Or are my neighbours complete IDIOTS 😂

[Lilianna123]

Another neighbourly dispute, same neighbours that claimed our cat was teasing their dog, and the same neighbours who accused us of stealing blackberries off their bush that happened to grow over my fence.

Well if I hadn't thought they were ridiculous before, I definitely do now.

Woke up this morning to find a note through the door saying they have had a new piano delivered and due to space they were limited on places it could go indoors (not our problem) they are saying where they have placed it is under a window and their view from the piano is a large oak tree which is in our garden. Their problem is that they are saying the many birds nests that are in this tree are distracting and these wild birds are making too much noise therefore distracting them from the piano.

There isn't even a suggestion in the note of what they'd like us to do about it. Not that I would even consider taking any action towards the tree but FFS what on earth are they doing? They don't have a bloody leg to stand on??

He must have been mithering about it while on his holiday and has built himself up into such a frenzy that he just had to get it off his chest the second he got home.
Its interesting, and good in a way, that the neighbour the other side is getting similiarly stupid notes.
I have a neighbour across the way whose living room window when open during the summer reflects a blinding glare right into my kitchen. Do you know what I've done about it? I've closed my blind by an inch! FFS Andy needs to really get a hobby, or a part time job, do some volunteering or something, as he sounds bored. And bored is causing you trouble.
Get together with this other neighbour and see what else he has said to her.

Then both of you go out onto your trampoline, when you know he is in, dressed as birds if you like, and bounce away MWAHAHA

I feel so sorry for Andy's wife. I don't think this is just a self-important guy with too much time in his hands. The more updates there are, the more I suspect he's properly mentally ill.

Sorry I don't know what your next move should be, but I think it's highly unlikely being logical or reasonable in response will have much effect.

SS will do bugger all. Our neighbours' insane behaviours - dog-kicking, making a giant garden feature from a pile of shitty nappies that a swarm of rats ran out of when the workmen in my garden were building a 6 foot fence and disturbed the lovely garden feature, etc etc - total signs of crazy, both him and her - SS and police all aware, and all did nothing. And this is a couple with a 4 and 5 year old left alone with them...

I doubt SS would even bother to pay a house call, when they do little about people with strange behaviours that have the care of young kids. Unless they're particularly useless in my area, which is a possibility.

Am afraid "care in the community" means leaving people to psis off their saner neighbours, report it a bit, get ignored a lot, repeat and rinse.

OP you have made my day with the Andy update! I am all for the idea of trampolining in a chicken suit, although we will obviously need a video or it didnt happen

In all seriousness though, you must consider a harrassment report to the police, we had to do the same with a totally nutty neighbour and it worked a treat. Having said that, on a totally selfish note, I would miss the updates so can I kindly ask that you hold off until all this election crap is over, as this is a very welcome distraction!

Just read the whole thread.
Andy sounds like many high flyers that cant adjust to retirement.
Many men leave city jobs and their brains go to mush LOL
I would just ignore but say to Jane its not personal to her but you expect this nonsense to stop now as you expect quiet enjoyment of your home.
BTW I have been to Boro Boro and it was full of rich fat bald headed Americans.
If he rent a posh boat I would be surprised as they were extortionate but our hotel had rowing boats to take out to the reef.I Bet that's what he was referring too

Bloody Hell! I don't think there can be much doubt now that there is something very wrong with Andy! The piano thing was entitled in the extreme but not beyond the bounds of what some nutters will think is acceptable but the trampoline and the car!! Has anyone had a chat with Jane since they got back? She must know about all the notes he is sending and might be struggling to cope with him.

I think that you and nice neighbour need to ask Andy's wife round for coffee and tell her you are really worried about his behaviour. Because either he needs to see his GP (or she at least needs to reassure you that nutty notes can be safely ignored), or the neighbours need to talk to a solicitor about a "back off" letter.

Wow. He's not well, is he?

This is escalating quite quickly. It's entertaining, but, also, jeezo.

I think that you and nice neighbour need to ask Andy's wife round for coffee and tell her you are really worried about his behaviour. Because either he needs to see his GP (or she at least needs to reassure you that nutty notes can be safely ignored), or the neighbours need to talk to a solicitor about a "back off" letter.

Well put Perspicacia it's exactly what I was thinking.

Poor Jane may be keeping her head down out of loyalty to Mad Andy, but she may also be a bit scared of his behaviour. I wonder if he is vile to her behind closed doors.

Meanwhile, I think you should just ignore the notes. His requests are so bizarre and unreasonable. However do keep a log of events and communications, for the doctor /solicitor etc.

Best thread ever. Andy needs to find a job. Pity the underlings though.., Bet he was an awful boss and his company paid him off to get rid of him.

Chicken suit on the trampoline - hilarious!

The thread can double as your stalking / harassment notes... :)

You and the neighbours really need to report this to the police together. You can say how worried you are about his mental health and how his wife is possibly coping.

It is harrassment, and you need it recorded. They are also able to put in reports to adult social services if they feel it's appropriate, but they can only do that if they meet him themselves, which they'll only do if you report this.

But I'd still start with a first intervention myself, to show you've asked him to stop writing to you all.

At least you know it's not just you having problems with him

Oh Lordy-lou this guy is priceless. I have been following your tale - I asphyxiated with laughter reading the post about your cat winding his dog up out loud to dh.

He is quite bizarre...I don't know who you'd speak to about him though. I would imagine it's a simple case of saying, "I don't want to be rude to you Andy but you're being farcical. Please stop bothering me with nonsense."

Rinse and repeat. If he gets lairy you contact the police.

"Poor Jane may be keeping her head down out of loyalty to Mad Andy, but she may also be a bit scared of his behaviour. I wonder if he is vile to her behind closed doors."

It's a good point...I hope it's not true. Maybe asking Mrs Andy in a diplomatic, concerned way is the way forward.

I'd be inclined to chase Andy off and give him no reward for his behaviour but now I am worried for Mrs. If he's as petty as that out in the open, what must he be like to live with?

I think having the wife over for a coffee and then if it's clear there's a problem, you may indeed want to take legal steps, but remember you will have to declare this if you sell the house.

Personally speaking I would probably try being nice and then if that didn't work, engineer a loud 'Who the hell do you think you are?' collective multi-person face-off as most bullies simply melt when you do things like this. if he doesn't, then he really does have a problem.

I agree with trying to sound the wife out, if he is ill, or not (especially if not), I think you have real problems heading your way.

Sounds like dementia to me. My Dad was a bit like this at the start. He would get very angry about where neighbours parked and used to hammer on their doors and shout at them. My Mum was very embarrassed at the time but let him get on with it as she had to put up with his ranting and raving all the time and he was totally irrational when she tried to discuss it with him. It's only now (a year or two later) that she's thinking that it was part of his illness.

You could try talking to Jane about it, try pointing out that his behaviour is getting increasingly irrational and you're worried about them. Not sure how far you'd get as it's not something that's likely to go down well no matter how diplomatic you are. In the long run it may help Jane view his behaviour differently and prompt a trip to the GP.

Andy needs to buy some blinds and learn how to use them. That would solve all his problems.

Otherwise it's curtains for him.

Ok have waited for Andy to go out before I went round there and I asked Jane if everything was OK. She said they are fine but she did admit Andy said he is finding it hard being at home and struggling to adjust going from a high powered job to life at home.

She said she thinks he is bored, therefore nit picking over small issues. She said she is a little embarrassed but everytime she mentions it he gets upset that she doesn't see his point so she just leaves him to his own accord.

I said she's always welcome for a chat and a cuppa. I definitely do not think this is mental illness or Alzheimer's it's just a man who's gone from having a lot of power to hardly anything

I'm glad his wife doesn't seem too upset by it but I really don't see how his actions can be those of a person who is functioning well mentally. A bored, newly retired person might get annoyed by petty things but putting notes through neighbours' doors is not a normal reaction. Poor him, poor her, and poor you and your neighbours. I hope this doesn't get worse or weirder for you all.

It's sad that she's struggling to stand up to him but that doesn't mean she can inflict him on the neighbours!!

He needs telling that his demands are unreasonable and that is best coming from someone he trusts like his wife.

Thats what I suspected. Boredom. Idle hands and all that. Poor Jane :( She must despair of his rants about petty issues. Its good you can talk to her, and having another neighbour to back up what is happening to you.
I think CAB is next step to see what they suggest. A friendly chat with the police to see where you stand, and what they suggest might help too.

that doesn't mean she can inflict him on the neighbours!!

She isn't.

He is.

So he is bored and is redirecting his thwarted power-trips onto his neighbours.

I would give Jane a day or so to tell him the neighbours are getting really upset and see if there is another note, then I would tell them (face to face or via a note) that his behaviour is harassing and intolerable and you will be taking steps against him. At the moment he thinks you are weak and that throwing his imagined authority and weight about will get him what it wants...he needs to understand that you aren't going to be a pushover.