft. Got fitted sheets from ebay. All sorted. Two narrow for two but long enough for DSs to stretch out. Very comfortable too! Cost included premium mattresses, one was a storage bed and one has a pullout underneath in case needed. Total cost about 400.

I don't see the issue of having a single bed. If he wants a double, he should pay for it himself.

If his father insisted on having a head and foot board on the bed, it would be a different matter...

DS1, 6'3, slept in a single bed until he left home and got married at 27.

So, the ins and outs of the bed issue aside, your AIBU is are you BU to tell your DS it's fine for him not to go to his Dad's this weekend? Well, he is almost 17 and well capable of voting with his feet. I think you should just tell him it's his decision and, if your ex gets pissed off with you, tell him it's between him and your DS, who is almost an adult.

I don't see the issue of having a single bed.

The issue is it's uncomfortable.

If he wants a double, he should pay for it himself.

Why should a 16 year old have to buy his own bed? But he did say he'd buy it himself and his dad still said no.

Have you even RTFT?

Yes, this is what I was thinking. At uni 5'10 and a half me managed to share a single with 6'5 boyfriend....

Sorry, that was meant to quote the post about him having a single bed at uni