I feel sick reading this thread.
At 18 having been trafficked across Europe, friends and family dead or injured. Home destroyed, country ravaged to be met by "well you don't look 18 to me".
Most of these children do look older to a western eye, they are not. Many suffer from PTSD and are deeply, deeply traumatised.
Perhaps if you had to help a crying boy/man to attempt to contact his probably dead family you wouldn't rush in with your YANBUs.
The women are not there because families think they are safer being bombed than trafficked into prostitution.