Or are my neighbours complete IDIOTS 😂

[Lilianna123]

Another neighbourly dispute, same neighbours that claimed our cat was teasing their dog, and the same neighbours who accused us of stealing blackberries off their bush that happened to grow over my fence.

Well if I hadn't thought they were ridiculous before, I definitely do now.

Woke up this morning to find a note through the door saying they have had a new piano delivered and due to space they were limited on places it could go indoors (not our problem) they are saying where they have placed it is under a window and their view from the piano is a large oak tree which is in our garden. Their problem is that they are saying the many birds nests that are in this tree are distracting and these wild birds are making too much noise therefore distracting them from the piano.

There isn't even a suggestion in the note of what they'd like us to do about it. Not that I would even consider taking any action towards the tree but FFS what on earth are they doing? They don't have a bloody leg to stand on??

I said she's always welcome for a chat and a cuppa.

You're a very good person, OP I'd tell them both to sort it or sling it

Glad there's another neighbour 'on side'. I agree with Persicacia above about your next steps.

Has he missed out a bit of crucial information that prevents him moving from room to room to avoid seeing shiny things, tweety things, boingy things and other annoyances?

Like, does Jane in fact rope him to a chair for hours in order to have a life I would?

Ok so he is bored as he has lost all his power. It does need pointing out to him that he is verging on harrassment and he needs to wind his neck in

OP, you sound like a lovely neighbour. I do feel sorry for his poor wife, stuck in the middle like that.

Maybe there's a consultancy post, or a charitable organisation he could get into to fill his time?

Maybe take up curtain making as a hobby?

she did admit Andy said he is finding it hard being at home and struggling to adjust going from a high powered job to life at home.

Could he be persuaded to put his energy into some charitable work or something?

Maybe there's a consultancy post, or a charitable organisation he could get into to fill his time?

OMG, I hope he isn't near where I live! This is exactly the type I hate on charity/voluntary committees, he'd try to take it over. I'm on two committees and I've had this before, where a person tried to run it their way and ignored any/all voting, etc.

RSPB?

Andy needs a hobby (a non piano, out-of-the-house hobby)

Joffrey

RSPB, yes!

I wouldn't go to a solicitor at the moment. He sounds the sort who will then spend all his time researching the law as he has nothing else to do. He'll then write extremely long letters explaining what he thinks the law is to your solicitor that will then require a response from you so you'll end up spending more money.

I'd be inclined to talk to him and say no you're not moving the trampoline or cutting down the tree and put the ball in his court if he wants to take legal action.

I agree with Perspicacia - if you're certain it's not linked to mental health problems then he's only doing it to bully you which means you have to show you can't be pushed around. I'd be tempted to drop the word harassment into conversation next time he bothers you.

He needs a Golf club to join so he can begone for hours several times a week.

Someone who has had a senior position in the city and been used to shouting "jump" and expecting a "how high" response probably has no perception of the real world around him. I work on a daily basis with some military personnel, (not all, many are fabulous) but the number of them that request something that is neither physically possible, not in within our contractual obligations, or financially viable is incredible. They actually just think that by shouting louder means you will actually do as you are told. They don't understand "no" or "unreasonable".

I think Andy is similar.

I love this thread and all the humourous replies. But I can imagine he is bloody hard work. The request made by Andy to both the OP and neighbour to the other side are completely bonkers and there is no chance of him gettin any sort of authority to back up his demands. Personally, I log and keep his notes and just ignore him. There is nout he can do. I would not engage with him or give him any attention. He has no power or influence on anyone in his private life. That's his problem. Don't engage the crazy....

I'm both happy that I can enjoy more Andy nonsense and sad for you

I would go over to Andy with your husband and other neighbours and say clearly that what you do on your OWN property is your OWN business and that if he doesn't stop with the notes you will report him for harassment.
Keep a calm and united front and hopefully he will get the message!
Or as a pp suggested keep a diary of everything and write a bestseller!

I saw this thread when you first posted OP. I can't believe how crazy it has got. He is harassing you now.
I hope you and the neighbour are keeping diaries with the notes, with time and dates.
Andy sounds like a complete pain in the arse. I bet he was a nightmare to work with. Poor Jane.

Andy needs a hobby! I don't know whether I'd laugh or cry with these notes and requests, you sound so patient OP

Jane may be in denial. This is your first approach to her, and although you seem kind now, she may be afraid you will throw any admissions (by her) in his face during an argument. However, if you keep keeping your temper with her (despite being very firm with him), she may open up to you in time. That's the human and also the sensible thing to do (because escalatig this needlessly would drag you into Andy's flaming temper tantrum!)

Jane really needs to woman up and point out to Andy that when two neighbours have reached the point of asking about his mental health it is time he accepted that he cannot control how other people live their lives or use their property, and he needs to find something sensible to do with his time.

I can't decide if it's all hilarious or horrendous - while it's mostly notes (which can be kept in case of future issues) I guess you can try and laugh at the absurdity. My parents had a few years of unpleasantness with a neighbour (including court) which started in the same way, though.
I feel sorry for Jane but think she needs to speak up and tell Andy that he is making life unpleasant for everyone, including her.

Hmm. I was going to suggest that maybe Jane or Andy are secret Mumsnetters having a laugh! But given the latest update, I feel sorry for Jane

At least you have a fellow sufferer to compare notes with now.

I think Jane's in denial. There's got to be more to it than just being a bit bored! I'm glad you've got your other neighbour for support.