Inappropriate tv at Inlaws

[Zippyette]

Whilst I was at in laws on Sunday a dead body was on the TV screen whilst my FIL watched beregerac. I said at the time it wasnt appropriate for my 3 yo daughter but FIL just responded by saying 'she doesn't look very well' to his granddaughter. I was fuming so we left soon after.
I've said to my husband that we should say something to his parents before we visit next time such as ' can you make sure you're not watching an adult programme next time we visit?' (Or something similar -ideas?!) But he thinks we should ask them to turn the telly off or over if it happens again as he doesn't want to upset them. I'm saying I'm being proactive as they're still going to get upset and feel he's putting his parents feelings before our need to protect our child. He disagrees.

So now I gave two choices - either phone them up and say something - potentially upsetting them (which I've already done when I turned the telly over to cbbc bedtime when we were visiting over the summer as it was near bedtime and I wanted something calming) or go along with my husband.
What would you do?

Good job that the magic roundabout isn't on anymore.

What about Kodak. Who loves ya baybee. Boak.

You probably mean Kojak, Buttered

As for Bergerac being inappropriate. Surely OP can't be serious?

Oh I love Bergerac!

Now what's the opinion on the children watching good old david attenbrough and his lovely nature documentaries?

They always seem harmless enough until they either start shagging or chasing down and eating the poor little zebra...

Alias Smith and Jones! Ben Murphy, swoon....

Ooh - I loved Alias Smith & Jones (they have reruns sometimes on one of the Sky channels, can't remember which one though).

Van der Valk anyone?

i read the title and thought they were watching porn or something really graphic like Game of Thrones lol.

Calm down, I think you're overreacting a bit.

I'll see your Hawaii five o and raise you magnum PI

"a dead body was on the TV screen whilst my FIL watched beregerac"

Was Charlie Hungerford somehow involved?

Forget mils from hell it seems there are also dils from hell!

Are we allowed duos?
I raise you Dempsey and Makepeace.

I had a signed photo of Robert Warner

Wagner!

OP I would seriously file this under PFB behaviour and move on. There's much more to get riled about in life.

However, if you're serious then you should examine everything your child watches. Just because it is children's television does not make it suitable. If you examine the themes in just about all children's programmes you will find something in there you will not find appropriate for them. I would suggest a blanket ban on all TV. Same goes for books. Lots of children's books examine quite adult themes once you look past the simplified language used.

Your choices are to either accept your child will learn about these things and have ready an age appropriate response to allay any fears or questions. Or ban all tv, film and literature until a set age.
If you choose the latter it will impact on socialisations as you can't expect others to adhere to your rules on this so it would be better not to attend anything where they might come into contact with material you do not wish them to. This, you will find very restricting on your own social life and may impact on your childs early social development. If you are serious it is a small price to pay for bringing your child up in the environment you wish to, you have to control that environment in the extreme.

However, it is a losing battle and the older they get, the harder their environment will become to control and you may find this approach has left them lacking in vital skills needed to interact and cope effectively with the world around them.

Ask yourself do you really want to pour all your efforts into this?

Coraline and other 'children's' films are more likely to traumatise a child than Bergerac. My 5yo ds has always loved Coraline, but hasn't seen Bergerac. He was much more traumatised by the death of his hamster at 3yo - until then he had no idea of the meaning of death. I can't imagine Bergerac is particularly gory is it?

Anyway, I'm off to put Bergerac on series link. He'll love it I'm sure.

I didn't know the chap who played Bodie, died. I'm still getting over Morse...

Yes, good point FrancisCrawford. It was apparently OK to be distraught and sobbing at Lassie films, [SKIPPY! sorry - got distracted there - skippy the bush kangaroo la la la la] and other animals who made it through, but to be mortally offended by other, less realistic programmes...

Tbh, at 3, I doubt very much the OPs DC was aware at all of what was on the tv. If it's not something that appeals directly - ie Teletubbies - they just tend to ignore.

'She doesn't look very well'

Oh I am enjoying this thread:

'She doesn't look very well'
'Kodak who loves ya baby'
'proper poorly'

all round.

DD couldn't cope with Scooby Doo ghosts. We had to ban it for a while.

Despite people saying it's being 'precious', there's nothing wrong with wanting to shelter very young children/toddlers from upsetting things

I know Bergerac is dated and not that good, but I don't think its particularly upsetting to toddlers.

OP, you're being silly.